Swearing, it is Not Attractive

[Nxcrunr]

I recently went to a NHL hockey game with my family, there was a pair of ladies sitting behind me that had had a couple of drinks.

They were dropping the f-bomb constantly, among other vulgar words. I was baffled by how they were displaying themselves in public. One of them had a child, and I got too thinking, what would their child think if they saw their parent drunk and conducting themselves with a lack of composure? I certainly would not want to see my parents in that situation. If I had a dollar for every time I heard a vulgar word come from them I would be able to pay for a colleg textbook.

1. It shows a lack of maturity

There are so many other words in the English language to replace these vulgar filler words that have made their way into people's vocabulary.

2. It isn't classy

Swearing excessively is not dignifying, personally I think it is not something to be proud of. There is a significantly better way to speak, utilizing the many words developed over time that have academic merit as well as a sense of eloquence about them.

3. First impressions are important

The first conversation or interaction one has with another is the foundation to how the other person views you.As well as judging how you conduct yourself(is it with dignity and respect?), if how you conduct yourself is positive and professional than you have most likely made a good first impression on them.

In conclusion, the way one conducts themself around others and the way one interacts with others is defining when it comes to how other people see you. I am not referring to outward appearance, but rather the personality aspect. While outward appearance is important, a person's personality transcends any aesthetic flaw they may have.

[Anonymous]

In all honesty

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[thatcomplicatedgirl]

LMFAO XD

[mutedaisy]

This is beautiful XD

[HeartsBloodDupre]

I love that song so much.

[BertMacklinFBI]

hahaa

[mutedaisy]

Well then...

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[zorro8888]

That got the point across well :D

[ImBATMAYNE]

Haha love this

[BertMacklinFBI]

you little stupid ass bitch I ain't fuckin with you! xD

[BertMacklinFBI]

just incase you didn't get that, its from that one song hahaa

[mutedaisy]

@BertMacklinFBI it might blow the take owner's hair back XD

[unknown513331]

You Americans are sooo funny to me. I´´m from Balkan region and we have more swear words than you have normal words in English . And nobody even gets offended. Man you would go crying to your mommy if I would start pulling some that I know in my language , English , German , Italian , Spanish. Hahah F-word... Fuck... uuuuuu... grow up. People like you are giving power to this words , they are just words and sometimes are the one which properly describe a situation or a feeling but in the they are just a words and we gave them meaning.

[Hidden_P]

I disagree.

Although swearing constantly and unnecessarily is a little annoying, saying that swearing as a whole is unattractive isn't right.

My boyfriend comes from an upbringing of no swearing - even crap and damn are swear words in his house. So he swears a lot as a sort of rebellion, but when he met me and I also wasn't too strict with my language it was an attractive trait to him because I wouldn't constrain his language use. We don't go around f-ing and blinding constantly but we do swear, we do swear excessively when annoyed. It doesn't automatically make us look like a troll.

What you mean is swearing isn't attractive TO YOU.

[Whatevergirl24]

It's not attractive period, genius.

[AshleyMD]

Attempting to swear all the time is childish but so is attempting to never swear, because that also shows low maturity because that means you do not know when the correct time to swear is. Making a big deal of swear words is also immature because it shows that you're childish enough to deem words right and wrong. There are occasions where you should swear like when you're in pain because it has shown to reduce pain and when you're de-stressing.
What @WhiteSteve said too. It's just a word and words aren't bad.
Also swearing gets your point across better than any extravagant vocabulary.

[Longjacketanx]

I disagree with a lot of what is said here. It's a good thing to keep it professional in the work place or something, but most people that I know curse like crazy (even at work) and they are much smarter and more mature than I. When I was growing up my parents had a VERY strict rule of no swearing, and I obeyed it completly up until I turned 14 or 15.

I realized that the speaker gives words power and meaning.
Cursing or no cursing; it really doesn't matter. But I do prefer not to curse around kids, and not have anyone else curse around kids.
I also find it unattractive if a woman uses those words very frequently, but It's because it makes her look very aggressive and/or negative.

[becca123]

Swearing is just not my thing. People know my exact levels of frustration or anger by my words... if I swear, it usually quite mild. The f bomb means run. Run far, run fast. My bf thinks it is cute when I swear, as someone else here posted, because it is out of character. I work in a primarily male career and they curse constantly. I let it roll over my head; do what you want, not my thing. For ME personally , it isn't classy and loses all meaning if used all the time. If I yell "f**k" people listen, if my ex does, well it is very common and no one pays him any mind.

