Battling Loneliness.
You aren't alone in this feeling of Loneliness . I'm 30 now and since I was 15 I've battled the feeling... One important fact to remember is that Loneliness and being Alone are two different things, Loneliness is an internal state and being Alone is an External state;
Lonely: a person who is lonely may not necessarily be physically alone they actually may have many individuals around them frequently and Hell they may even socialize like a pro, still within they have a feeling of being misunderstood of being different an outsider...some popular things I've heard are: "I'm in the world but don't feel part of this world" or "I feel like an Alien among Robots".
Alone: to be alone is a choice most of the time, look at it this way; There are 4 billion+ human beings on this Planet...you have to really work to be alone when surrounded by people. Now there's nothing wrong with choosing to be alone (many of us have consciously made that choice) But there is two sides to being alone and one is that it can be the road to Loneliness IF you LET it lead you there. My mother once told me : "It's better to be Alone than in bad company."
The Fight against Loneliness: As individuals we have to find the peace and strength of mind to Live, more so we should also Thrive as just that as "INDIVIDUALS", which means a Singular being, in other words as Oneself. What I mean with this is that the first step to fight Loneliness is being able to be in peace and happiness by yourself and not rely on others emotionally; now I'm not saying to isolate yourself or to shun family and friends or to close yourself off emotionally, but to rely on yourself from within (this is hard to explain), not being concerned with the what the outside world thinks of you, being confident in the person you are, fueling your own happiness from within. In short giving No Fucks at all (In the most positive manner possible).
Truth is that being happy is hard work, anyone that says otherwise is lying to themselves, the reason that it is hard it's because it is worth striving for.
If you want to rid yourself of loneliness which is indeed a state of unhappiness. Keep in mind that it isn't by Surrounding yourself with people. I Also urge you remove yourself from the things that bring negativity in your life, things that try to dictate what your self image "should" be, just don't let the world mold you or be a product of your environment but YOU do the molding of the world around. It's corny but Start your day by knowing that the reason it is worth waking up is love for yourself; now that may sound egotistical but it isn't, self love comes before anything else, sounds corny but how can you love others if you don't love yourself first, how can you help others or be kind to others if you don't turn that inward first.
Most of us know that By over depending on others will at times bring you disappointment and grief, so with that I tell you:
DO NOT RELY ON ANYONE - MAINTAIN YOUR OWN HAPPINESS.
You go to sleep being you and wake up being you, remember we are living in a shared reality but Experiencing this reality as Individuals. Change your daily routines everyday and experience this reality without the need of others. Enjoy being yourself without worrying about others experience, because no one has it figured out, they're playing it by ear and being great pretenders, and yes me as well I'm as lost as the next person but striving to learn everyday. Everyone hurts but most don't show it.
It's hard but remember you aren't alone in this feeling.
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