Prison vs Real Life?
I have a friend that has a 3 year old son and a baby on the way (due later in 2010). Her husband, which is also my brother, has been in and out of prison for his entire life (he is almost 30 now). The other day he made this comment "It would be easier to go back to prison then deal with the stress out here". They both met about 5 years ago in the "drug crowd", both were into meth, cocaine and everything else. They had a baby, and he went to prison a few months after their baby was born. He just got out in July of 2009 and then she got preggo again. I want to tell him so bad that he is a coward and needs to man up but every time someone says he needs to start flying right, he gets p*ssed and hits something or argues until someone caves and agrees with him that drugs, and the "easy life of prison" is better. I feel bad for his wife because she has quit the drugs and drinking and is trying to be the best mom that she can. I know he is my brother but I don't agree with anything that he is doing or says. I feel that he wants to mess up and go back to prison until their next kid is 2 or 3 or so.
Has anyone been in this situation that his wife or myself, my family has been in? Is/was there anything that can be said or done to him that will make him WAKE UP? I tell his wife to leave him all the time because he treats her like crap. Says she's fat and needs to lose weight, tells her that she's lazy. Which, okay yeah when he was locked up this last time, she finished up school but never uses her degree. She also stayed with her parents because taking care of a kid on her own and trying to get up and started was difficult for her. So, in a sense she may be lazy, but she has been taking care of their kid.
Oh, and every time he gets locked up he will get in debt with people in prison and then expect people to put money on his books to help bail him out, which is usually our parents. So, of course prison is easier for him. He gets in debt, oh there's mommy and daddy to bail him out. How can I convince them that they are enabling him a "better life" in prison if they are always there to HELP HIM?!?!?!?
Thanks for letting vent. Hope someone can help, please
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