Its a secret from young boys, but all MEN know it.
Are women secretly the dominant sex?
Its a secret from young boys, but all MEN know it.
I have been married for 30 years and living with my wife for 31. Although, men think that they are in charge and are the dominant sex, women are actually in charge and, therefore, one might say actually the dominant sex. Why do I say that women are in charge.
Let's say the 2 of you go out to buy new living room furniture. You really like one style and she really likes another. Which style are the delivery men bringing to your house tomorrow? The same is true when the 2 of you go out to buy new bedroom furniture, but even more so.
You do something against her wishes and she gives you that look like your Mother used to give you when she was displeased with you. Do something a little worse and she won't talk to you the rest of the day. A little worse, and guess who's not getting any tonight or even gets to sleep on the couch.
The first 3 months of marriage, "mommy" is teaching her "little boy" what she expects out of him. Soon after marriage, that macho man know how to read his wife and what she expect of him.
Have you ever heard of the expression "happy wife, happy life". Looking back, I see that some girls started learning how to manipulated us as early as 4th grade.
I think if that were the case we would know by now. LOL.
lol MHO
Thanks for MHO.
I've been dominating my relationships at the moment, so not always. I'm in control whether we hang out, talk, whatever. They try to take control but it doesn't work. Theyll be like "Ill leave you if you dont do this..." and i'm just like "Bye then." And They're like, "WTF You aren't supposed to do that."
Exactly. ...
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@shadowarrior99 holy fuck that is so legit hahahaha. I try to bait my dude in the same way. But it's only because I sometimes feel like his interest is dwindling. But he reacts the same way you do.
Mind if I ask, what would work on a guy like you? How can a chick take control?
@Misery.
You can easily take control if the guy has a fear of being judged or wrong. Use an extra terrestrial form of political correctness (used by feminists) to abuse his fears into changing his beliefs and thus becoming you submissive.
Or if you don't want him to be emasculated, just overpower him physically.
LMAO @ extra terrestrial form of political correctness (used by feminists)! Dude, I'm laughing so hard at that comment. Spot on bro.
make yourself seem more valuable and important to him. That's the only way.
If I were in a relationship with my crush, she would have most of the control. Because I would be too afraid to loose her. So it goes from person to person. Not every guy want to say something "go then". For someone that aren't that charming and less fall in love would be much more careful than a more charming guy that gets girl without doing a big effort.
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You will get a lot of whiny men claim that women are the dominant ones, because we have sex when we feel like it.
"Waaaaaaah, women are obviously in control, becuz they get to say when sex happens! It's not faaaaaaaair!"
Before women just had to submit to their men and rape within marriage wasn't even considered rape.
Now that women have sexual freedom, you will notice a lot of bitching by men, who struggle to get laid. ;)
and here we have a feminist ladies and gents... in its truest form... thinking men are skum and women are entitled to respect... ill tell your feminist ass the same i tell the skank on the corner... respect me and ill respect you disrespect me and bitch lick my shoe
@VanillaSalt
Thanks for revealing yourself to be a hateful uneducated individual.
While my comment criticised a specific behaviour some men portray when it comes to feeling entitled to sex, nowhere did I state that men are scum nor that all women are automatically entitled to respect.
Those are your words and it just shows that you hold great contempt for any female that criticises actions of men and assume that said female hates men. Do you think men can do no wrong? Or is the fact that a FEMALE is criticising said behaviour that rustles your jimmies so much? :D
Tell me something, muffin. If you were told off by your parents for stealing, do you automatically assume they're criticising your behaviour because they think all children are scum? Do you think any from of criticism makes a person hate a whole group, just because they disapprove of a behaviour of those from that group?
Your assumptions only reveal that it is you, who thinks women are scum. :3
lol uneducated... how educated do ya have to be to understand the power of a socially active woman... women play games and twist things more than men... you beat around the bush and push men to do what you want using psychology... you use sex to control men and it works... any woman with sex appeal can control nearly any man if its used properly... the simple truth is women control men whether its intentionally or not...
men and women arnt equal... on the surface men are more powerful than women... we control most positions in business and government matters... but underneath a woman can change and control men with very little effort... thats like heaving a figurehead leader in a regime... it looks like the king has the power but women actually have it... i actually wish women would exorcise this power more... if roles were reversed and women controlled business and government im willing to bet the world would be in a better situation than it is now
what does a woman control if men control business and government? they control the sex... the relationship and where it goes... the family matters outside of financial meaning the kids which are the future... a woman is hit by a man is seen as a super bad thing but the other way around is nothing... a woman can be raped but a man can't... a womans body is fine art while a mans body is nothing special... depends on the place but here in texas if a man and woman out of wedlock fight over rights to children the woman will almost ALWAYS win... women in society carry more power than men... if thinking that makes me a "hateful uneducated individual" then ill just have to deal with that somehow LOL
@VanillaSalt
I don't control anyone and condemn using sex as a manipulation tool. You cannot attribute the actions of some to an entire group, that is both ignorant and insulting.
