Quit your bitching and stop being so politically correct

[QuestionMan]

You have been warned!

So I've come across a trend not just on GAG but in real life as well that annoys the crap out of me.

Can you guess what it is?

Its people bitching about how tough their life supposedly is and how offended they are by something someone said.

YOUR LIFE IS NOT THAT HARD!!!

You are just a pussy who thinks playing the victim will get you attention.

So what if you can't get laid or someone doesn't like you. There are people who have it a million times worse than you. You don't get to complain.

If something went wrong in your life stop blaiming other people because you know damn well that.

As for being offended, you need to grow up. Seriously there will be plenty of people that disagree with you. You can't shut them out because "they hurt your feelings" otherwise you turn into a dogmatic cry baby.

Society is even pushing on getting rid of bullying because some people are just too damn sensitive. You know what, I was bullied and it helped make me the man I am today. Otherwise I would've been a pussy my whole life. People need to learn to stand up for themselves.

When even left wingers realize it than you know it's a problem.

Even the Russian propaganda network understands it.

So please people quit your bitching. Toughen up and stop being so damn sensitive and politically correct.

[ThisDudeHere]

Firstly, I do agree with the general message of this take.
Secondly, I never bitch about stuff via self victimizing. I personally bitch more because I’m angry at myself and not someone else or society in general. Like the thing about not getting laid.– I do bitch about it but I blame myself.
Thirdly, although in the context of this take it is true, the idea about "someone has it harder so you shouldn'’t complain”" is rather stupid in and of itself. Yes there are starving Africans or refugees coming into our countries but we should be taking care of our poor FIRST, even if they don’t have it that bad. But still, in the context of this take what you said is fact.
And fourthly, I agree. People shouldn'’t get offended at every little thing. When someone is offended, it were not the 'offensive' words that were at fault but the person who was offended who was at fault for being offended. I for one am not one with political correctness and I would like to have my right to use words in whatever way shape or form I like to. Fucking PC faggots cunts.

[Stacyzee]

Experiencing emotions of anger , sadness is disappointment is normal for everyone.
Sure , there's always someone who has it worse.
But why should we bother to compare our lives to those? And not just let ourselves go through our very normal emotions.
Experiencing feelings of discomfort and unwanted is normal for growth.

I get that people "bitch" about things.
But who says they shouldn't have that right?

As for being politically correct , I hate that too.
Can't people pay attention to the bigger meaning and not the phrase itself? It sort of takes away from the message.
As someone that's been on Gag for a while while I notice some users are infamous for twisting and misshaping your words into something else. I always try to clarify.
It's hard to sense tones through a computer so people often take it has whining or bitching when you're standing behind your claim.

[theguanaco]

That last part is true stacy, the tone.

[Stacyzee]

Yeah people often misinterpret that way

[QuestionMan]

Yes people tend to misinterpret tone it is true.
As for bitching, I recently realized that all those time people kept telling me to be stoic were right so why shouldn't women be the same?

[Stacyzee]

I don't think anyone should be anything.
I think people wanted you to be that way because that's sort of t expected role for a guy even when he's a child.
I think the problem is people hold others a standard they feel they should be.

[loverrlee]

Experiencing is one thing. The ability to put them into perspective and deal with them in a healthy way (i. e. NOT flaming on the internet) is another. But that is just my opinion. :)

[R3d_Anonymous]

I don't think anyone needs to be "stoic".

[R3d_Anonymous]

People like you - all about tough love and calling people pussies and not respecting people's negative emotions - impede progress in society.

I don't see anything wrong with people expressing discontent over their life, especially if they've tried things. Not everyone does well with the "tough love" approach. I know I don't and therefore, I maintain tact and empathy myself when speaking to others.

When you implied that bullying should exist, I completely lost respect for you. I very much disagree with this dynamic folks like you perpetuate that there needs to be pain, suffering, etc for growth. Sure, we need to find resources to defend against such misfortunes but still, the existence of wrongdoings shouldn't be PROMOTED.

