Girls, what is the point behind grinding on a guy when you dance?

[AUWarEagle07]

Most of the time when I have a girl grinding on me I end up getting hard. I don't get hard because I'm thinking about what could happen later that night, I'm a virgin and would like to wait until I feel ready, but because of the way it feels when its moving around while she's grinding on it. I always feel bad when it gets hard because I have a feeling that the girl can feel it and I get a little embarrassed because I don't think that the girl really wants to feel that while she's dancing. I'm a nice guy and try to be respectful of women which is why I feel so bad when that happens. I'm in college so all of the girls that come up and dance are people that I don't know which in a way makes me a little more embarrassed. Since I do that most of the time I've kind of avoided going out to the bars with my friends, I'm 20 but you only have to be 19 during the week, just in case a girl does come up to me and start dancing. Maybe I'm just worrying to much about y'all not liking that happening because I don't know how y'all think or your intentions when it comes to grinding on guys that you don't know, but I was hoping I could end up with a little more clarity and understanding on if that's what you are going for when you start grinding on guys that you don't know at parties and stuff or if you go up to guys you don't know and start grinding just because you like to dance and have fun and would rather not have guys get hard because of it. Thanks in advance

[Anonymous]

Most girls don't feel like something is going to happen, grinding is just for fun. I don't think it would matter if you got hard because I think a lot of my friends wouldn't really care, and if they did care they would just stop and walk away. This is probably the way with most girls there too. It's not that big of a deal. Girls would probably rather have a guy come up to them though, and they just go to a guy and start dancing because nobody is dancing with them. Overall grinding is just fun and I don't know anybody who is looking to go further, but there might be. You can just walk away if you start feeling uncomfortable because it's completely normal for a guy to walk away, but it's more polite to wait until the end of a song it that's what you're worried about.

[wanacot]

Any girl that doesn't realize grinding is going to lead to you getting aroused is very naive. The majority understand what they are doing and the typical reaction it is going to get from guys. Don't think that they are clueless then are going to get mad at you when it happens. If a girl just wants to dance with a guy they will dance without grinding.