Furthermore, if some men can't handle their urges and place pussy on a pedestal, that is their own damn fault.
Also, if women were in control of government and businesses, it would be better? What data are you basing this on? Are you trying to get on my good side now that you've realized you're not dealing with a feminazi?
This is just wishy washy assumptions, there are already women presidents and such and nothing impressive is happening. It's not the management that needs to change, but company policy.
idc to be on you good side i still think your a crazy feminist... you call me unintelligent and then you say "It's not the management that needs to change, but company policy"... a group of fools riots and after 10 years finally might get what they want... the single intelligent person works their way up to the top and can make numerous changes with much less effort and just being an individual... IF you were intelligent you would understand this concept... and the truth is women would more than litle be less tempted to be bribed or suffer corruption than men... of course im basing this on the fact you hear about male scandals all the time but female scandals not as much though this might be because of lack of female power in both business and government...
in anycase this is my last reply to you... arguing with you is like explaining there's no scientific proof god exists to a christian... simply can't see past what you believe... have a nice day maam
@VanillaSalt
"arguing with you is like explaining there's no scientific proof god exists to a christian"
This can easily be attributed to you. You haven't argued a thing, just made a bunch of accusations and assumptions, then claimed to be the victor and ran off.
That's what cowards do, not intelligent people. :3
@VanillaSalt You are indeed dealing with an unenlightened feminist here...
Everything you say is correct except for this one part..
".. if roles were reversed and women controlled business and government im willing to bet the world would be in a better situation than it is now..."
If you'd ever seen girls in an all girls school you'd know that it would not be a better place with women directly in charge.. Theirs is the subtle hand and the subtle power the indirect hand.. Has been this way for centuries...
Socrates said it correctly..
"Once made equal to man, woman becomes his superior."
.. and that was over 2000 years ago.
This is why feminism is so destructive both to women and to men, because enlightened women already know and wield incredible power that is unseen and really they are not able to and not designed to deal with the main current of power which is male rather they are the guide or the indirect controllers of that.
Oh and sexual liberation has nothing to do with feminism... Although feminists are quick to push this point..
An enlightened woman can have sex liberally and discreetly with whom she wants, and not because she has esteem issues (like sluts would do).. and I've never met such a woman who was a feminist...
By "slut" I mean a woman who degrades herself by sleeping with everything possible because she has internal issues. And men can be this too not just women..
@CharlieOlson
None of what I said has anything to do with feminism. Please relocate your circle jerk elsewhere.
@MaskedSanity
"None of what I said has anything to do with feminism. Please relocate your circle jerk elsewhere."
Lol, the venom behind what you've said and this..
"Before women just had to submit to their men and rape within marriage wasn't even considered rape.
Now that women have sexual freedom, you will notice a lot of bitching by men, who struggle to get laid. ;) "
.. It just reeks of bitter feminism... and you are trying to couple it with sexual freedom.. As if 19 century conservative marriage instantly involved rape.
As for sexual freedom involves "women who are obviously in control"...
.. I can tell you many women are not in control, and as I keep referring to it sexually liberated women have existed for centuries (usually covertly rather than overtly), and they certainly weren't feminists.. Feminists are largely not sexually liberated many of them are in fact asexual..
Enjoy your life of bitterness..
@CharlieOlson
I did not feel liberated in the slightest, when I was told I wouldn't amount to anything, unless I got married by age 25.
But I digress, please carry on believing I hate men and whatnot, I'm sure it helps you sleep at night putting everyone in a tiny little categorised boxes without actually getting to know the person.
