Okay, I know I'm A girl, but COME ON man. If she doesn't wanna have sex with you right away, that is her choice... A good choice in my eyes. She cares about herself enough to not give it away at the drop of A hat. There's nothing BAD about that. Girls have the same sexual urges and needs that guys do, believe me, but they also have emotional needs and like to think things through (unlike many boys, unfortunately). Leaving A girl because she's not easy? Or maybe because she doesn't know you well enough and feels uncomfortable with immediately sleeping with you? That's really terrible... if you had any respect for her at all, you would be willing to wait.
as everyone else has said its not worth it go find yourself a guy who is willing to wait. it will be better in the long run.
also save sex for when all the excitement and "butterflies" etc are gone as its a brilliant way of bringing all the excitement back :)
If a man chooses not to leave you because you won't have sex - then at some point, he was going to leave you anyways. That just goes to prove that he was a loser to begin. Move on and move up! :o)
guys that want sex from you right away aren't really interested in staying with you, a guy that loves you will start building sexual desires about you after a long while... say, months. It's one of the initial long term relationship rules that every girl should know and believe in, don't let him have everything from the start, make him stay tuned, excited, the more you tease the better, the more you prohibit things the more he is going to hang around, the more you give him in the start and show him the you're "extremely" interested the more likely he is going to escape in the future, take control, always.
Eh, yes and no. I have had sex with a girl too early and lost interest because it was too easy. Or you could say that after the sex, I still didn't have much interest in her personality. My friend however met a girl who he also had sex with the first night and they are living together for 1 year and have been together for 4 years. It's just sex, she wants it, he wants it... So why wait?
You wait because like you said, you lost interest just becasue she gave it up on the first day. Most guys think this way and we know that therefore we know if we want a guys respect and for him to last that we have to make him wait. it weeds out the jerks, losers because guys who want sex only will not wait. You contradicted yourself too. you said you lose respect for a girl who lets you have her too soon then you say if the two want it, why wait? So if you believe the last thing you said,
Then why would you lose respect for her? that's what you said at the beginning. I mean, I think sex is fun. Should it matter that the girl goes for it when she wants it like guys do all the time? No. if you both want it, have fun but for the guy to look down on her after that because of her gender is selfish. Sadly, its just the way you guys are and that is why for our self-respect, we should make you all wait or we will hardly ever get anything longterm or meaningful.
It depends on how long we've been dating. I remember dating a girl and we hit it off okay but I stopped dating her because we didn't have chemistry in the bedroom.
I don't think it's a bad thing if you don't want to have sex so soon, it's just not going to comply with everyone's timer. I give it 3 weeks and if we didn't do it by then, I'd keep looking.
Some guy's tolerances are longer while others are shorter. Just like ever girl's and each will have their exceptions.
3 weeks what if the girl is a virgin?
If she's a virgin and I really do dig her personality. I will of course make sure to take my time and make it as comfortable as possible for her. I'd expect that she'd be open to it and start thinking about having sex with me. I don't mean like having a set date or time to do it but just to start being open to talking about it.
I just don't get this... chemistry in the bedroom isn't really/can't be determined from the first couple experiences (if it was, I'd have dumped every guy I ever dated for being clueless in bed :) )... when you say "tolerance" is longer vs. showerter, it sounds like your reasoning is that you really just want to get laid, or it's your tolerance of how long you can hold off before seeing her naked to know you're attracted to her without her clothes on.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!If a guy leaves you because you won't have sex with him, then he's probably not the sort of guy you should be having a serious relationship with anyway.
After 3 or 4 dates if we haven't progressed to the bedroom then it's not going to work. Sexual chemistry is just as important as intellectual and emotional chemistry. If we're not tearing each others clothes off because our mutual attraction is so high then it's not a relationship I want to continue on a romantic path. There are other women out there who will be a better match for me.
I can agree with this to....it's not that we want to have sex ALL the time or something it's exactly what he said, 'sexual chemistry'. I also call it 'sexual confidence'. I want my girl to be able to release that sexual confidence from time to time. It's NOT fear, slutty, or unmoral. Sex is about passion, drive, and joy.
But plenty of girls who don't 'give it up' quickly aren't necessarily more sexual over the long term. Many admit to faking orgasms at the beginning since the guy doesn't know how to please her yet (since every girl is different). I won't sleep with a guy right away - I have to get to know him to know if I like him enough to WANT to be passionate with him... and if I decide I do, it's rare the guy can keep up with me! I'll want him 24/7. First impressions don't always pan out.
You can have sexual chemistry without having sex soon when dating. Most guys lose interest faster in a girl if they get in her pants right away before getting to know her because there is no feelings involve so it would be easier to leave or get bored with her and thus most think the girl is easy and tend not to respect her anymore. Just most ok? maybe not you but how do you we know that? When all we know that most guys tend to not stick around when they get the goods too early especially on the
no if I love her I never gonna leave her just bcoz of that reason.
Of course sex is an important component of any relationship. Don't do it right away though. Pace yourself, give each other something to look forward to. If he gets it all right away, he's conquered you and there is nothing more physically to look forward to. I took my ex's virginity in ten minutes the first time we ever hung out and looking back, I think that's gross now.
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