Why are housewives looked down upon?

[Anonymous]

Why is it so shameful to be a house wife? What's so wrong with having kids raised by there mother? Don't feminists say women have the power to be anything? So why do many people look down on them? Just curious.

[HandsomeRaj]

1. I don't look down upon housewives / home makers
2. I look upto them more than anything else. Their jobs are much harder though from the outside it may not seem so
3. I've done managing a house, my infant daughter and my immobile father in law for over 3 months while running half the country for the organization I worked for from home (but I enjoyed every bit of it & I had an awesome set of colleagues across the country)
4. I know how tough it is when an infant or a toddler doesn't allow the woman to even go pee w/o crying out and banging at the door, the chores of the house, cooking, cleaning etc there's no time left for the home maker, no fixed lunch time, tea break etc w/o being bothered by something or the other
5. Do people even realize the strength it takes to be a home maker? Those who comment on it as trivial job must hang around the house at least for a month and try doing it
6. If the home maker weren't managing the background then how'd the bread earner be at ease?
7. A home maker / housewife is more like the Director, Editor, Camera Man, Spot Boy and every other background function put together but accolades are always for the actors who are seen on the screen :-)

[crayven]

See here's the thing how i see it.
Before feminism women stayed home and men worked their ass off.
Women had it super easy but they complained.

Enter feminism : "we want equality and want to work a soul crushing job because playing with teh kids = omg such torture" ( and yes that is sarcasm i would take playing with the kids any day over a "career" )
Now not only women want "more power" in every level but they also:
a) compete with men for jobs but ALSO demand that the same men earn more.
b) housewives are looked down by everyone now because :
1. feminists see it as "patriarchal oppression" ( whatever the fuck that means )
2. men see it as the woman enjoying and living her life while he works like a fucking slave and think "wait a minute, why should i slave away my life for this EQUAL woman, fuck that shit"

So there you have it.
Feminism has - ironically - liberated men, not women.
Women had it great.
It was men who no longer want to be slaves to women so that women can stay home and enjoy the easy life.

[Asker]

Interesting perspective.

[crayven]

Addendum:
a lot of feminists here are what we would call "coffee shop feminists" - they have no real power and are not too involved in politics and law.
The REAL feminists ( the dangerous ones ) are close to power, they write laws, are the ACADEMIC feminists.
And of course, sadly, most of them are the radical kind.

It's like religion. The benevolent believers adhere to teh good message, it is the leaders at the top who pervert the movement for special agendas.

[onlyaguy]

This guy nailed it, in his response and addendum. Very well stated.

[RestlessYouth_]

I'm a femanist, I don't look down on housewives because that's their choice and what works for their relationship. It's just not something I want in a million years though. The point of femanism is that a woman knows being a housewife is not the ONLY choice women have.

[PrettyBama]

I'm a feminist and I love housewives. I'd want to be one at least until my first child goes to kindergarten. I don't trust daycares lol

[Theguyoverthere]

Many of them got this idea that being a housewife is "oppressing" her.

Then you have some that see it as an "easy way out." I have mixed feelings on this one. Being a mom is great fun and honestly, depending on the father's job, no where near as life threatening as being in a career that could get you killed. But overall, it's better in my opinion for a kid to be raised by a full time parent then to have a kid grow up knowing their babysitter better than their parents. Unfortunately, with the economy, 2 parents end up needing to work to survive so not many women have the chance financially to be a SAHM.

Now we have this big push with the idea that women should be "career women" and that if you don't have a booming career, you're apparently failing other women. Yet most women seem to be constantly going into social work and teaching degrees then complaining about men earning more money when they choose other careers that are in demand and have higher salaries. I do see some women going to school, flunking out, then going into a SAHM role.

But many women do really desire the SAHM role and there are plenty of feminists who bash the hell outta them and tell them all this crazy stuff about "supporting patriarchy"and how she's "being oppressed" by her husband. They;re just lunatics basically and honestly, nothing more than a buncha "kids" who sit on sites like tumblr ranting about their hatred for men. They have this "I don't need a man" attitude. Just ignore them. They're the same crazy nutjobs I've seen in YouTube comments who say they're going lesbian so they don't have to date other men which basically means they hate men so much they've become homosexual. It's freaky.

[Anonymous]

Most men that actually support equal opportunity of women still hate feminism, yet according to some women these men supporting equal opportunity of women should make them a feminist. The fact is there are many different types of feminists, and the ones in power are not our friends. These are the ones that get on television, and effect public policy. This is the type of feminism in which I will be talking about, since they are the ones doing the real damage.

Feminism is not about equal opportunity for men and women. Feminism is about equality, in that they want men and women to be exactly the same, even if the men and women don't want to fulfill a certain role, feminism wants to make them. This is why men that don't help around the house is shamed, and women that want to work in the house is shamed.

Feminism wants to prove there is no difference between men and women, even though we know for a fact that men and women are not the same, and men and women will tend to choose a different life path than their counter part. Not all of them, will but enough that it makes the idea of the genders appearing to be the same impossible.

They want just as many females, in every job as males. If men and women are not shamed and discouraged from doing what their gender is more likely to want to do, then their feminist dream of pretending there is no difference between the genders can never happen. If women are more likely to want to be stay at home parents than men, then this destroys the very foundation of feminism. So you become the enemy of their cause.

Men have been telling women that feminism isn't about equality for a long time. Only recently has feminism started to reach a point that feminism has to openly hurt women to further its plan of gender neutrality. So now women like you are starting to see it isn't about giving women the power to choose. This is also why more and more young women are rejecting feminism.

[MothMonsterMan]

I don't know anyone who looks down on housewives EXCEPT the feminists. In fact before they came along, it was expected for the mother to stay at home and raise the kids while the father worked. Feminism isn't about empowering women, it's about trying to bring men down.

[Anonymous]

This is just one of many ways in which feminism has done more harm than good for women.

Most of the positive changes feminists want to take credit for were not really due to feminism at all.

On the other hand, belittling and undermining respect for stay-at-home moms is definitely something feminism is responsible, which is one reason why we are seeing more and more of this...

https://womenagainstfeminism.tumblr.com/

[dudeman]

Feminism basically, don't you know they are letting the patriarchy oppress them into a gender role.

[Anonymous]

My mom is a feminist but was a housewife BUT she works at home. So, she's a double threat. Why my dad and her have been married 25+ years