Why do guys say that housewives are Lazy?

[ElissaDido]

They clean the whole house, vaccum + clean the glasses, windows, laundry,, removee the dust from all the furniture, do the beds etc
They cook
They feed the kids, shower them, help them with their homework
They shop for groceries, I mean they run the House and they're basically a "cook" a "maid" and a "nanny" all at once, and that's lots of work.
I'm not planning into becoming a housewife, but I think that it's no sense to say that they do nothing (I've seen this kind of comment a lot on the internet).

[mskay]

Whoever that says that should fucking try being a stay at home dad for a day!

Minus the taking care of kids part, I've been doing this job ever since I was young cause my mum is always busy working. Heck, do they even know how tiring it is to clean an entire house? And if you have kids, you have to take care of them, feed them, shower them etc.. Then you have to cook and clean. Let's not go into the part where you have to figure out what to cook for the family cause if it's the same everyday, they will complain.

They have no idea how tiring it can be. It amuses me how ignorant some can actually be. I'd rather work than do all of this anytime.

p/s : I'm still doing this, especially cause I'm living overseas and I have to study and work part time. If only my house could be magically clean with a click lol! xD

[coconutelixir]

Since housewives are really common for Asian cultures across the continent, I'll quote something my Bengali roommate said. "Men (of those cultures) don't value the work of a housewife, because it doesn't carry an income." I don't necessarily think men find housewives lazy, but it does seem like they just expect and if it's not all done, they question why because they think it's not hard. It's one of those things where those men don't know it, because they haven't tried it.

I personally think it's soooo much harder to be a housewife than do all these educated jobs. Since my mom passed away, it's been up to me... it's so exhausting running a house everyday and taking care of everyone. I would choose to go to work vs take care of a house every time.

[BellePepper]

They're usually really, really freaking ignorant and want everyone to know about it, trolling jerks, or really, really ignorant trolling jerks. They know it pisses us off and they just can't stand to think about effort from anyone but themselves. It is that sad and that simple

[PrettyRican]

I want to THANK YOU because I am a house wife\mom. I do ALL that plus more and I have a part time job baking cheesecakes and cakes and I sell them. I bust my A** off and so does my husband at work. I have to give him credit too.

[ElissaDido]

You're welcome <3 I know all the work that housewives have to do because I witnessed it with my own eyes with women in my family and it pisses me off to see ungrateful guys despise all the work and strength that stay at home women have to deal with, adding on that the stress of the women who have part time jobs like you :) !

[PrettyRican]

Awww!! Your so sweet 💋 thanks again 💜💜

[Applefan1]

Hahaha not all guys say that, some maybe but not all. None of my friends have said that. There are lazy people of both genders, men that are lazy at work, women that are lazy at work, men that are lazy around the house and also women that are lazy around the house. Anyone that says all men, women, housewives are lazy are just simply not worth listening to. It is like people saying all road workers are lazy, I would like to see the people that say this out digging a hole in the ground in the middle of the day on a hot summers day. I personally don't like anyone that comments about people like this without actually knowing facts to start with.

[PrettyRican]

Thats what I love about you your always seeing things in two different ways.

[Applefan1]

@PrettyRican awww thank you. Yes and I used the road worker example because that is a common one, these people that drive their cars everyday would not be able to drive their cars if the road workers did not maintain the roads. Also it has been explained why you see so many people standing around at road working sites often. Much of the work has to be supervised. They are not aloud to do it without a supervisor there, an engineer there and then often you have a boss to. It is to ensure our roads are built safely. So as you can see before you know it you can have about 5 or 6 people or maybe more there.

[Applefan1]

Thank you for MHA

[allahu_snackbar]

Because I have spent the day doing that shit and it's not half as bad as going to work and dealing with the stress and the assholes you have to work with then returning home and having to chip in with all that stuff too. If you added the pressure of being a provider on top of that I imagine it would be even worse. Spending the day playing with the kids and cleaning and shopping while someone else pays the bills is easy. If I could marry a rich woman and become a house husband I'd jump at the chance!

[BelleGirl21]

"The" day is key. Of course its not bad doing it once and a while. Try day in day out. 24/7 for like 20 years...

