Husband's co-worker seems a little too friendly!

Fire-Mom
Ok - went to a wedding for my husbands male co-worker. His female co worker came - she reports to him at work - He took me to see her in the hospital several months ago after the birth of her baby. Since then her husband and her have separated - he was cheating, etc. She seems to have shared this personal information with my husband. I didn't think much of it at first as we talk at my office too - but not with my boss - another female co worker in an equal position. At this wedding she was sat next to my husband - she stayed there all night. We brought our kids and one of us was up and down every so often with them. So I seemed to get moved around this table by chair hoppers but he and she were always side by side. She wore a revealing dress and seemed to chat it up with him all night long - never including me in the conversation. I had to ask what or he would tell me - not always only some of the times... She would lean over to only talk to him. I felt like she was watching him all night. I felt it was rude of her not to offer me her seat so I could sit next to my husband when others sat down and moved me farther away. I feel she talks about her personal life with my husband way too much. She made it a point to keep chatting with him and laughing all night long. To me she was flirting - right there in front of me - not overtly but still flirting. She even got up and did a booty shaking dance on the dance floor. I am not a jealous person but her actions make me uncomfortable. How can I talk to my husband about this without sounding like the jealous wife. She was disrespectful to me and our kids by only talking to him and not including me and she is getting too emotionally attached to him by sharing all of her personal problems with him - plus that is unprofessional. I want to do this the right way - Guys - what would be the best way for your woman to tell you that she feels another woman is trying to move in - so that you would actually take measures to put an end to it? I don't work close so I can just start popping into his office & make myself more seen.
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Well I haven't had a chance to chat with my husband about this - as he leaves for work at 4:30 am and goes straight to school afterwards and doesn't get home till 9:30 - 10:00 pm. But they just had some lay off's at his work - which he is stressing about
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And the woman in question got laid off. Don't know if it's perm or temp. Seeing how stressed he is over his job didn't want to burden him at the moment but will talk about it when more appropriate. Thanks for the help!
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Ok -sound found out the girl didn't get laid off after all - they moved around some other people. So I decided to talk to my husband - he actually brought it up - because I told him I had wanted to talk to him. Well he only partially listened to me
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He told me I sounded jealous. I told him if I was jealous I would have went straight to her. I didn't even get to the details of that night - I started with the personal conversations he has with her at work about her personal life and how she will become
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emotionally dependent on him. He gets way off track telling about office politics and doesn't even let me finish! I am just jealous in his eyes and there is nothing wrong and he didn't even listen to my issues with that night!
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Thanks so much to everyone. Found out more dirt - this woman sounds a bit disturbed and yes she is laid off. So I don't think she will be an issue. If it appears she has not disappeared from his life then it's time to really sit down. Thanks to all!
Husband's co-worker seems a little too friendly!
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