Women should have the opportunity to work and should have equal respect.
But raising children is a job. And the more support a mother has the better.
The problem with our society is that it doesn't recognize domestic work as work. We recognize it when OTHER people do it but for some reason when it's a wife it doesn't count.
For example:
Taking the kids to school.
Wife: expected work. Nothing special. What you're supposed to do.
Child care: pay $1500 a month if you don't want your child ending up in a human trafficking ring.
Cleaning the house:
Wife: what you want a cookie?
House cleaners: $100 a month and up. And they don't even really clean much. They don't do your dishes and mostly don't fold your clothes or anything like that.
Cooking
Wife: you have to cook to eat anyway don't you? So cool for everyone else too!
Hired chef: who does that?
Eat out: mad expensive and not healthy for you or your kids. Plus who is going to make sure your kids have snacks in their bags for school? Who is going to pay attention to those little details that make all the difference?
I hear stories of these super women that work and do everything by them selves. Props. To some people this sounds like the ideal way of how things should be today.
What I hear is women trading in hours to pay strangers to raise their families. Some women may want a career INSTEAD of children and that's them! But to me If that's ideal then I don't know what is the point of even having kids is then. I need to be there for my child. Personally I think it's gross that it's become the norm to stick your kid in early morning care, send them to school and after school and have strangers pick them up from after school just to squeeze in enough time to yell at them to do this or that late at night and feel like your close. If you have no other choice because you have no other support that's a totally different thing. But that's why I say men really need to step up to the plate.
No I dont.
Years ago it was all pretty simple,men go to work,women sit at home and raise the kids and darn the socks.
Then we went about and burnt our bras,threw ourselves in frount of racehorses and demanded to be treated equally-and thank god for those women.(Although I think it upset the balence a little since a lot of guys don't know weather to open doors for us or pass us a beer)!
These days there is no reason for it, I personally would feel litterally like a "kept woman" if I had to rely on a man to support me finacially.
I am noones responsibility except my own,i couldn't lose my independence like that it'd be a nightmare,and I wouldn't think it was fair to put that on him.
Love has nothing to do with it,you can be in-love,but you don't rely on that person to support you in that way,love doesn't mean you become dependent.
Ive been really well-off where I've had more money then I can spend and I've been so poor I had to count out coppers,but I've never been anyone elses responsibility.
I got my own money I don't need to sponge off of him.
As for bills and such,if I'm living with a guy who earns 55k a year,and I make 20 (or vice versa) I wouldn't expect it to be split down the middle,id expect it to be fair to what we were earning.
In a relationship you compliment the person you are with you don't "keep" them.Just my opinion.
So no,you can't buy this ;o)
I believe in equality. I've lived with 3 guys. With the first one, I paid the bills split evenly with my boyfriend and our other roommate. I never had extra spending money, but I wouldn't let him pay more than his share.
The next one, I paid almost all the bills, he was unemployed for a while and then when he had a job, he was bringing home less than me, and never made more than I did until after we broke up. He was also sort of a sponge, but that's another story.
And the last one, I didn't really pay much of the bills at all. We were together for a while and moved in together when I was pregnant, I was a full time student and had some financial aid that helped the first year or so until I graduated, then after that, I decided to stay home with my son for the time being, as I believe that when you have an opportunity to stay home with your children you should. I did hold several part time jobs to contribute to extra things and such, but he made more then, myself and either of the guys before did combined, so an income from me wasn't necessary.
I think it's all circumstantional. I don't think a girl should expect to get "taken care of" by a guy, but I don't think that a girl should feel obligated to work if they don't need to and there are good reasons for her to stay home.
The situation right now is if a woman wants to be financially taken care of she can be. If she wants to pay half of the bills she can do that. The only arrangement that's not socially acceptable is one where the man pays less than half of everything, as evidenced by it not even being an option in this poll.
I don't believe in half and half for financial decisions. I believe one should help the other and that as long as both are doing something with their lives, it doesn't matter if it pays more than the other. Marriage, or any relationship is not a competition.
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Thats really cliche. I think the woman should have her own career. Just because he's a guy and he's supposed to be the strong one all the time and all those things(cliche), doesn't mean he has to pay for your everything, its a relationship-not a bank.
If you live together, then bills should be half and half.
I think it would be better splitting bills half and half. It's more fair that way, and in my opinion, I would feel so bad if I had a boyfriend and husband and had him take care of me that way all the time. I wouldn't want to be a burden. I would want to help him out as much as I could.
My income and my wife's' income (not very different) are put into the same account. ALL bills are paid out of that account, then the rest goes to the same savings account. We have done it that way from the first day we both had an income. There was never any problem.
I'm all for going Dutch: over a certain period each contributes about the same amount, depending on her/his means or just the situation at the moment. This doesn't signify keeping notes on all expenses of course.
Girlfriend and fiancé, definitely not. Wife - it depends on what works best for them and their plans for a family.
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