And being PC is actually just not bring a bigoted dick. It's pretty easy to be PC, at least for me.

Call me a sensitive, beta as fuck pussy all day but this is how I am staying. I believe that bring PC is a good thing for society and I don't believe in tough love at all. Luckily for me, you're the one complaining about society as a whole being that way, implying that you're the one outnumbered regarding the opinions on this matter.

[R3d_Anonymous]

To be honest, you sound like a conservative that trivializes issues and call liberals "cry-babies".

[QuestionMan]

Sensitivity is a bad thing, and unless you have a better approach than tough love I see no other way of curing it.

[R3d_Anonymous]

I don't think it's a bad thing. It's just how some people are. And there are merits to being sensitive, in my opinion.

[QuestionMan]

What are the benefits of sensitivity?
All I see is pain and misery that will result from being too emotional.

[R3d_Anonymous]

I'm going to cite an article, not because I don't know have a response, but for some reason, I was having a hard time articulating this: www.huffingtonpost.com/.../...highl_b_6141146.html

Sensitive people are on average more perceptive, sensual, "sweet", compassionate, and conscientious. They tend to have "bigger hearts", and a lot of people respect them from that.

One of my teachers seems like a pretty sensitive man and students give him massive respect and even though as an opportunity cost, he's putting himself in a position to be taken advantage of with all the flexibility he offers us, most of us don't just because again, we have massive respect for him as a teacher and his understanding and empathetic approach to teaching.

Now there are advantages to the strict and stoic people as well. They also have the potential to receive a lot of respect and often do. I've had massive respect for those teachers as well for other reasons.

I think sensitivity is double-edged. Good and bad.

[R3d_Anonymous]

I think it's just a trait, like sociosexual orientation: are you cool with casual sex or not? Or somewhere in between? No right or wrong, as long as you're sensible and reasonable regardless of where you fall on that spectrum.

[Gommers]

You mentioned how you feel about bullying. I agree man. Seriously, look at our parent's generation, look at the generation before us, look at every generation before millennials. Lower suicide rates, fewer absolute freaks [I don't mean tats, piercings, or anything like standard fringe society stuff], fewer episodes of mass violence... And you think that bullying wasn't a cause of these low numbers? Yeah, it absolutely was. Bullying is a form of negative reinforcement, you either learn to conform or you earn your right to be a freak by beating the living shit out of someone for bullying you. None of this, "I'm different, please leave me alone, cry cry cry" bullshit, nah, it was "You're a freak" [get your head slammed into a locker/bookchecked/punched in the stomach] "What are you going to do? START SOMETHING... COME ON YOU LITTLE BITCH... START SOMETHING!" At which point, you went on with your day and it happened the next day all over again the same way; or you punched the fucker right in the mouth and started kicking the shit out of his head while he laid squirming on the floor.

[QuestionMan]

My point exactly. By crying a person does not grow they instead become the weakest possible version of themselves. I remember being told to tell an adult or a teacher. I did that and nothing happened so I realized that I had to take matters into my own hands.

[MeltedCheese89]

In the same way, I'd say quit YOUR bitching and START being politically correct, coward. Your entire take here is politically correct; not once did you spew some needlessly profane and deliberately offensive bullshit.

The only real outrage in the U. S. these days comes from the people who are bitching and moaning to no end about how they can't scream certain things without any social repercussions whatsoever... but our entire society has ALWAYS been like that. You can no more hang a "whites only" sign in the window of your business with zero negative repercussions than you can yell "fire" in a crowded theater with zero repercussions.

In the end, all you're really left with is the yearning for this fake power fantasy where you're the "one smart person" who brashly "says it like it is" and like some tough-talking cowboy who isn't afraid of upsetting some people by speaking some supposed truth. The thing is, that whole power fantasy relies on there being the threat of negative repercussions for speaking so bluntly, and continuing to do so in spite of them.