According to you any form of criticism of male behaviour automatically equals misandry and feminism, because fuck logic.
nobody's bitchin, everybody agrees so stfu
@myusernaem
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From observation: women who are dominant or alpha female seemingly date or even marry submissive men. Men who are dominant seemingly date or even marry submissive women. This is all "seemingly" what do you think? There have to be a balance or the couple won't get passed week 1 unless they love friction
Yeah I think there's a balance unless people are sadomasochistic
Have to agree that a balance is needed, but for someone that's is too afraid to loose his girl would be much more careful and could be much easier manipulated, if ya know what I mean. :P
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I'm on whatever team she's on. ;)
Seriously though? No.
How many women in their 30s and 40s have great careers and feel miserable and lonely because they never found love? How many women in their 20s struggle with serious father issues? How many teen girls go insane whenever One Direction is mentioned? How many girls younger see their Dad as a superhero?
Both genders are hopelessly, irretrievably and totally in need of the other. Without either the other would be miserable. If there were only men, our sex lives would be... different. There'd be no cute girls making us go all soft and emotional. We'd be miserable. If there were only women, they get no hugs from behind with big muscles (random examples). They'd be miserable (no matter what they say ;) ). Without either, there'd be no kids.
Remember "No one will ever win the war of the sexes. There's far too much fraternising with the enemy." Just as it should be.
No dominance is more of a universal trait that some people obtain due to life experiences, parent and living environment growing up, its also brought out by experiences events or experiences that may trigger it. Such as getting dominated over and over again yourself before something finally triggers inside of you or you train yourself to be dominating.
Some us just don't use our domination all time like me I am usually laid back and submissive, but when the time arises for me to be dominant ( and when it happens I am very dominant ) I will be and this usually really surprises people to because I am usually submissive. Another example is I'll let someone make fun of me or bully me because I can easily beat the living crap out of most people I see ( trained in several martial arts ) but when I see someone helplessly getting bullied or beat on I'll beat the bully into literal submission until he yields and then I make sure it never happens again.
I hide my dominant nature on purpose because it better suits me for when I actually need it, the people who know me really well, know there are two sides to me the side most people know is the birds and butterflies landing on me almost price charming nice a true gentlemen, the other side is the lesser known side my very dominant side that I only bring out when a lesson needs to be taught, a point made or a bad person dealt with. And I didn't use to be this way I used to be side 1 all the time until I got bullied over and over again so I decided it was time for a change I trained myself to be very dominant ( among other things because sometimes fear is the only thing people understand ) I trained in various hand to hand combat styles then I crippled the bullies eyesight in his left eye with a pencil and made it clear that if he ever did what he did to me again that I'd be back he never bothered me again.
The following is confined to the romantic/sexual dynamic in Western society, for which dominance depends upon age.
Up until about age 35 women have the power, in terms of the relationship dynamic. They have the pussy and men will make fools of themselves to get access to it. Women are the centre of attention, they have many suitors and can be fussy, even fickle. Men are essentially worthless.
By age 40 there is a power shift and the men hold the power, because a lot of men walk away from having anything to do with women. This creates a shortage of men, which gives more leverage to the men who remain in the game.
Owners of two introduction agencies with whom I have had dealings explained it this way.
Between 18 and 35 they had five males to every female on their books. This began to change at 35 and by 40 there were five females to every male. The number of women did not increase. Rather, the number of men who were interested in a relationship with a woman dropped off the bottom of the graph. This coincided with the 30-something women being kept awake at night by the sound of their ovaries ticking.
The result was women who began to take the initiative, some quite aggressively. Men find that for the first time in their lives they are no longer the worthless drone in the hive. Suddenly, they are a sought-after commodity.
Meanwhile, the men who walked away get to keep their houses and their retirement funds, safe from the ravages of the divorce court.
I don't necessarily believethere is a dominant sex, both genders have advantages and disadvantages, however if I had to choose one I must say women are dominant. Simply because they get to choose when to breed, they can make men absolutely miserable by simply not speaking, and they are usually subtly manipulative and know how to stress guys out.
But then they get disrespected in society and men beat them... not to mention, sexually dominate them. Make them do the housework and raise the kids on their own... Is this dominance?
That's a good point, however, that is usually a way for people who are incredibly insecure to make themselves feel powerful and dominant. In any case, I believe some men are dominant, and some women are dominant, just in very different ways.
Depends on what you mean by that. They are the selector of our species, since their capacity to produce offspring is much more limited.
Inversely, men could be seen as natures way of playing pushing evolution into random directions while women are supposed to basically maintain the genetic status quo.
