Do you want Children?

[Anonymous]

How old are you? Do you want children?
Are you certain or might you change your mind?

I'm a (not newly) single after a 2 and a half year relationship.
I have started dating again.

I am finding a lot of men want children.
I feel as though there is littel people around for a relationship wit my life choice.
It's not like I'm saying I will only date men who are 6ft etc

I am 30 and don't want children. I may change my mind. But no point lying or leading someone on.
I used to always think I would have them and I also wanted them. But I have changed my mind.

How about you?

[JudgmentDay]

Really? What was the reason you changed your mind?

For me children is Definitely a NO and it is mainly because of existential reasons but how I view the current state of the world is a big factor as well as this world and reality altogether. I think things will eventually get so bad that it becomes a point of no return.

I find that many things are very unstable now, such as big economic problems from large amounts of unemployment, always the possibility of being laid off, or being replaced by oversea workers that are outsourced, or even replaced by automation. And all the shit tons of bad things that comes with life that will eventually affect you the moment you are brought into existence and consciousness here. All the bad things are absolutely Guaranteed and stacked completely against you once you arrive here in this reality. What I meant is all the illnesses, pain, hardships, etc. and in the end, it's always the same result: you Die,

And everyone dies regardless of whom they are, whom they aren't, what they do, or what they don't do, and regardless of pretty much everything and anything else.

And even all the stuff that we had ever accumulated and owned in our lifetimes will no longer be in our possession when we are gone from this world.

In other words, I feel by my own conscience that I would spare and save someone all the trouble and misery they would have to face here in this reality "eventually" once they become part of this reality by making the choice of not having or wanting any children of my own.

I'm somewhere in my 30s, the age displayed here isn't even remotely close to my current age.

[Asker]

I agree with you about the way the world in going. The waymost of us is unsustainable let alone our environmental impact and people fighting over oil and religion etc.

Another reason for me to change my mind is actually, I cannot think of any reason why I want them.
I used to have the idea that if you looked after them and were a nice parent they would look after you when you are old. 1. that is a massively selfish attitude 2. that might not be the case, they could not look after you!

I think children are great, but I just don't fancy my own.

I like to go out drinking at the drop of a hat if I feel like it, traveling and getaways at a last minute when I feel like it. I have so much of the world I want to see.

And yes with what you are saying about odds stacked against. How do I know no matter how good I am that life I chose to create actually wants to be in existance.

I have been told I am selfish for not wanting children which I don't understand.

[Asker]

I think the reasoning of I want a family. Or I want to give my life more meaning. Or I think it's just natural. To me, are selfish, a whole lot I, me, I want. Rather than thinking about the actual possible life te child might have.

Other people are making up for us not having them anyway. You think I'm being selfish?
Well pop out another one to create this so called balance that I am apparently causing to go in to disripute becuase I am choosing not to.
You choose kids, great it's your life.
I don't, great it's my life.
If other people can choose and that's ok then why not for us?

Thanks for your long answer.

[JudgmentDay]

I would rather everyone worked to together somehow to fix all these miserable problems and make it sustainable first before just bringing in another generation to try and pick up the mess the current and prior generations had left behind for us to suffer through. And I know we are all suffering through it now, and possibly will suffer more in the future if it unfolds horribly as I would imagine and expect it to.

Of course that is unrealistic and unlikely to happen because all of humanity will never be united and learn to tolerate each other enough and come to some kind of a truce, and put aside their differences to actually really cooperate and fix the biggest problems in the world. There will always be selfish and personal gain motives that humans will have and develop and that is what gets in the way of resolving all those problems in the world and got us to where we are now.

[JudgmentDay]

I think it's "more selfish" to not really think thoroughly of every important aspect in this world and reality and just jump on the bandwagon of "ok let's have kids, just because everyone else is having them, or because that's what's expected of me by society, family, friends or whomever because they all fucking claim that it is the right thing to do, etc."

Sometimes it makes me wondered if "Death" and the "possibility of Dying" was ever "fixed" somehow by whatever means and if death became no longer possible anymore, then would having children, family, etc. would even matter anymore?

Would that then change society's expectations of that the current generation is obligated to continue this cycle of passing on a "next generation" of people just because no generation will last forever and will eventually cease to exist?