By lashing out at critics of your speech, you prove you're nothing but a coward who expects to be able to say something "edgy" but also be permitted to get away with it without any negative feedback. Either owe up to the criticism of your actions, or quit bitching and grow up.

[nert73]

That's a great take. I agree completely. I'm in one of those moods where I don't want to hear any fussing. I have enough to fuss about myself and here's the kicker--I don't fuss! I have to vent every once in a while but that's it. Then I'm done. I'm surrounded by people (my own mom, especially) that complain about EVERYTHING and act like it's the end of the world if they don't feel good or if something hurts a little bit or if something goes the least bit wrong or whatever else. It's so hard to not say GET OVER IT AND SHUT UP every time I hear it. Same goes for bullying. If someone is called a name, they freak out. Yet I'm pounded by some random people and some of the same people almost constantly. I can't escape it. I don't fuss. I vent, I don't fuss. I'll tell my principal if it's serious enough but that's as far as it goes.

As far as political correctness, all I can do is laugh. It's pathetic. I love that video about Political Correctness Gone Mad. That says it all.

[QuestionMan]

Venting is healthy the problem becomes when people bitch about everything.

[nert73]

Exactly. Venting is different from fussing in the sense that it's healthy. Fussing is not healthy. It's just annoying.

[coconutelixir]

I don't understand... why does it bother you so much? Are you going through a tough time in real life and losing patience with people here complaining about everyday problems? (I don't mean that condescendingly, I can empathize).

Though I ignore a lot of the posts, this is honestly a nice portal for people to vent out their frustrations. If it was the same person doing it over and over again, okay that would just get frustrating... but it's a lot of different people letting a lot of different stuff out. None of us should shame a person from complaining about something really giving them a hard time simply because others have it harder. That's just not fair. That means you're included in this, and this MyTake is a complaint. You, me, and everyone should use this website how we want.

Also, there has to be some degree of political correctness in a civilized society, dude.

[QuestionMan]

It bothers me when instead of asking for advice people on here complain about their lives especially when it's the same people over and over again.

As for political correctness if you saw the video by the Young Turks they explained that there's a difference between being respectful and censoring your opinion because it's offensive.

[DivaMonae]

Job well done on your MyTake 👏

Only my life is that hard only I don't b*tch about it. My life is extremely tough and I put up with it. And I couldn't give a rats ass about what someone has to say about me. I may be the victim but never portray it.

[QuestionMan]

Thanks :)
You're only a victim if you let yourself be.

[AvaMarina]

I agree to an extent. Sometimes I think people get worked up and offended by really stupid things, and they need to get thicker skin (Tumblr kills me sometimes). But at the same time, some people who whine about political correctness (not saying you, just some people) are just whining like, "Why can't I say horrible things without having to deal with people's reasonably angry reactions?" I think there's a reasonable level of political correctness to be had, and political correctness does have its place, personally. But we definitely cross the line sometimes.

[QuestionMan]

That is exactly why I used the video from the Young Turks. There's a difference between using the correct terms and substituting your opinion with someone elses.

[AvaMarina]

Yeah, the video is great. Prime examples of when political correctness goes too far. XP

[TheDevilInside]

I agree on not always placing blame on everyone else but your self. But seriously, to not think that bullying is an issues makes you almost ad Bad as the bullies themselves. Those bullies need to be taught a lesson, they need to be put into their places. Not encouraged. And bullying victims need to be supported, not just get told to suck it the fuck up.

There are hardships in life that when happens, you need to suck it up because it was your own stupidity that brought it upon you or because life is just isn't fair anyway so there's nothing anyone can do.

But when it comes to assholes bullying and verbally attacking people who had not done them wrong, then you can't tell the victim to suck it up. You have to cut the tree from its roots

[QuestionMan]

When it comes to bullying people need to learn to stand up for themselves otherwise they will never mature.

