My boyfriend got mad - I gave him a hickey!

[Anonymous]

he didn't really get that mad but just said "you owe me big time". I immediately felt like he was embarrassed to be with me. I even said "I'm sorry I'm such an embarrassment" and he just looked at me weird and said "umm ok". I mean are there other reasons someone wouldn't like getting a hickey?

he said his family and coworkers didn't make fun of him so I don't see the issue

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+1 y

fyi I didn't mean to give him one. I was just trying to be playful and sucked on his neck for a tad too long

[bioweapon154]

He is over reacting a tad but in retrospect I can see his perspective. Although it is a sign of passion in some cases, does he really need to show it off to everybody and his brother? Not necessarily. Besides, some people like to keep the intimacy between themselves and the sheets instead. And besides, sometimes it can be awkward being asked about relationship stuff by certain people. Perhaps he was never comfortable talking with his parents about it. I would be a tad uncomfortable. In fact the only reason I came across your question is because I got one and was looking up what meanings they can have besides the biological obviousness that they are just broken blood vessels in the skin. And don't listen to people who say to break up with him over it. That would be a stupid reason for breaking up. Its not like you had a full out war because of it right? Just talk about it with him and then maybe you will understand his side. Or if all else fails you can always come back here and post another question.

As is the common answer here, he isn't embarrassed of you or anything. He might just be trying to keep the intimacy secret and the hickey kinda spoils all that.

[BaronScrewtape]

People often look at a hickey and think that the person sporting it got laid the night before. It may be no problem around your friends with it, but having your boss see it is another thing. He is probably not embarrassed of you, he just doesn't like people thinking about his private life. It is along the same lines as this: How would you feel if you were out at a park, he had his arm around your shoulder, and sometimes whenever you guys were talking with someone he would casually reach down and grab your boob?

While that is a pretty extreme example, it is not far off from how he may feel about it. I had a girlfriend get mad at me because I gave her a hickey on her neck by accident and she had the kids in her class asking her about it. She was mortified about these kids knowing what she was up to the night before. It wasn't that she was embarrassed by me, but by the situation.

So just try to keep it where he can keep it under wraps, because he probably just doesn't want the world to know his private business.

[achick]

Lol umm I don't know why he got med maybe next time put it sum were he can hide it better and that way he won't worry about it

[mshaker]

k well number one, you never do that, and if you do, you do it were clothes cover it, its a sign of property, he's not ur property, and its embarrasing to walk around with, another thing is his family is probably discusted with that but there probably not saying anything cause they don't want to hurt your feelings cause they know it will get back to you from him. I would suggest you never do that again.

For example, I remeber when I was 15 and came home with one, haha the beat down I got from my parents rofl it was pretty funny, but its true, he's not ur property and you shouldnt do it.

[Asker]

I didn't do it on purpose. I wasn't trying to claim him as my property..

[-StillWater-]

That's...the stupidest thing I've ever read.... xD

[Asker]

How?

[KaratesaurusRex]

I really hate hickeys. When girls leave them it's almoist like a badge of shame. It's like letting everybody know your business and then you have to explain it to your co-workers, your parents, and in some scumbag cases your significant other. It is also like wearing a wedding ring. If I found interest in a girl and she saw that, you can't help but wonder what's going through her head about it.

[quantumdefender]

if he's that sensitive, he ain't the one.

men should be proud of their hicky, like a badge of honor.

if he ashamed of the hickey, he is ashamed of you,

[Asker]

Yeah that's how I felt...

[Asker]

I mean he said he wasn't mad..but just that I owe him. I don't know maybe it thought it was unprofessional or weird

[quantumdefender]

Professional? fer god's sake people are chatting about OBAMA's dancing with his wife?

who CARES if a hickey is "unprofessional" get over it!

as for you owing him...he has a point, if he gives YOU a hickey in return....you beteer not say a thing! LOL

[Asker]

So what are you saying?....i should dump him because he's ashamed of me?

[quantumdefender]

Sure, dump him.

I know if I gave a girl a hickey, and she got bent outta shape, I'd know she has no sense of humor, and no feeling for me.

hickeys from a loved one are supposed to be sentimental.

I give a girl flowers, she gives me a hickey....thats how its supposed to work! =)

[Virtuales]

what's wrong with a hickey ?

[Asker]

Thats how I felt. but he just didn't seem happy to get one. granted it was on his neck where everyone could see

[Virtuales]

I don't know why anyone would feel weird about it if it's on the neck or wherever

unless it's not on his forehead lol

[Asker]

So does that mean he's embarassed of me?

[Virtuales]

If he was why would he be dating you then ?

[Asker]

Thats true. he always takes me out in public. we even went to his work the other day to say hi to his coworkers but the ones he wanted to see weren't there. I'm guessing he wouldn't be like that if he was embarassed of me. maybe he's just embarassed of having everyone see marks on his neck