I venture to say that there isn't a single one of us that hasn't spent a few minutes somewhere in our lives wishing we looked like, or perhaps even were another person. We imagine our lives would be so much better if we looked like the other person. We'd be richer, get more guys/girls, live the dream, etc., etc., etc.
Some people take this feeling and they let it fester and grow until it makes them bitter at the world. They spend all their days wishing they were someone else rather than accept who they are, and learn to use what they've got to their own personal advantage. We know not everyone can look like the people on the cover of Health and Fitness magazine, or People, or model down the runway, but such is life. Stop blaming the world for your lot, because no one is going to listen or care that you're so devastated that you didn't turn out the way you wish you could.
Honestly, if you put together all the times you spent wishing you were someone else, how much more in life could you have actually accomplished? All the time you spend harping on the rejections you've faced could be better spent moving on to the next person or persons who may actually want to give you a chance. Yes...easy to say. Yes. It is easy to say, harder to practice, but it can be done.
I read this article in a few years back about the way women in particular put themselves down in front of other women. It's like a sick competition about who can insult themselves more. So the article said, the next time someone starts in on how horrible they are and what's wrong with their body, face, life, etc. don't join in, and egg on the conversation. Refuse. Why the hell are you in a rush to put yourself down, it asked in all caps. Why can't we ever talk about ourselves positively or accept compliments for what they are? The article stuck with me. That's not to say I still don't have a few insecurities, but rather then dwell on, or bring them up, or point them out relentlessly to others so I can ridicule myself and make myself feel bad, I point out something good about myself when I'm with my friends and have encouraged them to only do the same. And what a difference it makes to say, yeah, you know I'm not actually awful.
Self-esteem is something that has to be worked on from the inside. You can't depend on the world to make you feel special and loved. You have to know that for yourself. Is the world cruel sometimes, absolutely, do rejections happen to some more than others, absolutely, but the moment you stop the focus being on those things and living to feel bad about yourself, you can be open to the good that does exist in the world, to letting confidence be your guide instead of insecurity and past pain, and start the impression on the world, that you're one valuable little S.O.B! Really stop it with the life long sob stories and the woe is me stories and get off your butt and keep trying like everyone else has to.
It is very true that someone who is confident in themselves and knows they are worthy, regardless of looks, can go far in this world because people do think, that you've got your stuff together and you know what you're doing (even if you don't) vs. someone in a corner unsure of themselves. If you can't ever be positive about yourself or see value in yourself, how do you ever expect others to be able to see that?
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