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Why won't he fit all the way in?

Soo me and my somewhat bf and i had sex for the first time yesterday. It felt good an all for him but for me only just a little bit. he fingered me beforehand so i was all ready and relaxed for him. then he started to put it in and he could only fit about 5 to 5 1/2 inches in. and he's a pretty good 7 1/2 to 8 guy, which is awesome. so i thought i could take him all in but turns out i can't . the problem was that he couldnt fit all the way in, he felt something stopping him like a thick fricken wall. I don't know what it was cuz i thought i was ready and pretty wet for him to just slide in me but i guess i wasn't? I don't know. anyways we tried all different types of positions and it still wouldn't fit all in. i read somewhere that an average girl can take about 6-8 inches in. and I don't know why i can't take it. I don't know what that wall is. i know he must of broken the hymen thing that all girls have the last time he fingered my like crazy cuz i bled after that. so I don't know what this other wall is. when he was pushing it in further and further it started to hurt worse and worse each time so he had to stop so many times which is soooo frustrating for both him and i. when he was pushing it as far as he could all the way to that weird wall thing i felt like he was going in my stomach. maybe i was just a bit nervous and wasn't relaxed Alll the way or I don't know maybe i was freaking out or something. but all i know is that it frustrated me and him. we kept going at it for like an hour or so but my insides wouldn't budge. is it possible that i really Am that small? as in length wise? is it possible that i can only take in 5 1/2 MAYBE 6 inches as my max? cuz that would be so horrible. i want to please him and i want to be pleased as well while having it but I don't know what that thing is thats stopping him from fitting all the way in. if anyone knows. PLEASE tell me. im just soo frustrated right now and so lost. thank you in advance
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  • First off congrats on your guy! Second most women about 73% have a uterus that is 6.5 inches in length. So anything longer than that will not fit no matter how aroused you are. Best solution is taking it slow so you do not damage your uterus- damage to your uterus can lead to you having complications if you ever want to have children. Also take this into consideration you were a virgin and that was the first time with penal penetration so your body has to get used to having a penis inside of your vagina. Don't fret if it take some time to allow yourself to completely relax- it's not the end of the world if you can't take all 8 inches- he should be grateful for you giving your virginity to him.

    • The penis enters the vagina during intercourse, not the uterus and most vaginas can stretch to eight inches.

    • As I'm the one studying to be a gynecologist I think I would know a little better than you- here's an article word for word from one of my textbooks.Sometimes during penetration, a penis or other object inserted in a vagina does hit the cervix. This may be an indication that the woman is not physiologically aroused enough; when she is more aroused, her vagina will elongate and her cervix, the neck of the uterus, will lift up and move out of the way. Other times, contact with the cervix can happen if a penis is larger than average or if the thrusting is too deep. Communicating with a partner about the discomfort — "Ouch, that's a little too deep" — and changing sexual positions may be helpful.

    • Yeah I don't know where i read it but i know a woman's vagina stretches. i think i needed to think less and enjoy him more than think about the struggle we were in. cuz i think that's what made it so difficult.

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  • When a woman is aroused..her vagina elongates. Make sure you are as aroused as you can be. I have been with a guy who is 8 inches and I could take him all. Although when we did it doggie...I could feel a little pain. I think he was hitting my cervix then. But it wasn't uncomfortable enough to stop.

  • I could be wrong but it sounds like he might've been hitting your cervix, and being able to fit 5 1/2 to 6 is already pretty good, where did you read that the average was 6-8 by the way ?

    • I don't remember. I researched a lot after my first time. so i read a lot of questions and articles.

    • No. Your psuedo b/f is above average.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Maybe with practice and time you'll be able to take him all the way in.

    But even if you can't You're both getting enough inside of you for pleasure.
    It's only about the first 2-3 inches of the penis that gives the most pleasure to a guy. And is the part that creates the orgasm. Sure we can feel you wrapped around the rest of the shaft, but it really doesn't do much pleasure wise.

