What are things to do besides sex?

[Anonymous]

One of us doesn't want to have sex yet, but both of us are willing to do anything but sex... so what are some fun things we can do without actually having sex, things to do besides sex?

[Anonymous]

Yeah I know what you mean. Depends on how far you're willing to go (like if you think of oral sex as the type of sex that you don't want to be having )

I'm very sexual and I have been for a long time, and that doesn't conflict with my personal morality. I see nothing wrong with enjoying sex outside of marriage or even outside of a relationship. My boyfriend for the past 10 months though is a Christian, which bothers me a bit but it is his faith, not mine. So, he took a vow of abstinence. I'm pretty sure he's not supposed to be giving into lust all together, but he just rationalizes it as no vaginal sex with the penis. lol I was kind of nervous about taking him outside of his comfort zone. We talked about his past relationships and he's used to being with these conservative christian girls. A couple of them gave him blow jobs, but that was it. He's been pretty open minded about everything though and we have a lot of fun. I still want him to f*** me though, but I don't want him to be guilty about doing something he feels is wrong.

He loves when I dance for him and tease him. I used to dance so I know what I'm doing and I'm very sensual with my body, I try different outfits with him, I strip for him. He loves dry humping, so do I. bump and grind dancing can get so nasty and that's one thing we do a lot too. It can also be a lap dance, he loves that. We have dry humped in a lot of different positions. You just leave your underwear on, but take everything else off. He loves my butt so he loves when I'm on top and grinding on him, with my legs spread apart and my butt facing him (he loves when I flip my hair and look back at him, talk really dirty). I usually wear boyshorts, a thong or a gstring. underwear usually come off though, because we are open to oral sex. after a little while of dry humping, ill pull his d*** out and start playing with it, or he'll pull it out and tell me to suck on it, etc. He goes down on me too, and I got lucky because he loves giving me head more than any other guy I've been with. He doesn't mind using vibrators on me too when I want him too, but he loves doing it on his own.

Also the bathtub is a great idea. I've done that a few times. It can really go either way, it can be something hot and nasty, or it can be intimate time that's just a tad sexy. I like both. we're just making out all hot and wet, and I'm on top of him, giving him a handjob under water, and ill rub the bubbles and water all over me and get up and stand in front of him, touching myself, etc.

be careful though, don't slip, put a bath mat down and a towel on the floor outside of the tub.

we do massages with oil, oral sex, he likes to spank me, finger me, hand jobs for him. we take care of each other.

[fullmoonlove92]

Wow! You're giving me some ideas for me and my guy.

[smokahontas]

what about oral? if so do a 69 because they look fun,definitly four play! and just touching each other

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't really know unfortunately so I'll just say what I look forward to the most (assuming I ever get to be in one).

1. Having someone that confides in me and whom I can confide my thoughts and feelings in.
2. Cuddling. :)
3. Talking about anything and everything while we're alone.
4. Sleeping together (not sex, just sleeping) and waking up next to someone. :)
5. Sharing things (food, tv remote, books/games etc.).
6. Having inside jokes/signals/nicknames that only we understand.
7. Never having to be alone as there's someone always willing to be with me.
8. Getting advice from someone who trusts and knows me.
9. Learning about myself and another person (and women in general).
10. Kissing. XD
11. Having a best friend.
12. The fact that it could lead to me having a lifelong relationship where I can have children, raise a family and find someone who wants to be with me for the rest of my life. :)

[Opinion Owner]

Wow, 6 upvotes. :) Maybe I understand this whole relationship thing better than I thought. XD

[Opinion Owner]

@kelly173815 You do know you just gave the mh to the person who has never been in a relationship right? XD Thanks very much. :)

[kelly173815]

Yes I did haha, but it was too adorable to not be MH :)

[Opinion Owner]

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I'm both flattered that you think my answer was adorable and worried that the best answer came from the guy who's never been in one.

Can I ask you a question, do you think that kind of 'adorable' idea of a relationship would make it easier or harder for me to get a girlfriend?

[Opinion Owner]

And do you think it'd make me a better boyfriend or just too nice/clingy?

[kelly173815]

Haha well all your answers were backed up by other guys posts as well, plus you didn't get 14 upvotes for nothing! So I think your answer was pretty spot on even though you havnt been in a relationship. And I'm not sure if it would make it easier or harder to actually get one, but will definitely help to keep one!

