Hurt People Don't Always Hurt People

[CHARismatic110]

We've all heard that saying, hurt people, hurt people. It's true, but not always the case. Broken people come in all different shapes and forms, but I think that there are two main types. I call them fixers and wreckers.

Fixers are the hurt people that don't hurt people. These people may be damaged or broken themselves, but seem to find themselves drawn to other people that are hurting/damaged/broken because they want to help them. They have this need to "fix" things. They feel an overwhelming urge to put those broken people back together. Why? Because deep down they are longing for someone to do the same for them. How do I know? Because I am one.

Wreckers are the hurt people that hurt people. These are the broken individuals that break others. They get you to let them in, just to wreck shit and watch the fallout. They will manipulate until they get the outcome that they want. These people enjoy hurting others. Why? Because it gives them momentary distraction from their own pain. How do I know? Because I've dealt with my fair share of them.

Sorry if you were looking for links and facts. This is based solely off my personal experience. It's was just something that was on my mind. Thanks for reading.

#CHARismaticOut ✌

[capturemyheartnow]

All people have a capacity to help or hurt others. Its the same with people who are hurt. But some people who have gone through certain problems , know what it it to be sufferers. And since they have found some practical solutions the hard way though experience and through trial and error methods , now they are willing to share their world of experience to make other peoples lives better just like what you wish to do. But other people have always been bad because of their upbringing and habits. They will do all hat is necessary to spread sadness and sorrow in other peoples lives. And they find that people going through bad phase in their lives are not strong enough to understand the depth of these wrong deeds imposed on them

[CHARismatic110]

Pretty much. It's all apart of a cycle I guess.

[capturemyheartnow]

No. it's not a cycle. A cycle is one when things go on automatically and spares no one. Here it more of a personal level. And ho people treat you , and how much you want them to influence you , depends on each person. They can fool some people some times but not all people at all ties. Even good people don't help everyone. They choose to help only those who trust them and with whom they can have at least some short term connections.

[CHARismatic110]

There are good people who help everyone regardless of what they get out of it. Those people are scarce, but they exist.

[capturemyheartnow]

No body can help every body. And this is related to mental faculty So individual attention is a must.. Normal people don't have the time and expertise to deal with all type of problems. So sometimes they have to advise them to consult specialists. And specialists , always charge high fees. Of course a few very dedicated and good people do exist. But they are very rare.

[AriadneSky]

i suppose people can be both at different times, too. even with the same people. so they change roles back and for and no one knows whats up or down. you dont even know how to blame anyone or apologize lol <<< I've been there.

[CHARismatic110]

I mean pain does things to people so I can believe it

[spoonman2014]

I think the only time a hurt person will hurt others is if it is extreme. And I mean EXTREME. These examples are fiction but like Anakin in star wars, he fell in love but the Jedi way is to not have feelings and he was forced to pick between them or her and the Sith got in his ear and he caused havoc and his love left him and died all because of it.
Or like Big boss in the Metal Gear Solid series. He was forced to kill his lover and mentor because he was doing a stealth mission with her and when shit hit the fan the American government threw her under the bus making her into a traitor. Then he has his own private military company and the CIA destroyed them under the ruse of a "Nuclear Arms Inspection"
He would then become the villain of the whole series because he was tired of soldiers being abused by their governments

[CHARismatic110]

Extreme to one may be totally different to another.

[CyberToothTiger]

Hurt people usually hurt others cause they been hurt so many times
and some do it to make them self feel better, they need to stop and
think of ones feelings for once instead of being a selfish person.

[CHARismatic110]

What if they are one and the same?

[CyberToothTiger]

Yes i agree true.

[spencify]

Glad you see your brokenness as a way to help others, I feel like that too sometimes. Hope you find that someone who you are longing for to "fix" you.

:- )

[CHARismatic110]

Thank you. It's not even always on purpose lol. Just works out that way.

[SovereignessofVamps]

I agree! Plenty of hurt people internalize, they won't lash out.

[CHARismatic110]

Indeed.

[Unit1]

And then there are broken people like me fighting every day to get atop one day and never drown from there.

[CHARismatic110]

Evrything day is a struggle. But everyday is also a step closer. Keep fighting.

[Unit1]

You got me!
And on my way there I harm no one.

[CHARismatic110]

Everyday*

And yeah, that's the way it should be. People shouldn't be aiming to hurt others, no matter how bad they're hurting. I know how bad it can get, but that's not the solution. So good on you for being the way that you are.

[douride2]

So well said & I know exactly what you mean having been through it myself.

[douride2]

Oh & just for the facts I'm more of a fixer. I hate to see people down.

[CHARismatic110]

Thank you. And same. That's a gift and a curse.

[douride2]

Yes my friends say I'm to nice.

[CHARismatic110]

Yeah I was raised that way lol

[cupidkisses]

Such a nice quote!