    I have heard that it is basically the same for women. The first 2-3 inches of the vagina are the most pleasurable for her.

    Relax and don't think about it. Just go with it. There is more than enough for you both to have a great time.

    • agree with this.and the standard depth of a women are 4-(5)6ish inch.

  • It's possible, but my guess is he was hitting your cervix. If you try from a different angle, he might be able to go deeper.

    Also simply the time of the month can change your cervix position, and how aroused you are can cause it to move too.

    If you can only get 6" in that's hardly the end of the world, enjoy that range, but try different angles to see if you can find one where he isn't hitting it directly.

    • Yea we tried from different angels. It wouldn't work. and my period isn't for another week or so. so i don't think its that. But i still hope i can fit more than just 6"

    • I wasn't suggesting it was caused by your period, just that at different stages of the cycle with different hormone balance it might change slightly. I've never noticed this in my partner, but i've read of women who have experienced it. Different angles -mainly- means missionary vs. rear entry as a starting point.

    • We did rear end and missionary. but with missionary it felt like it was the hardest to do. I just have a feeling that maybe i really wasn't completely relaxed and that it was really teasing up in there. I don't know i may be wrong.

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  • It's your cervix. It's stopping him from going deeper. There is nothing you can do about it. He'll just have to stop going that deep... stop before he hits the wall (cervix).

    What's so awesome about having a big dicked guy if you can't utilize him completely? It's almost like you just have this irrational mental desire for a bigger dick. I guess it's something like guys and boobs right? some guys just like big tits...

  • Just keep trying. Get on top and don't be in a hurry. Just keep firm, constant pressure on and I'm betting things will start to work.

    • I hope they do. i just never thought sex would be THIS complicating for me.

    • Sex is always complicated: emotionally in any case and it's not simple physically.

  • Keep practicing and I'm sure all will be well.You've got more left.
    If he really goes too deep, you'll suddenly become uncomfortable and you'll really know about it.

    • she already said they had to keep stopping and it feels like he's gong into her stomach -that sounds uncomfortable.

    • Yea we had to keep stopping. it'd just that wall... I don't know what it is. its so annoying

  • Well if you think the average guy is 8 inches your going to be very disappointed in life. I think it is like 5.5. I will stick with 5 because i am 6 and it is an ego boost. ;)
    that is a tough one. if he is unable to control himself while pumping you then you will have to take over that job. you would need to be on top where you control the depth. if he cares about you he will be patient and work with you.

  • A woman's vagina acts the same way a mans penis does. The more aroused they are the longer it becomes, I suggest becoming as aroused as you possibly can, then when you simply must have him inside of you, to see how far he can go, if it is the same but you want all of him, try anal.

  • That's why women prefer Good diameter than the length. But being Long is good for a complicated positions.

  • Solution: Deep throat.

    • Lol oh i gave him that beforehand. but we both want sex. i know i want it. So I don't know what wrong with my body

    • there's nothing wrong with your body. It sounds like he's hitting your cervix, like some of the commenters have said. He needs to ease up on pounding you til you're sore.

    • I already feel sore down there. he like destroyed me in some way. i told him we need to slow down next time and relax. I think he thinks if he goes in fast and rough it'll help him go in deeper.

  • goaskalice.columbia.edu/how-deep-average-vagina-and-does-it-elongate-when-somethings-it

    you're not aroused enough. you may have thought you were, but if it's still hurting, you need more foreplay

  • He doesn't really need to go all the way in anyway. The base of the penis isn't very sensitive at all and he's not going to get noticeably different amounts of stimulation from what you're already achieving.

    • I have a feeling that he wants to be all the way in though. And i wanna give him that. but it seems like my body isn't letting him all in.

  • you might not be sexually compatible

  • I think its something to do with the pelvic muscle

  • Try and see if you can take it all in the ass. That's my advice.

    • Lol thats not the same though. If he can't go in then Im sure once i get married and wanna have sex again same thing will happen and ill be stuck. Anal isn't the best solution lol its just kinda gross to me personally

    • this fucking guy lmao

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