[kelly173815]

And definitely a better boyfriend :)

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks! XD

[Anonymous]

Wrestling would be a great activity. You can pretty much incorperate anything into it as well. Like rewards for who wins. It's also fun to take turns being dominant, there's definitely something instinctual about controlling/being controlled by your partner.

[PredictablePen]

easy stuff. just smile when he looks at u. its not a weird thing, and definently shows to him that yur opening up and are trying to be friendly to him.

[lilmiss1218]

Just having someone there.
-When he looks at you and smiles and your heart beat speeds up a little.
-When you go to get up on a cold morning and he wraps his arms around you and pulls you back to bed
-when he's upset and your able to keep him grounded and calm him down
-holding hands while driving down back roads
-Having someone to cook for.
-Little looks across a packed room
-giving him head and back rubs
-Being there when he gets home from a long day of work.
-Having someone to laugh with.
And of corse a huge part is great sex.

[ThoroughFred]

Besides everything a mouth can do. Honestly once in a while I really enjoy a good tease session with a solid handjob at the end. I mean you have two body's with endless nerves, sensative spots and erogenous zones. If you truly are willing to "ANYTHING" but, do EVERYTHING but.

hands, togues, body parts... just ALL OVER. why not?

[ShesMygirl]

If you are not being yourself, what happens if he digs you?

You just created your own personal love triangle, and you are going to be the loser.

Be yourself. Nothing wrong with that.

[bijinbijinbijin]

I can be myself and not have to worry about trying to be pretty enough or smart or cool enough in order to get a guys attention. I also do not have to hold in my farts. My fiance and i have a really deep connection with eachother, he is my best friend.

[DoctorJ58]

Being complete. Managed to stay pretty much single for 26 years... then I met her.

[kelly173815]

Nooo I'm sorry I accidentally down voted you :(

[DoctorJ58]

It's all right, dear. Maybe I'll get a few sympathy upvotes lol

[louisa21]

Mine was having a best friend

[aphrodiva__sexi8]

i love love love trojan Ecstasy condoms. the way they feel are freakin heaven. and I love vibrating rings... =)

[xperience]

You give your partner oral.

They give you oral.

Give each other oral at the same time (69)

Use a vibrator on your partner.

Have your partner use a vibrator on you.

Finger/Handjob your partner and vise versa.

Masterbate at the same time, in front of eachother

phone sex

cyber sex

make out for 45 minutes

[GoodManDave]

Well, I don't do that... so... besides... kissing or making out...

Jeez, my relationships have been too short lived to have all those "ideals" that many couples have. I guess the closeness is pretty great. The fun ideas for dates, and the getting to just be together doing "nothing special" are good.

[PsychedelicZebra]

Like no anal/vaginal sex?

Oral sex, using your hands to get each other off, taking a bath together, dry humping, massages.

Not much else really comes close enough to sex. Well, maybe French Fries, they're pretty good.

[brown_eyes]

He can take you out to dinner like a real man.

[tigerdave]

play halo together

[brown_eyes]

Hahah.

[tigerdave]

Only selfish chicks that don't want to do what their boyfriends want to do are giving me the "thumbs down" my fiancee plays halo with me and I guarantee we have a better relationship than the rest of you bitter bitches

[Shadow55151]

The knowledge that someone beside me genuinely cares about me.

[Hannah591]

Being able to be yourself with someone, knowing they love everything about you, even your flaws and your weird habits. Also, naked cuddles only feel good when you're with someone you love.

[lostsoul24]

Having someone I can be with, and cuddle and kiss. Just being able to be in love.

[slackercruster]

A feeling like I found my missing half.

[wtf_girl]

play chess. =) talk about each other's feelings. do each others nails. and hur. ;D ummmmmm lets see here. play modern warfare...2! go bowling, pretend to be black for a day! HOLLA! Or be beaners for a day! AYE! AYE! AYE! ARRIBA ARRIBA! talk about sex. or have air sex. dry hump, but no penitration. =D ENJOY! Just don't come out with a bun in your oven ;D

[existing_not_living]

CUDDLING! I love it when I can cuddle with that special someone.

[Hidden_P]

Having someone to share things with - little things like, one of you does the washing up while the other peels the potatoes. Or complaining about your day. Having someone who's always there on the other end of the phone if you're bored at work or just need to rant.

Of course, duvet cuddles on the sofa is a pretty close second... (pizza not optional)