To use dice imagery, think of it like this: Women are playing using three 6-sided dices, and men are playing one 20-sided dice. Basically, one in twenty of the man is a perfect roll, whereas women have a harder time to get those 18 points, they'll gravitate very much around the center (a lot of concentration of values 10 and 11). In evolutionary terms low scoring males are discardable, as they're not meant to reproduce and pass on their substandard genes.
That being said, and in strictly evolutionary terms: one average woman is thus more important than an average male, but a perfect male is more important than a perfect woman.
They're even. Males have the physical edge but recently women have obtained a personality based edge. This basically sets us equal in power. But let me share me bigot opinion. Men are naturally stronger than women there for men were supposed to be the dominant gender. Hey, I believe that the strong should rule the weak. But in modern day due to society, government and organized religion women now have more willpower and men have less willpower which sets us equal. Now lets get the hate and insults over with, i got things to do.
In financial, economic, political, and resource access, historically no in European culture at least. It vary's with what culture your analyzing. As for interpersonal relationships, well I think that would be making a huge generalization about the interpersonal relationships of people you've never even met. I wouldn't interperate your personal relationships like this, that's just fucked up. If you're preoccupied with the notion of who's dominant in the relationship, you're not paying attention to the present relationship or the person your involved with. Your head is just somewhere else.
Yes!! If you wheather we have looks, smarts, or just our personality can make a guy bend over backwards! GIRLZ RULE!!!
*snipes with rifle*
very
boys are told girls are perfect angels but are never warned about what they can turn into when they grow up to become women.
I'm fairly sure there are a few movements by men about this but to say the phrase "male rights" depending on what group you're with can cause a lot of upset people.
women have a much larger effect on society than men in my opinion... but if the world were truly controlled by women it would prob be a better place.. ima still say my heaven on earth is 1 where women are obedient wives -.-
... and god promised men that good and obedient wives would be found in all corners or the world... then he made the world round the bastard...
Depends on the man. Most men today are sex-obsessed so they allow women to control them in that way because they'll do anything to get laid. After my first I thought sex was over-rated so I no longer had the same attitude that I needed to get laid desperately, I didn't see what the big deal was, and I cringe at the lows men will go to just to get a bit of pussy.
Yes, we are like the undercurrent in a river. We don't openly show off our power, that way we conserve our energy and use it at the right time.
So you dominate alpha males too? good comparison by the way... undercurrent
Yes, if that alpha male happens to like me. In fact, anyone under my circle of influence :D
How do you manipulate an alpha? O_O
Find a hook! lol Even the great alpha males have weaknesses. Everyone does.
What kind of hooks? For example?
I will tell you one right away - temper. Get him to lose his temper, and continue with it until he gets lost in his anger. :P
Then how do you dominate him after making him mad?
Simple! Act like a victim ^_^
lol nice. Hey can I please PM you?
Not in a mood to PM.. sorry :(
Promise It'll be short PRETTY PLEASE!
Never mind, can you just tell me some other tricks please? It would be really helpful in life... Unless you want to protect the sisterhood of doom lol
One trick per question... so you will need to post more questions for more tricks lol
cmon, please. I'm really in a rut right now in my life and this is prolly the only knowledge that'll help me get out of it
Okay then, here are some tips how to make a woman lose her defenses - act strong in all circumstances, especially when she's threatening to leave you. Don't react. You can postpone crying for another day, when she's distracted and busy with her own self.
- Compliment her on her personality, not just looks. This one never fails.
- If she's trying to break up with you, scream at her and be sarcastic, not angry.
Wow thanks a lot for helping. It could really save my life. What to do if she knows all my buttons? Also what other tricks are there like the anger/victim one? That one will change my life now
Is the threat to leave a trick?
Food. Especially if she cooks better than your mother :P
Believe me, it almost always is a weapon.
What does that lead to? lol
Women have been dominating men for ages by cooking delicious food.
lol. But how does that lead to domination?
Also is the threat to leave a trick? Please give me other tricks please
Well, if not now, it will definitely after marriage.
you give him what he wants and he reciprocates. please give other tricks I'm desperate and dying at the hands of a woman here
Yeah, its a trick. In fact, we can also manipulate you into leaving us, so that you will want to break up lol.
Yeah I've seen the break up trick lol. Men are made the bad guys always XD
What else? Its all falling into place now... my life that is
Last, but not the least, going in for sex early in the relationship. A lot of women do it not bcoz they want it, but bcoz they want to hook you, honey trap you.
honey trap me into what? What will they get... my money?
