Well, clearly we got here because we allowed women to learn to read. I mean it sounded good in theory, but... Sigh.
Pew Research in the US has polled men's and women's happiness since the 1970s whilst men are basically as happy as at any point in the last 40 years, every decade women have become less happy, decade on decade.
20 years ago women got together and decided they wanted fewer gender roles, for men to be more sensitive, caring, more involved in housework and child raising. So men did this, and you know what happened? Divorce rates went up, marriage rates went down and women's happiness tanked harder. Metrosexual salad eaters aren't what women want for partners.
Men and women are better at different things, experience and reason created gender roles and the great feminist fight to reverse this natural state has simply left more women more unhappy working long hours with no partner and few prospects. The evidence is there, all over the data. If for a moment you think women don't want stereotypes, ask how many would prefer to marry a metrosexual over a Prince.
I hope this helps.
That list is aweful. It just paints femininity as a crybaby and masculinity as some evil motherfuckers. Rather look at these here as thye focus on the positives of both:
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i wouldn't be able to be with someone unemotional like that...
i fit a lot of the 'feminine' qualities, but my boyfriend only fits a few of the "masculine" qualities, and even though he's a dude he's a lot more sensitive to other people's feelings and he's a lot kinder !! i seriously hate guys that are actually quite sensitive but pretend to be totally unemotional 'cause they think it makes them more "masculine" or something... it's pathetic, its fine if you're naturally unemotional but if you're just faking it it's so silly, most people after serious relationships want others who can express their emotions clearly, me personally i LOVE emotional and sensitive men its so cute, my boyfriend is really strong physically he's so sensitive and selfless i love it and it makes me happy !!
gender roles are so outdated... and i actually want to work outside the house so they could never work for me^__^ people should do whatever they want!
lol if the guy in that list is so independent worldly and indifferent to secrurity, he wouldn't be attached to anyone in the fist place.. and if he's 'dominant' then none of her qualities would come through and thread both be fucked.
my thoughts-- its b. s. and roles are not in any way the same as the character of a person. a role ids an act. it does not deal with who we are as people, any more than id be jack the ripper just bc i play the part in a performance on stage. roles are devised precisely bc people are NMOT naturally that way. if thats how we were we wouldn't require behavioral reminders or enforcement.
its b. s.
For me and my partner, it really wouldn't work. I mean, I fit quite a bit of the female stereotypes and he fits a few of the male ones, but out of the two of us, he's the one that enjoys and is good at cleaning and cooking and would probably be a better parent and would enjoy staying and taking care of the home and the children. It would send me insane if I had to do that. I'd much rather go out and work and do something away from home, I know that I'd go crazy with my role being so restricted to the home but he would thrive in it.
In the future if thats what I want, then I wouldn't mind-- I do think looking after children is a 24/7 job and is hard however I feel like after their infant stage I would want to work. However I don't want my husband/boyfriend to have already decided that I would do this, it has to be talked about and shouldn't be expected
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Oh look at how "masculine" apart from being "independent" and "active", it's actually a bunch of negative qualities like "cruel" and "less sensitive to other's feelings"! And people wonder why I think thriving to be seen as "masculine" is actually detrimental for you.
Anyways, I think if you want to put "roles" on people based on their "sex", then you're off the track. People should do whatever is most reasonable for them to do, for which you need to specify tasks and also evaluate who is better at what. And no, having a vagina doesn't suddenly make you a better cook.
I believe in traditional gender roles. Of course those qualities listed don't apply to all men and women, but in general they're mostly true. Apart from a few on the list they describe me and my girlfriend pretty much. I think young children are better off at home with their own Mothers than in daycare, and while stay at home Dads can take good care of kids too it makes more sense to me to have the woman at home, especially since it's healthier for both the Mother and the child, and cheaper, to breastfeed a baby rather than formula. If men were meant to stay with the kids and women work we'd have tits too.
It's a foolish idea to stick to roles. The same tradition was in a lot of sports until people realized that having team mates that can switch roles will greatly increase the ability of the team.
If you aren't having babies then both of you better be working and earn enough for the savings of 2 people. Share the house work and take turns to assist the other. Husband cook, repair stuff and wife cleans, do laundry. If he fails at cooking then he better do the cleaning and repairs.
If you are having a baby, then the wife takes the time off with maternity leave (this is where US failed with women, no laws for it) and the husband takes half days off to assist his wife with the kid. Your finance will take a beating but that's why you have 2 people working.
I was going to ask a similar question last night, but forgot about it. I think I might write it up later. I think this is something I would be looking for at this moment in my life. Someone who is wanting to be more of the women and wanting me to be more of the man. Not this weird societal norm we have today where the woman works too and stuff.
I think that list is complete crap on both sides, and it never was that way. Those are not traditional gender traits, and gender roles have always changed to best suit survival. So in that regard, whatever allows you to thrive is what's best.
That list was made by someone with a VERY gendered view of the world (and one with an axe to grind).
According to this chart man and women stereotype. I would have to say the following.
Well my brother is kinda of the cruel and not nuturing person.
My mom is kinda of like the man and the women of the house.
My step-dad is kinda of like women but has a manly job.
Me: I am like a more man than women. haha I can be a totally girl when I am really happy. Sometimes I can be too girly and emotional in front of my brother.
My dad can be a little of both.
i don't mind them so much, but i believe more in teamwork than this kind of 'binary'. this pink/blue dynamic. in reality, males and females aren't strictly like this anyway, so there's bound to be some kind of overlap.
The wife should be bringing in the big income while the husband knits a sweater and cooks and stays at home.
Most people have a mixture of so called "masculine" and "feminine" traits. Break things up the way that makes sense for the individuals...
I think the list is just awful... truly a bad representation of the genders.
I'm going to work 40-60 hours a week (probably on the higher end) once I get my doctorate's in physics. That's undebatable. My woman can work around that, taking care of the house or working herself.
I'll provide for myself. That way I don't have to work at something I don't like in order to buy something I don't need.
You can do what you want.
My husband and I fit some of them. But definitely not all of them.
I'm a mixture of both but I prefer the traditional role of the guy being in charge and being the bread winner
Lol nope. I don't believe in it, any gender role. We are all about equality now remember?
I support them for the most part but don't fully agree with that post
To stereotype , that's how it was in the 50s mostly but not now
I feel indifferent about it
I don't care. Do you
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