Ok, so I'm out with my friends, and the bartender touches my shoulder a couple of times. Now, as far as I can tell, she's not doing this with anyone else. But then again, she might be doing this for a better tip.
Girls never flirt with me, so I get a little dumb when it comes to this sort of thing, and I get shy... Girls flirt with me maybe once every couple of years.
I flirted back a little, but couldn't tell if she was being nice or flirting with me because she thinks I'm good looking...
I want to go back to the bar as soon as I can, I know that much! lol.
So should I just take a wait and see approach? How do I get to a point where I can ask her out during her work without coming across as "weird?" How long should I wait and flirt before asking if I get some more good signs?
Girls never flirt with me, so I get a little dumb when it comes to this sort of thing, and I get shy... Girls flirt with me maybe once every couple of years.
I flirted back a little, but couldn't tell if she was being nice or flirting with me because she thinks I'm good looking...
I want to go back to the bar as soon as I can, I know that much! lol.
So should I just take a wait and see approach? How do I get to a point where I can ask her out during her work without coming across as "weird?" How long should I wait and flirt before asking if I get some more good signs?
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Well . You definitely don't want to start hanging around like some love sick puppy .
what'd I'd do is go back and do a little test . There's some physical signs she'll give out w/out knowing it if she likes you:
-when she first she's you her eyebrows will raise up (its a split second thing and easy to miss but pretty guaranteed she likes you if she did it)
- she'll touch her face, throat, ears and hair . If she touches her lips that's a really good sign(but only while she's talking to you or looking at you) .
-she'll position herself so she's facing you straight on, and if her arms are open(and not crossed over her chest), then she might like you .
-if she asks you more questions than she asks anyone else; she wants to know about you .
all of these together, and you have a 98 percent chance she likes you and isn't doing it for money .
just go once and kind of assess; then, if you think she likes you, why not just ask her out and make it look like it was impulsive ? She won't think you're a freak (even if she doesn't like you), what's to lose ? Either it works out and you're happy, or it doesn't and you don't have to ever see her again .
I managed a bar for a few months and I am not sure the policy of this particular place you are going, but one approach might be to flirt with her and offer to buy her and yourself a shot. But other than that I would think it is going to take some time for you to be around her enough to be able to ask her out while she is working. You should try to get to know her as much as possible while she is working, but remember to keep it as short and quick as possible, she is at work .
Make sure to let her know when you are leaving, if she wants to give you a hug goodbye or is glad you let her know, she likes you for something more than a tip . Don't make it a big deal, just show that you are thinking about her . When you show up to the bar just casually say hi and leave it at that . I posted a question of my own about asking women out while they work, and the consensus was it's ok, just don't smother her or ask her out when she is very busy .