Could be money too, but generally they are only seeking to dominate you emotionally.
How will they proceed to doing that? Please help. Thank you so much you have changed my life already... I can't thank you enough.
The trick to dominate women is not through sex or money, but only by not getting emotionally attached to them even if you fall in love. I mean, its a bit contradictory. You gotta not show you are in love at least. Its a tough life I agree. If you can keep the mystery around you alive without becoming completely aloof, you will hold her interest.
Yeah I think the person who is less attached is always the keeper of the relationship power. But I will inevitably become attached because I feel the need... Anyway, how will they dominate me after early sex?
@itsme_goodsamaritan I have observed this and its intriguing that you are so acutely aware of it, I would love to read more..
@CharlieOlson Welcome to GaG! Nice to know you agree with my views. Hope you enjoy your interactions here :)
women don't just dominate socially, they dominate personal relationships too because they dominate socially. But their dominance is never really acknowledged in today's society because there's a myth of male dominance made by feminists while women are innocent victims who are good.
But slowly men are waking up. Not saying we'll ever dominate women, because we never have and they're much smarter than us in terms of manipulation of everything except objects.
Honestly, thinking that one sex needs the other "more" than the other is just nonsense. But I get what you're saying and imho it has nothing to do with sex, at least mere stimulation. Sex dolls, fake vaginas, and all kinds of other toys exist out there to get you off, but nothing can substitute the feeling of having a girl either in your arms or on top of you while you make love to her.
Um.. Ferk don't know 😐 im dominant in the kitchen, if he tends to get in my way in MY kitchen.. I plan to tackle him to the floor..
@cavmanier oh I dare you.. Step in the kitchen.. And your dead... O. o
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lol yeah, keep him on a leash!
Asker- girls can lure? Can't we? 😋 hahaha
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Is that a spatula in your hand? :o
@cavmanier no.. It's a wooden spoon
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Interesting is the fact that adult males allow themselves to
be treated like ten year old school boys by obediently
following directives from their s/o's.
HILARIOUS!!!
So true
its called keeping the peace. AND a fair few of those males are of getting their shit someplace else
I guess it depends.
In nature, yes. In modern/western society, no.
They do, after all make more people so kudos to them for continuing the species.
But I do love this quote: "The man may be the head, but the woman is the neck, and the neck can turn the head in any direction."
Did females invent this? I don't think so.
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haha lol XD
I would say yes. There is a saying that goes something like "Men are the head, but women are the neck and can turn the head in any direction she wants."
lol only if she gives him a good fuck
I can be both dominant and submissive depending on the situation and the guy. If I think the guy is too controlling then I try to become the dominant one just to show I won't be controlled. But if they are not so controlling then I tend to be a bit submissive. Weird i know
I contend that a woman who can be both dominant and submissive like you is even more dominant because when you are submissive, you are probably only acting as though you are being submissive and that is very controlling of your man and the one who is controlling is the one who is dominant.
Yes that is sort of true... when I am submissive i do it for many reasons. Like I don't want to start a fight or I think it will make him feel better about himself. I don't know if that's a bad thing to do, but it's worked in the past for me.
Why would you say Secretly? I don't think there is any "Secret" about it. They are far and away the Dominate sex. They are not physically stronger if that is what you are saying (generally)... but in all other ways they are dominate...
all other ways?
in every aspect of the relationship they are the dominate one.
Women control sex, thus they control the relationship. whether men want to admit it or not. They can make a good show to make it look 50/50 but no, men do not dominate in any way.
I don't know what you are defining at dominance... or why you think men have any kind of dominance in a relationship. my guess it is your age and the fact that you have not been in any really long relationship. And that is simply because of age. Once your with someone 20 or more years you will have a better understanding...
Sexually men dominate. Men are respected far more in society because we protect and provide for women.
In more and more households the woman makes more then the husband. I let my ex wife have the career she wanted and she ended up making more then me. I was fine with that. Protect, yes I will give you that one. but otherwise, women are seen as at least equals in society.
Women are usually seen as less equal by men. The women who earn more get the respect they deserve, but most families still have a male breadwinner.
you need to come into the 21st century. unless your overseas in one of those countries that treat women like shit. You need to update your view of women.
Most families still have a male breadwinner lol
"but in all other ways they are dominate... "
Good Lord, you are Coward... A lesson to all Men out there, be wary of Manginas like "godfatherfan", for he might try to indoctrinate you into his white night cult of pussies.
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