[TheDevilInside]

Also, people need to stop the whole bullying act because otherwise they will also never mature. Bullying is an immature act. Why are you fighting for the Bad guys instead of against them?

[QuestionMan]

Because for good to exist we need evil otherwise we cannot mature. Everyone has their own demons to slay we cannot take away that part of growing up from a person just because of sensitivities.

[TheDevilInside]

We also can't just pretend like bullying isn't a real Problem either. People have their own demons to slay already. Big Bad bullies aren't needed to learn. Life would bring you enough hardships without those bullies. That is, if you're not someone who always seem to be so lucky and have every thing handed to you in a platter.

[QuestionMan]

Whatever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.

[TheDevilInside]

Or it could actually drive you to suicide

[TheDevilInside]

It's easy to be harsh when you haven't been in that position

[QuestionMan]

I have actually been in the position that is why I am harsh. I know what it's like to be bullied, to think that there's something wrong with you. But at the end of the day you gotta suck it up, stand up for yourself and tell the douche to shove where the sun don't shine. Otherwise you never grow up and remain a pussy. I had my transformation, but now people are being denied theirs. Suicide shows weakness in character and the reason it happens is because we keep kids in this bubble of kindness. The world is harsh place. A lot of people can't hide their heads under a blanket and cry themselves to sleep because their problems are far worse than some kid picking on them.

[LIZGRIZ111]

"So what if you can't get laid or someone doesn't like you. There are people who have it a million times worse than you. You don't get to complain." I asume this is directed towards me. lol But seriously I hate when people force themselves to be politically correct and people who get supper offend for no reason. Like people who get offended just because there is a teeny tiny factor about them that may justify being able to get offend and they just take advantage or overreact. If you apologize for your opinion it should be because you personally have changed your world view and not because society has forced you to or to avoid people whom have never met attacking you.

[QuestionMan]

It's not directed towards you specifically it's directed at the reader that is known for bitching.
I agree don't apologize unless you feel you were wrong otherwise you're just enabling victimization.

[AleDeEurope]

When PC becomes the main topic of a South Park season you know it's a big problem.
The world is so PC nowadays it's disgusting. Just look at BuzzFeed. It's filled of PC and hypocrisy, but it's loved by millions of people. It's ridiculous.
You can't say anything without having someone complain about it and making a huge deal about it.

What happened to freedom of speech?

[Anonymous]

Idiotic mytake indeed. Just because some people have it worse does not mean people that deal with stuff aren't supposed to feel some type of way about something dealing with themselves? That's the dumbest shit I ever heard. And whats with this 'pussy' shit? A pussy (VAGINA) is not weak, I dont know where you dumbass men and women get that shit from

[R3d_Anonymous]

I agree. This myTake is pretty douchey.

[Opinion Owner]

@R3d_Anonymous Lol dude you are everywhere. Always agreeing with me. We totally think alike:)

[Opinion Owner]

@Pampered Was your comment directed to me? Because if it was, you couldve EASILY comment directly TO me so I could respond

[PiuBelloAmante]

Thank you lol! i hate how people have tip toe around everything they say nowadays

i think people need to get teased and bullied in school,
if you teach your son/daughter to stand up for themselves, they will, and it will build character

Most kids who are bullied get bullied because their parents dont teach them to stick up for themselves

[QuestionMan]

My point exactly. We are creating a generation of whiners.

[PiuBelloAmante]

Yeah all hear is complaining! I am guilty of it myself too! Bit at least I try and change it 😄

[musicbrain5]

I was always bullied in school in some form or another, always tried to stick up for myself and stand my ground, but then it got to be too much. Sticking up for yourself only works for so long.

[QuestionMan]

@musicbrain5 So what did you do?

[musicbrain5]

Talking my way out of situations, at least when I was older. Obviously doesn't work on catty teenage girls.