I should add that I do have a younger kid and she has already used some of my exes prized swear combos, not as funny as it seems, really. I try to watch myself around her as much as possible.

I don't fall into the "cursing is a lack if intelligence" camp. I truly think it is your surroundings and for younger young ones, an attention seeking thing.

[WhiteSteve]

I just don't understand who decided that certain words are "bad." How did we arrive at that? To be honest, it seems a little ridiculous that we've allowed ourselves to be conditioned to believe that what is merely a sound coming out of our mouths is worse than other ones. I always say, "there's no such thing as bad words, there are only bad intentions."

[CommieDearest]

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On the contrary. Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn.

[YolaMoore]

Swearing is one of the biggest turn offs for me. I agree with all your points. No offence to people who do swear, but if i just met someone and they were swearing without reason, i would probably not make an effort to meet you again. Swearing is fine, if your hurt or upset or its called for. But just swearing in everyday conversation, i personally find really common, immature and just shows a lack of intelligence.

[PiuBelloAmante]

Cursing is gross!
i curse occasionally but its when something happens by surprise or i am angry!
like if i drop my phone sometimes i say SHIT or drop an F bomb

I find girls who curse every sentence repulsive... it shows a lack of respect and vocabulary

great take!

[Lena19]

The only time I've sworn is in private and to myself. I've never sworn to anyone or anywhere where someone could hear me. I agree completely with what you wrote down as well.
I also find that if someone uses cuss words and insults to someone during an argument , they seem to be uneducated if they could not use a proper English word for their statements.

[Whatevergirl24]

Okay, did most of the comment section take stupid pills? They're saying that swearing isn't an attractive trait, because it's not (especially if you're a girl). I also love the arguments people made about swear words themselves and saying how they shouldn't be considered offensive or there are times when you should swear or how not swearing is the REAL lack of maturity (what?). Everything this person said is true and the fact that you people are getting so defensive about it and being thin skinned shows that you're the one who are easily offended. Hypocrites.

[steveguitar]

Words are words, they have always been said and always would be said, whether they are 'swear words' or phrases like oh shit, or hello my dear, they are just words.

Sure there are words that I would want vchildren saying or knowing until a certain age, and I would make sure they know what people think of these words, but the fact that people make such a big deal out of these words is ridiculous

[thatcomplicatedgirl]

I swear, but who cares? It's not like I am cussing at a human. It's more like exclamation e. g., "Fuck!" or "What the fuck!" or "hell!"

And as much as I know, it doesn't make me any less lady like. There are always place and surroundings where we should hold back or tongues, but we already have too many other things to care about!

[R3d_Anonymous]

I hate it when people condone swearing so much. Seriously, I couldn't give less of a fuck.

[R3d_Anonymous]

I'd find a woman who swears a lot of fun and I bet she'd be great in bed.

[MrBubbles]

Amen! It certainly isn't. It's one of my determining factors as to whether or not I ask her out when we have a conversation. It raises do many other red flags about her if she swears a lot. :(

[R3d_Anonymous]

Wow... swearing and that raises "so many" red flags?

How superficial, that you would let such a women who could otherwise potentially be amazing, go.

[R3d_Anonymous]

*how superficial that you would reject an otherwise potentially amazing woman.

That's a more appropriate wording.

[MrBubbles]

That's the point. To me, they're not amazing. There are many who don't swear, and also don't engage in other forms of poor conduct. THOSE women, I like.

[ImBATMAYNE]

At work I keep it professional anywhere else? Idgaf I cuss :) get over it.. you really have no business at any sporting event if you can't handle some cussing..& wtf so itsokay for guys but not girls? Get the fuck outta here :)

[zero444440000]

ehh for me it doesn't really matter? like i played fps games when i was younger and there was ton of swearing in them "and my mother and father would swear sometimes" plus att the end of the day they just words, not some way to judge ones value or personality in any meaningful way.

[MaskedSanity]

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[ImBATMAYNE]

This <3

[oldanddecrepid]

I think its okay to swear on occasion, to make an emphasis maybe, but to constantly drop swear words in every other sentence is kind of un-classy!

I try not to swear around the ladies just because!

[kms91]

I swear, but it's not every other word I say. I think there are times and places that swearing is inappropriate and when people over use swear words it can make them sound uneducated. But in all I'm a goddamn adult and can use whatever words I like.