[allahu_snackbar]

@BelleGirl21 I ain't even lying when I say I'd prefer that to work!

[ElissaDido]

And if you have kids, would you have the time ( and especially the patience) to spend the day running behind them, feeding them, educating them, change the diapers, clean behind them etc... ?

[allahu_snackbar]

They test your damn patience sometimes but I think when I was feeling like that I'd think of the alternative and realize persuading the little brats that they can't always have what they want for dinner is better than dealing with some fool who expects you to work beyond your contracted hours for no remuneration because he's a micromanaging dickhead who didn't set enough time tolerance around the project. :D

[coconutelixir]

Get outta here, do you ever even help out around the house?

[Prof_Don]

Damn bro that's some insensitive as shit to say, have u ever cleaned a living quarters by yourself AND watched young kids on a daily basis?

[allahu_snackbar]

@Prof_Don I have spent a day as "mother" and I really didn't think it was that bad, also insensitive, really? C'mon son!

[allahu_snackbar]

@coconutelixir No, I never lift a finger! *sarcasm

[ElissaDido]

Do you live in a student apartment/studio or a REAL household? Because I thought the same when I was cleaning my student studying, but when I tried to help out my aunt with the kids and the house for ONE DAY I almost cried!!!

[allahu_snackbar]

I'm not a student, I live in a house share. I did grow up in a household though. To be honest I think it's all about attitude, I'm sat here about to be vilified and downvoted by a bunch of self righteous interwebs personalities, but really what I'm saying isn't the disrespectful lance through the heart of housewives everywhere you might think it is. Reason being not all of them are these fraught, downtrodden wrecks they're made out to be, it's all about attitude and taking it in your stride. Sheesh. hahaha

[BelleGirl21]

Contracted hours lolol...

[coconutelixir]

Are you a brown guy? as in South Asian?

[allahu_snackbar]

@BelleGirl21 "belle" girl lolol

[allahu_snackbar]

@coconutelixir that matters why? such racism my goodness, such insensitivity! ahah

[BelleGirl21]

Oh you don't think I'm pretty. Whatever will I do now?

[coconutelixir]

It's not racist to ask race, you doof lol. Especially if I'm the same race. You totally are a brown guy. It's not that housewives are wretched or anything like that, it's an important job and makes the house a home... but it's just very underappreciated and unrecognized for being hard work in our culture, and it's saddening to see.

[allahu_snackbar]

@BelleGirl21 oh you don't think contracts cover working hours? Whatever will I do now? Although I'd better be careful hadn't I? You might decide to delete my opinions without a justifiable reason and then where will I be? Sobbing in my privileged handkerchief!

[allahu_snackbar]

@coconutelixir I think we hear a lot about the plight of housewives and how hard it is but we hear fuck all about the pressure guys are under too, as soon as you state that you think the grass is greener having had a little taster- you get a load of snarky, erm, so-and-so's on your post.

[coconutelixir]

Considering nowadays daughters are gonna be working and likely taking care of the house, we will have seen both sides. I think brown men do have their good qualities, but from my experience, it's rare to see one really help with housework, and I can't imagine the rest of my life working and being stuck with someone who won't help around the house at all. And yes, I've had more than a little taster and it's not temporary. I don't have a mother anymore, so I take care of everyone. My father also has advanced stage cancer, so pretty soon I will have even more responsibility than I can possibly fathom. Could you say the same thing honestly? Has a family ever completely depended on you to do either housework for more than a month straight? I wouldn't have said so much if I didn't have the experience myself.

[Prof_Don]

I'd rather be the working guy in my field of education than being a stay at home boyfriend or spouse, I want to feel like I am accomplishing something in my nation's workforce.

[BelleGirl21]

Of course contracts cover working hours. I'm laughing because you're comparing your 40 or 60 hours a week to a mom's contracted hours which is basically every hour of her life until she dies.
And for the record I don't ever delete comments in a debate I'm party to.
You're taking this a little too personally.

