ASSume: How Assuming Makes an ass out of YOU and me (in some cases, just you)

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ASSume: How Assuming Makes an ass out of YOU and me (in some cases,just you)


I feel we live in a world where people like to assume things about other people just by a few details. Such as, their looks, their personality, what they do or don't do etc etc. I myself have experienced judgement and assumptions my whole life and it really truly sucks. I feel I spend my whole life defending myself and my personality instead of just getting to be me. And, working on bettering myself and my life the way I need to. It's hard to work towards betterment when people think they have you all figured out by how you look or how you act. I know nothing I or anyone else say's can change the way things are or stop people from making assumptions or judgements. But, maybe this article can show you just how much we assume without facts to back it up. So, let's get to it.


Assumption # 1 Shy & Quiet People are Either Mean or Stuck Up:


ASSume: How Assuming Makes an ass out of YOU and me (in some cases, just you)


I have dealt my whole with people thinking because I'm shy, quiet and keep to myself, that I'm either mean or think I'm better then everyone else. Oddly enough, if these people who make these assumptions about me would just come up and ask why I'd so quiet and standoffish, I would tell them that I'm just shy. But, no they rather just make assumptions.


Assumption # 2 Only Children are Spoiled and Self Entitled:


I am an only child and I won't pretend I didn't have almost every toy known to man, because I did. However, the way my parents raised me was the same way they were raised. So, everything I got was because I followed the rules, tried hard in school, was a good kid and never asked for anything. If I did and they said "no", that was it I'd say "okay" and put the toy back. But, I never whined or through a fit. If I did, I proably would have got nothing at all. My parents didn't reward bad behavior. So, everything I got I earned but it was never because I acted in entitled to it.


Assumption # 3 Over Weight People are Lazy:


ASSume: How Assuming Makes an ass out of YOU and me (in some cases, just you)


I myself, have never been over weight but I do know people who were or are and I can tell you laziness is not the reason. There's probably a gazillon in one reasons why a person is over weight and I can promise laziness isn't always the reason. I'm sure for some people, it might be. But, to look at a person and assume that they are lazy because they are over weight, is wrong. Unless you know them personally and have seen it first hand, don't just look at them and make an assumption you don't even know is true.


Assumption # 4 Skinny People are Anorexic:


Just like # 3, you can't look at a skinny person and know they don't eat. Anymore, then you can look at an over weight person and know they are lazy. Truth is, some people can eat and eat and eat and never gain a pound. That's not something they can help, that's just the way it is. So, to look at them and think you know what they eat or how much they eat or even if they eat at all, is wrong. Again, unless you know them personally and you know this to be true, don't make that assumption.


Assumption # 5 Fit People are Really Healthy:


ASSume: How Assuming Makes an ass out of YOU and me (in some cases, just you)


I think my biggest pet peeve is that people assume because someone goes to the gym and eats well, that they are healthy inside out. When the truth is, you don't know that. Just because they look healthy on the outside, doesn't mean they are on the inside. Health isn't about how you look, it's about how you feel and just because you look good. Doesn't mean you feel good. So, don't assume by looking at someone that you can know if they are truly healthy or not because you can't.


Assumption # 6 Tall Guys are Better Protectors Than Short Ones:


At least that's what women say when people ask why they like tall guys. They say, him being tall makes him a good protector and she feels safe with him. I don't believe a persons abilty to protect another or make them feel safe, is about how they look. A short guy is just as capable of protecting his lady and making her feel safe, as a tall guy is. So, don't assume because a guy is short that he can't protect you or make you feel safe because I bet he can


Assumption # 7 People Who Don't go to College are Unmotivated:


ASSume: How Assuming Makes an ass out of YOU and me (in some cases, just you)


This is another one I can relate to because I didn't go to college. I truly feel people who go to college are passionate about it and career oriented people, I'm not one of those people. I have nothing against learning or anything, I just never had a desire to go to college. I want a job that pays decent enough, but I don't want a career. I do have life goals, I'm motivated, quite a hard worker and am smart in my own way. Unfortunately, because I didn't go to college it makes people think otherwise and that's sad.


Assumption # 8 Women Who Want To Marry & Have Kids are "Baby Hungry Ring Hunters" :


I saw that in an article once and apparently you're never suppose to tell a guy you're on date with that you want to marry and have kids because guys already assume women are "baby hungry ring hunters". As a woman who wants to marry and have kids someday, I find that kind of offensive. Just because I've always wanted to be a mom, doesn't mean I'm "baby hungry". Just because I want to get married one day, doesn't mean I'm a "ring hunter". So, don't assume all the women who want those things are for the wrong reasons because that's not the case.