[PiuBelloAmante]

@musicbrain5 I used to get into fights a lot lol
So no one would pick on me cause they would get hit 😏
But it was not worth it too much trouble tbh

[musicbrain5]

I got into my fair share of fights too, but it never had the desired effect. I was always made fun of for my appearance, which is just the worst. That fucking breaks you when you're a teen girl trying to figure out who you are.

[QuestionMan]

@musicbrain5 I'm sorry to hear that.
In my experience, fighting solved any problem I had with another person unless they were stronger than me, than I would stand up for myself.

[PiuBelloAmante]

Girls have it harder not gonna lie

[SilenRose]

"... the 0.3% of women who don't have vaginas but still want a monologue... if you're transgendered and can't handle the vagina monologues you don't need a vagina. You're already a giant pussy." #Done

Mill Maher is out of control. Lol. Great take by the way.

[QuestionMan]

Thanks :)
Yeah I like Bill Maher except for his anti-theist opinions which are very bigoted.

[SilenRose]

Your welcome! ;)
Lol. Just realized I put a M instead of a B. But yeah his anti-theist opinions are bigoted. Other then that he's cool.

[QuestionMan]

No worries typos happen. That's why I want an edit comment feature.
There is actually a video in which a Muslim woman was calling him out on his bigotry.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zRlm4o6he74

[SilenRose]

Haha, that would be awesome.

Just watched it. I applaud her for calling him out considering everyone seemed to be siding with him. Even the comment section was hostile towards her.

[Nettie29Howie]

Nice take!
I recently had this conversation with myself. Now I try to stop complaining about stuff. I realized recently I have nothing to complain about. Basically, Man Up.

[QuestionMan]

Thanks :) after looking at a lot of posts on GAG I started thinking to myself is this how I sound when I complain so I decided to stop.

[RandomUsername3464]

This is great, QuestionMan. Some opinions you gave about a month ago made me think you came straight from Tumblr or Reddit. But this is some good stuff. SJWs already have, to a certain extent, gravely damaged the discourse that "normal" people once enjoyed on a daily basis.

[QuestionMan]

I mostly read on Reddit and I've never been on Tumblr

[Pampered]

Thank you!! Smh at these weak bitches who can't handle a little dose of truth.

[QuestionMan]

Thanks :)

[TheButterfly]

God forbid we try to eliminate bully. I dont, however, see why people would bully others for not being politically correct. If im around someone and they are other politically incorrect i will say something but not pick on them. A freshmen on my cross country tema called her brother a "fag" and i just simply told her that that wasn't cool and moved on. I think its a good thing not to hurt people intentially and be respectful towards others. What are we just going to bring back the N word now?

[QuestionMan]

I'm not saying you should go around calling people faggots. I'm saying if you get called one don't take it too personally. As for political correctness, I said people should express their opinions. As shown in the video with the Young Turks, you should still be respectful but not so much so that you sacrifice your own opinion.

[TheButterfly]

Fair enough

[DarkHumorRUs]

A million people may have it worse than me, but at least they're getting laid.

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[QuestionMan]

Haha

[Bards]

Fucking perfect

[justbanANNAz]

PREACH.
"go talk to your non-existent counsellor" 😂😂

people need to learn to get over themselves. the world ain't revolving around anyone/thing but the sun.

[Anonymous]

The biggest irony of this post is that you are in fact bitching about something...

[QuestionMan]

In a way I am

[Opinion Owner]

No, not "in a way;" you are bitching which is essentially disproving your own point that people need to just STFU and stop whining and bitching about everything because, and I quote, "someone out there somewhere has it worse off then you." That makes me wonder then. Who does get to complain. Does a person have to have no eyes, no legs, cancer, and be deaf before they can complain. Apparently all it takes is a Gag account to do exactly what you claim others should not. Again, irony.

[R3d_Anonymous]

"That makes me wonder then. Who does get to complain. Does a person have to have no eyes, no legs, cancer, and be deaf before they can complain."

That's what I thought, opinion owner.