[allahu_snackbar]

@coconutelixir my heart goes out to you and I don't mean that sarcastically. I can't say I've been solely responsible for a household. But I did mention coming home from work and chipping in around the house, I never said I'd come home and expect to be waited on hand and foot. I wasn't raised in the desert and really I'm being stereotyped, not that it really bothers me, neither does being called a doof in response to my obvious sarcasm about the racism comment.
@Prof_Don that's fair enough, not that you're inferring that the next bit I'm about to say isn't true, but I wouldn't mind the role of nurturing, teaching and instilling values in the next generation- I think that's a remarkable accomplishment.
@BelleGirl21 these days a man typically comes home and chips in, he often has to finish work at home and help with the chores too, take his turn to feed the baby at 2am when he's got to be up at 6am. I wouldn't put that past you, considering @Prof_Don merely states a difference of...

[allahu_snackbar]

opinion, you on the other hand quote me, the user, in order to mock him. A bit antagonistic don't ya think? hahaha

[coconutelixir]

I appreciate that. I'm sorry, I did take it too far with the stereotyping. I will specify and say just the majority of the brown men from just my own personal experience. I do know and appreciate the exceptions and perhaps you are one. I do think being a housewife is very difficult work and undervalued especially by men who haven't had to do that level of care at home. I am speaking as someone who also like yourself will be working full time and coming home and helping take care of the home. I am also speaking as someone who has to fill in the shoes of a 26 years of experience housewife. Do you see what I'm trying to get at?

[allahu_snackbar]

@coconutelixir Don't worry I've got thicker skin than that, I was just making the point that being brown doesn't have much to do with the housewife debate, unless I held those stereotypical views which might influence where I'm coming from, but you weren't to know that I don't. Yeah, but you are not an everyday example are you? Most housewives don't have the same shoes to fill as you do and they've got support from the husband, grandparents and sometimes family friends too. I suppose my response to the question does suggest that I agree housewives are lazy, I don't think they are, but I don't think the image of a woman being a slave at home while the guy gets off scot free is correct in the world we live in today.

[coconutelixir]

Honestly, where the mental image of slave housewife and free bird husband come from? Who said that? I only brought up my background to emphasize why I would pick work over housewife…I wanted to share that I really have experienced both sides to back up my claim. Maybe I wasn’t clear, but I never said I personally was underappreciated for my work. I am honored to help my grieving family. I just feel for those who have done housewife all their lives and have been treated as though they have an easy job especially when I realize how demanding it is. Neither side is easy, but if housewifing was so easy, why don't more modern people do it? I have only experienced brown men with this underappreciation. "Spending the day playing with the kids and cleaning and shopping while someone else pays the bills is easy." Really? Damn if you really think that.

[allahu_snackbar]

@coconutelixir It's easy in comparison, I agree it takes a lot of patience and dedication but the alternative is more demanding, in my opinion. The mental image of a slave housewife and free bird husband comes from the women who feel unappreciated: that's usually how they paint it, comparing a man's job of "40 or 60 hours a week to a mom's contracted hours which is basically every hour of her life until she dies." People want to feel equally important and at some point the role of housewife started getting looked at as unimportant, that's why they don't do it.

[coconutelixir]

You stated a housewife's job is easy in your first post. I have always just said working a job is easier of the two. Both are demanding. Now you say career is easier of the two, and I can respect that view more. I do disagree and think if that was true, in a progressive society, women wouldn't be jumping at the opportunity at career and men would be jumping at the opportunity be the home maker. I think that alone speaks volumes. Regardless, in probably both of our futures, we will be doing both (well I will at least). If I'm expected to be with someone brown, I just hope he doesn't put it all on me. I have seen it too often. Don't get me wrong, brown men aren't horrible. in my opinion they're more loyal, more caring and compromising in other ways, and I would trust them more... it's just that I also think they tend to be more lazy around the house and I think it stems from the mentality that housework is easy and yet they still won’t do it.

[allahu_snackbar]

@coconutelixir I think it's easier than doing both. Househusbands are a thing but there's a stigma attached to doing that because of gender roles, the same as housewives having a stigma attached with all the venom feminists spew at the role. If people cared less about what other people think it would be more balanced and you'd see a more even split of stay at home dads and moms, I don't think it speaks volumes because that suggests one gender takes the easy path, holding down a job and providing for the family AND splitting responsibilities down the middle at home certainly isn't easier, in my opinion it's harder and being responsible for the kids and household without having a job as well is easy in comparison.
I see.

