If a guy finds you attractive, then, no, he's not going to want to be "just friends" (unless he's in a successful relationship already). If you're attractive, and he's single (or in an unhappy relationship), then at the very least, he'll want to be sexual with you, and at most, he'll want to be in a relationship with you.
Now, guys usually won't TELL a girl that, because in most cases, that would just ruin their chances with her, especially if all they want from her is sex. And many guys who lack confidence will pretend to be her friend, but they'll always have the sex (and possibility relationship) motive in the background.
Guys CAN be just friends with women they aren't attracted to, but MOST of the time, they don't have enough in common with them to want to be. But if they find her attractive, then, because of the way men's brains works and the instincts we evolved to have, men will want sex with her, even if the girl is clueless.
This is why, when guys are asked "can men and women just be friend", guys will ALWAYS say "no." Guys all know how men's brains work, and they know that any guy will want to bang any (every) girl he finds attractive, and that that will always affect a friendship sooner or later. Some girls understand this too, but a lot of girls are either clueless or are in deep denial about this. That's because women's brains don't work that way - women generally only want sex from a guy they already have an emotional connection with, so they aren't drawn to bang every attractive guy they see. Thus, because they don't have that drive, many mistakenly believe that men don't have it either - but we do. It's one of the key differences between men and women: men want sex and women want relationships/emotional connections, at least as our first priority.
So, now you know the truth - your eyes are open; it's up to you whether or not you use them to really SEE.
... I never ask for any of that. You're just running into the wrong guys. I always just wanna be friends with a girl (not like I got much chance past that lol.).
if you want that you must not put a pic up of yourself in sexy clothing... wait... you must not put a pic up of yourself full stop
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Guys can be like that online, but don't judge us all. If a guy finds you attractive then he will have a go, or just talk to you because, let's face it, talking to a hot girl is like a high in itself. One thing girls don't realise is that the friend zone thing can work both ways. Sometimes a guy realises that he will never get any closer to the girl but doesn't want to cut her from his life because she is just too awesome, so he settles for friends. At other times he might realise that he isn't attracted to the girl at any level other than friendship. And sometimes all the guy wants is a friend.
Personally, anybody I meet I will be friendly to (flirty? I don't even know how) and if we end up being friends then, assuming I am attracted to the girl, I will keep my options open for a while. I don't mind being just friends though, because friendship is magical.
It might sound a little creepy, but you have to remember that when guys talk to girls and when girls talk to guys there is always at least a faint glimmer of sex in their thoughts, it being the most powerful natural drive, of course. When you meet somebody of the opposite gender, nature tells you to sleep with them. It's probably stronger in guys, that's why so many of them base the conversation around sex.
Everybody's different though, so some guys do just want to be your friend :)
Well, in my opinion it depends on the girl, the guy and the situation. Like right now for me there is this girl at my work that is really shy that I know likes me, She is actually kinda cute. While she isn't my type I don't want to be rude and just ignore her and make things awkward for us. I am happy just being friends with her because I don't want to date her, and also because I am moving in the next few months and don't want to be tied down by a relationship.
But to answer your question as short as possible, yes.
Ever? Yes. It's just far less common than them having a sexual interest as at least part of their motivation.
To be honest, unless you're quite unattractive, guys are going to be interested in you sexually. Guys are interested in far -more- girls sexually than as friends, so if you're decent looking and get along well enough to be friends, they are going to be VERY interested in you.
The only guys who want to just be friends are guys who are regularly landing hotter girls than you. Otherwise... why wouldn't they want more? And those guys are not going to put any effort into being friends with you. You literally just need to be another guy who they'd hang out with. And very few girls -actually- can act like a guy friend.
Your just unlucky that a load of desperate perverts are messaging you.
I would say your probably just running into the wrong guys, which will be most guys on the Internet, especially if they can't see you in person so they can hide behind their computer screen.
Take me for example, I wouldn't ask for that from anyone. Feel free to just message me and chat if you want to avoid those guys
Anyway
Hope this helps.
Sure. There's a bunch of girls on here that I'm friendly with and like talking to/sharing stuff with. The female perspective is so different than the male perspective on things.
Until we actually meet in person, what choice do I have? Becoming one of those weirdos that jerks off via webcam? What the fuck?
Pass.
Yes, why not? I think you're just talking to the wrong people. I'd never ask and actually never asked those things to a girl online and I don't have dirty chats unless the other person initiates it.
Sure, plenty of guys do.
If anything, most of the time I'm the one who ends up doing the friendzoning anyway.
I personally like being just friends with certain girls but I think most guys that message girls like that are mostly likely looking to flirt.
Yes, just ask my female friends.
However, when a guy is sexually attracted to a woman, it does pose certain challenges.
haha are you looking for "just Friends"? looking at your profile picture on here, tells me why guys are wanting those things from you.
there's some girls that i can seriously just party all the time with, like in a TV show lol.
That's most men. I'll be friends with girls! If... I was friends with anyone!
only if one of the following is true:
1: i don´t find her attractive
2: i am in a relationship with another girl
But.. I want @chocolateismylover more than friends :I
yeah... i have a few friends that are girl... well i'm not attracted to them
Of course, but only if they are not physically attracted to you.
Not really. Especially if we find you attractive.
Running into the wrong peeps I guess ^_^
Sure, but not with girls who dress nice like you.
Definitely! All the ones I'm not attracted to!
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