When my S/O is doing something to upset me I try to let him know what he is doing is making me feel bad.
Ex:I say "When you come home and just go straight to the computer to download tv shows for 2 hours it makes me feel like you are ignoring me. "
I don't yell it. I just tell him calmly.
His reaction:"So you think I ignore you? I'll show you what it's like to be ignored! "
LoL. He does this even when he's not grumpy from work
I feel like he is snapping at me just because I told him he is doing something to upset me. But instead of just saying I'm sorry that makes you feel that way and bla bla bla. He reacts by biting my head off! Sooo. Why do guys get so butt hurt so easily?
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I used to be a little defensive when someone told me to get off the computer because I'm ignoring my family. I eventually accepted that that's exactly what I am doing, but it took a long time. I don't think that anyone likes being told that what they're doing is hurting someone, and he's feeling defensive about it. Also, he might just feel that that is the only time he has to himself to do what he wants and relax. That's the way I feel about my books or watching a movie.
I've heard it said that a woman speaks five thousand words a day, and a guy only two thousand. When a guy is at work, he exhausts all of his words for the day, and then when he gets home, his wife, who may have used the same, is ready to talk all her words out. Basically, he might just be feeling all 'people'd out' and want the time to himself. I'm not saying it's right, but just that that may be what's causing him to react like that.
Maybe you two could use a little time away from the pressures of life. Take the family for a picnic once a week on the weekend to some place beautiful. Get everyone to relax and have fun. I'm sure that everyone will love it, and bring you all closer together. Also, find more things you can do with your husband, like going on 'dates' or just walking along the beach (if you're around one). Have fun!