[coconutelixir]

FYI, if a woman or man wants to be a home maker in modern days, I am 100% for it. If one person works and the other takes care of the house, I think both sides should appreciate each other. Example of a housewife being unappreciative is irresponsibly spending her husband’s money. in my opinion, you can’t really say one side is harder if you haven’t done both. You can just say the one side you have done is hard work.

[PiuBelloAmante]

Who ever said that needs to be quiet lol!
its so hard maintaining a good household
Cleaning is such a chore, cooking can be tiresome, especially if you are cooking for a whole family!
Kids get me so tired even though i love them lol! everyday dealing with little brats! </3 haha its hard!

i think housewives are awesome, I don't know why so many people hate on them

[LiveFreeorDieHard]

Because they are morons. Cmon your a girl, you mustve witnessed all the stupid shit guys do to try and get a girls attention. Its like girls who say they have it harder in dating then guys. My mom is a house wife plus she works part time and let me tell you something, i could not do that.

[SmoMan]

Any guy that says that is clearly a patriarchal asshole and not worth your time.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

not gonna lie, that would be awesome to have a house wife. i grew up in an area where a lot of my friends' moms were housewives (so much for the 21st century working girl bullshit) and they were always picked up from school from their parents and i had to stay in after care in elementary school :(. also, that means we could support ourselves with 1 person working rather than 2 people working and struggling to pay bills :D

[BelleGirl21]

I've seen it a tonon here before too. It's just humorous to me. They have no idea.

[PrettyRican]

I totally agree with you 💋

[Yumix]

most guys I know don't think like that and are very happy that their girls take a lot of that work off them ;)

[HaveNoName]

My wife's a housewife and so was my mom. I know how they do things all day everyday that I would go crazy in just 1 day.

[RedThread]

I don't think they're lazy. I think that's incredibly tough work. I just don't think I'd want a housewife. My mom and dad always worked growing up and I think I'd want my family to be similar.

[psychomonkey]

Housewives still exist?

[ElissaDido]

Yes they still do exist

[psychomonkey]

No guy believes that they are lazy ubless he is ignorant.

[psychomonkey]

*unless

[Jessicocoa]

I wouldn't say they're lazy but in my opinion all of that's already expected of you even if you have a full time job. So it's less work compared to what working mothers do but it's still work.

[Keyspirits]

They are lazy cuz they do the bed instead of meh 😔

[ElissaDido]

No they do the bed and they do their husbands as-well

[Keyspirits]

Lelelel ma silly baby Muslim cutie 👄💋

[jmmmfi2]

This is the kind of shit chicks are meant to do, it's what your supposed to do if you did it well you'd all probably hear a lot less complaining from us guys.

[ElissaDido]

Maybe if guys didn't expect us to do both house stuff AND have a full time job we would be able to have more time to put in more effort and do it better

[idkwtftoputhere]

housework is meant to be done anyone who lives in a fucking house lmao

[jmmmfi2]

And has a vagina

[Anonymous]

I believe I covered this adequately:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a21655-women-stay-at-home-moms-are-not-acceptable-today

[ElissaDido]

This is the kind of comments that I completely disagree with, you talk about the woman as if it's your roommate not as you're other half!

[Opinion Owner]

If she is going to live with me, she's going to contribute in meaningful ways.

[bubbletrouble]

Usually guys that undergo the role switch experiment end up apologizing to their wives when she gets back from work. Just ignore their stupid asses.

[llorando]

Cause woman makes no money being a house wife and they feel doing house work is a piece of cake. Tho not all guys view house wives as lazy.

[bustas]

Who say that?
i always thought become a mother is probably the hardest job for human.

[LordZero]

Housewives are not lazy. Housewives are awesome. Those guys are dumb.

[Maxemeister]

Sure, they do all that,

BUT WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR ALL THAT BANK?

[Bluemax]

I've heard at least as many women say that.

[ElissaDido]

Not false, I always here this from Feminazis

[BumbleSuperBee]

Lol, when did they say that?

[ElissaDido]

I've seen these kinds of comments on social medias way too many times