Male gender stereotypes should be aspired by everybody. Female gender stereotypes are kind of useless. They are useless, because females always get the negative human characteristics associated with them. If you look at male gender stereotypes, then you find that they are mostly positive human characteristics. Of course, even positive stereotypes can be detrimental to one's well-being (example: model minority).
In this myTake, I will describe why I believe male gender stereotypes are better than female ones and why everybody, not just men, should strive for these attributes.
Male Stereotypes
In the United States, male stereotypes are:
Aside from the "tough" and "less sensitive to other's feelings" and "not very desirous of security" and "cruel" and "not nurturing", the masculine stereotypes mostly seem to be good things to me. That's a 13/18. Now, look at the feminine stereotypes. The only characteristics that are worthy of admiration are gentleness, sensitivity to other people's feelings, very desirous of security, kind, and nurturing. That's a 5/18. I believe that the ideal person should have 13/18 of the male traits and only 5/18 of the female traits.
Why?
Why do I think the ideal person should be predominately masculine? Well, let's examine the characteristics.
Aggressive
Everybody should be aggressive to some degree. Males should not be any more aggressive than females, and females cannot be expected to be passive. The expectation of passivity may actually cause females to be passive-aggressive instead of showing their aggression directly. Direct aggression can easily be observed; passive-aggression is harder to observe, because the person is aggressive and hostile with an aura of passivity and calmness. I feel that the latter is more deadly than the former, because it can go unpunished for a long time and cause considerable damage to the victim. It's like a clever wolf in sheep's clothing, really.
Independent
Everyone should be independent, free-thinking individuals. Too much dependence on another person is a characteristic of being a leech, sucking the life and blood out of the host. There is a time when people are generally dependent on others for survival - childhood and senility. But in between, able-bodied men and women should be independent and responsible for their own actions.
Not easily influenced
The ability to be so easily influenced is the same as being dependent on others for ideas. Such an impressionable person is extremely vulnerable to all sorts of dangers - physical, emotional, financial, spiritual, etc. Everyone should be somewhat resistant and skeptical to the free-flow of ideas. That's why we have critical thinking, a valuable skill everywhere.
Dominant
The trait complements the independence trait. Dominance means giving orders; submission means taking them. If you are always taking orders, then you will never be dominant. Never. If you are always expected to take orders, then you will never achieve leadership positions; and leadership skills are valuable skills for every human being, as the person knows what he/she is doing and can manage the flock well. As a leader, you allow all your knowledge and wisdom to help your community, making yourself a productive member of society.
Active
Everyone should be the doers and makers of the world, not just passive consumers. The problem of passive consumption is that it is rooted in sloth and gluttony. Gluttons do nothing but consume resources; sloths are too lazy to do anything productive. Why should females be passive consumers - the sloths and gluttons - while males are expected to be active makers and doers?
Worldly
Being more world-oriented (I prefer this term over the term used in that picture, because the opposite of worldly is in fact spiritual) complements being active, dominant makers and doers. We need productive citizens, not gluttons and sloths.
Not easily hurt emotionally
The ability to be easily hurt emotionally is a weakness. It means that one lacks the ability to protect oneself emotionally and needs constant consoling. Both traits are related to babies. Babies are completely defenseless and require constant consoling to any kind of distress. Adults are not babies. Women are not babies. Just because a woman receives an unflattering comment doesn't mean she has to sit there like a crybaby. Acting like a crybaby just exposes her as weak and too reactive. Derogatory comments occur all the time. Women must be able to immune to them by tuning them out and not paying attention to them. Sure, women can launch a grand campaign to eradicate bullying, but ultimately, the victims must learn how to be emotionally strong, so as individuals they won't be vulnerable to emotional attacks. Women must be expected to stand their ground and fend for themselves. No one else can protect them by themselves.
Decisive
A classic example of stereotypical male and female behavior is being decisive/indecisive. Women are portrayed as the indecisive shopper who looks at everything in the store before settling down at the one item. Men are portrayed as the direct shopper who doesn't waste time in the store and only buys the things that they need. Honestly, the male stereotype should be applied to both genders. The so-called "female" way of shopping suggests impulsive buying, which is a waste of resources. Women should be expected to be more decisive in their shopping decisions and get straight to the point. To make sure that they get the best deal, they should research different brands before coming to the store, because comparing different products in the store is too limiting and overwhelming and time-consuming. That's the only way to be a smart shopper.
Not at all talkative
Being talkative is not a virtue. The more one talks, the less one listens. Women should not be expected to talk so much; in fact, women should be more reserved and be active listeners. No one wants to hear your half-hour rant when you can condense all your words into a few sentences. Speak clearly but tersely. Don't use useless, redundant words that do nothing but fill up time. Not being talkative should be the golden standard of communication for everyone.
Rarely cries
A tear here and there is a release of tensed emotions. That may be tolerated. However, an outburst of tears for every single distress, no matter how minor, shows that the person is extremely emotionally weak and can't fend for himself/herself. Crying should occur rarely. Sometimes, it is important to cry when you are cutting an onion. Other times, it is important to cry to release emotional burden, but this crying should not displayed in front of another person. Women should be expected to hide their tears, because tears indicate that they are weak and defenseless and can be taken advantaged of.
Logical
Being logical is better than being emotional. Emotion can't solve problems; logic can. Women cannot be expected to be emotional; they must be logical and use reason and critical thinking to solve their own problems.
Analytical
Being analytical is more valuable than being verbal. Using words is only one means of communication. The other means of communication is visual. Women should be expected to be more analytical, visual critical thinkers. If women are mostly verbal and talk and talk without getting to the point, then that's just useless talking, which is a waste of time for everybody.
Blunt
While some degree of tactfulness and social politeness should be taken into consideration in any kind of social relationship, it is still far more important to be blunt, or honest, about your true thoughts. Sometimes, the truth stings, and people must realize that. A truth that hurts is much more valuable than a lie that comforts.
Conclusion
I believe the gender stereotype traits should not be connected with any gender. Instead, they should be seen as human traits that are positive or negative. By seeing them in that light, we can stop viewing ourselves as masculine or feminine and start viewing ourselves as human beings with positive and negative traits. Everybody should aspire the "masculine" traits, because they are far better than the "feminine" traits. However, everyone should also aspire the "feminine" traits - kind, nurturing, sensitive, cautious. They are indications of a strong, smart, humane human being, and everyone likes that.
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