Advice: Why It's So Hard To Take Our Own

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Advice: Why It's So Hard To Take Our Own



In my circle of friends, I'm the one that everyone comes to when they need advice. They even call me "the counselor." I don't mind. I like giving advice and being able to help others. It's part of what made me join this site in the first place. Do you ever wonder though, why it is so easy to give advice yet so hard to take that advice and apply it to our own situations? I do often, and here's what I came up with.


It's Hard to Admit That You Need Help


In my opinion, when you ask for advice you're acknowledging the fact that you need help in handling a situation. You've realized that the things that you've tried to do on your own are not working so you call in reinforcements. Admitting that you need help is hard. If you're anything like me, then you don't like to ask for help. I'd rather keep trying myself even though nothing I'm doing is working. I've never liked bringing other people into my problems. I always feel like I'm burdening them. But then I'm quick to take on other people's problems. And I think that's because it keeps me from dealing with my own.


We Are Set in Our Ways


Another reason why I think it's hard to take our own advice is because it would mean that we need to change something about ourselves. People are stubborn and habits are hard to break. I can't count how many times I've explained to somebody that if they wanted to SEE a change in a certain situation, then maybe they needed to BE the change in that situation. Way easier than done. Especially when it comes to applying that to yourself. It's seems so much easier to reason with yourself on why you shouldn't change than it is to actually admit and then implement said change. Most people avoid it.


Solving One Problem Brings On More


Now this may just be a me thing. I've noticed that once I finally deal with a problem and get it situated, 3 more problems pop up. It never fails. That gives me more reason not to want to deal with it. I've given advice before on situations so similar to my own and I've actually thought to myself "you need to try applying that to your own crap." But most times I don't bother. My mentality is this: I'd rather sit on solutions to old problems than deal with new ones. Probably doesn't make sense to most people, but that's how I look at it.


Advice: Why It's So Hard To Take Our Own


It's so easy to give advice to others. Taking said advice and applying it to your own stuff? Not so much. That's normal. No one wants to even admit to having problems. That's just the way we as humans are. We can help a million people but when it comes to helping ourselves, we're clueless!


As always, thanks for taking the time to read my Take. Looking forward to your feedback!

Advice: Why It's So Hard To Take Our Own
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