Assumption # 9 Guys That Live at Home Lack Ambition & Have No Life Goals :


ASSume: How Assuming Makes an ass out of YOU and me (in some cases, just you)


I heard women find a man who still lives at home with his parents to be "unattractive and undatable". But, what if he lives at home for the right reasons? What if he has a job but doesn't make enough to afford his own place and his parents let him live at home rent free in exchange for helping around the house, what's wrong with that? What if he does have life goals but he's had a streak of bad luck and he's just living at home until he turns things around for himself, what's wrong with that? There's tons of reasons why a person may choose to not live on there own right away. So, don't assume a guy living at home means unbitious or no life goals because you don't know that.


Assumption # 10 All Tramatic Events are Easily Gotten Over :


I don't know if people assume this per say, but they do seem to think after a certain amount of time you should get over something and it should no longer affect you. Unfortunately, that's not always the case. I know middle school was a long time ago, but being bullied really impacted me and my life. It changed me in ways I never thought and turned me into someone I never thought I'd be. So, as much as I wish I could snap my fingers and be over it, I can't it's not that simple. Unless, you've experienced something that really impacted your life in a negative way, you can't possibly know how long the pain of that event will last. So, don't assume you do.


Assumption # 11 All Virgins Have a Reason for Being one :


Honestly, I don't have a reason. It just is what it is. My life is different then most peoples and I have never dated, so the opportunity has never presented itself. Not to mention, sex isn't something that consumes my life. So, I just figure it will happen when it happens. I'd like it to be with someone I love and that loves me back or someone I care about and cares for me too, but other then that I don't have a reason. Though I know many people do have a reason, not all people do. Besides why do they need one?


Assumption # 12 Things That Happen Online Could Never Happen Offline :


ASSume: How Assuming Makes an ass out of YOU and me (in some cases, just you)


I personally get really annoyed when someone say's "well it is online"and your point is what? I promise everything that now seems to be a "only happens online" thing, has been happening offline WAY before the internet come in to play. People have been scamming, lying, cheating, pretending, being creepy etc etc, since my Grandparents time. So, don't assume offline is somehow safer than online because it's not. Don't assume because you are face to face to with someone that they are more trustworthy than someone online because you don't know that. Don't act like the internet is somehow different than the world because it's not. It only functions because people in the world use it, if they didn't the internet wouldn't even exist.


Assumption # 13 People Who Believe in True Love & Soul Mates are Fairytalistic :


People somehow assume that people who believe in true love and soul mates is them living in a fairytale, when it's not. I know true love is usually a Disney movie thing, but that doesn't mean that everyone who believes in it wants a Disney life. I believe in true love and hope to find it. I believe in soul mates and hope to find mine, but none of that means I'm living in a fairytale world. I'm very realistic about life and love, me believeing in those things doesn't change that. So, don't assume a belief in that means someone has a unrealistic outlook because that's not necessarily true.


Assumption # 14 Seccessful Relationships are Based on Geographical Availability:


People seem to be under the impression that long distance relationships are "hard work". When the truth is, all relationships are hard work long distance or not. Relationships are very complex and there's many things that make them seccessful and there many things that make them unseccessful but distance isn't one of them. If that was the case then why do so many people who live in the same place and see each other all the time, break up? People have many reasons why they think long distance relationships don't work, but anything you place on a long distance relationship you can place on one that isn't. So, don't assume that your geographically desirable relationship is more likely to work than a long distance one because you don't know that.


Assumption # 15 Being a Stay at Home Parent "isn't a real job" :


ASSume: How Assuming Makes an ass out of YOU and me (in some cases, just you)


People seem to think if you're not out there in the work force and you stay home to care for the family, that somehow that's not real work. They say being a stay at home mom (or dad) is the toughest job there is and I believe it. In the work force you get hired for one specific thing and that's your job, that one thing. When you're a stay at home parent you don't just do one thing, you do everything. It's hard job and they deserve a lot credit because not everyone could do it. So, until you walk a mile in a stay at home parents shoes don't assume it's not hard work because I bet it's harder than you think.


Assumption # 16 Confidence is Easily Achieved :


I feel people are always telling other people to "be confident", but what people don't get is that confidence isn't easily achieved. For some people, there's always something standing in their way of being confident in themself. That's why they have these campagins for real beauty, not to promote someone eating fast food everyday. But, to help people see that even with that flaw of there's be it (weight, height, acne etc etc), they are beautiful too. Confidence is a internal external thing and how you feel about yourself inside , will determine how you feel about yourself when you look in the mirror. Though confidence is a great thing to have, don't assume because it was easy for you to get there, that it's the same for other people.


To Sum up: There are many assumptions we make daily and I probably haven't covered half of them but I hope people take something away from this. What I hope they take away is, we can assume all we want but without facts to back it up all you have is theories. So, don't assume and if you really want to know just ask. Thanks for your time.


ASSume: How Assuming Makes an ass out of YOU and me (in some cases, just you)





ASSume: How Assuming Makes an ass out of YOU and me (in some cases, just you)
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