Are society worried that eventually a significantly large number of us would give up and choose childfree and influence others as well?

[Berethor]

I am not totally closed about that, but it's much more likely that I would want children then I would not, it's not something that I am too much in a harry for, but as people gets older, their is much less time to waste, and I am fully aware of the biological clock, even as an man. I see an relationship without children as far less serious, and there is no much point in marriage for people that don't want children.

Usually woman are wanting children far more then man do, because maternal instinct, and because because infertile at an relatively young age, but if you date an much older man you would not be surprised that they want children much sooner then you.

[Asker]

I am not sure how a relationship with out children is less serious? Marriage would be pointless? Can you elaborate?

[Berethor]

Traditionally one of the main reasons for marriage was to ensure that the children would not be rised without an father with an single mother and being known as an bastards. As for why an relationship without an children is far less serious, having an common children is an greater bond then just having sex, for better or for worse, and having an children is an very serious thing, and children are the future, as well as be biggest thing for the long run that can come out of an relationship between man an woman, for better or for worse, when I say for worse, it's mainly in the case of breaking up. Choosing the right partner for children is also more important then choosing the right partner only for sex, because in the end children are more important.

[Asker]

I choose a partner for more than sex. So what about people who marry who then find out they cannot have children? Is that a waste of a marriage? Children are the future of the human race, not the future. And anyway, judging by the ammount of people saying they want 2 3 or 5 themselves they are doing that work for the people that don't. Children are the future of the human race, but at the level of current expansion it is not sustainable :)

[Berethor]

The same thing that goes for sex are goes for feeling as well, you sow how relatively easy it was for you to live your ex boyfriend after an after a two and a half years of relationship and start dating again, do you think that if you had an common children with him it would had been that easy? children are not only the future of the state, children are also the future of the family, the parents don't have an eternal like, and in the end the children is all that is laft from their relationship, that is how nature works.

[Berethor]

Can't you see how much less an value an relationship without children has? children are one of the main reasons that people are looking for relationship in the first place, and actually it's the most important reason of all, for the long run, and an really serious relationship is all about the long run, and not the short lived enjoyment. Many people are not going to marry an infertile person in the first place, and yes it's an very bad choice to marry someone like that, in most of the cases, almost as bad as marrying an asexual.

[Asker]

It was not easy to leave my partner. He was cheating on me. I had nightmares for weeks every night. I am lucky because he treated me very badley and I made the mistake to stay through abuse. No it would not have been easy to move on from him with children, becuase I would be forced to communicate with him. Yes children are the future of the human race, we are not exactly close to extintion. Imagine if every single uman had one child each in their life. Like I say, people popping out 5. Doesn't matter if I don't. And the world will cope just fine without any humans.

[Asker]

If people are unable to create a relationship which has value without creating a new life then they have a problem. It is selfish to bring a life in to the world to bring value to a relationship is it not? No it is not why a majority of people are looking for a relationship. No it is not the most important thing. Yes people would marry someone infertile. No it's not a bad choice. And nothing like marrying someone Asexual lol

[Berethor]

Yes humans would survive even without you having an children, because there are so many humans in the 21 century, but what about your family and your future partner, would they too have an continuity? or would their legacy would end thanks to you? You might think that people that have many children are "suckers", and it's may be true for the short run, but in the long run they would have much more successors then you, and your partner, in the case that you would find one. Really can't you understand the difference between your own children and other people children? especially an people that have very little proximity to you? you think that the world would just fine without any humans? well I am not surprised to hear something like that from an woman that don't want children, but the real question is why would an man sacrifice his fatherhood and legacy for you? you really think that you worth such an huge sacrifice?

[Berethor]

It's even more selfish to live only for yourself, and don't care about your children, your partner, your family, and about survival of humans as whole, just so you have an easy life with no need to invest in your children and family. No most people would marry someone infertile and someone who is childfree by choice, and with an woman it's not hard to tell, especially if she is too old to having an children, and that is one of the reasons that most men prefer an younger woman, besides their looks.

[Asker]

Was Albert Einsiten remembered for his children? No. Abraham Lincoln? No. What about Da Vinci? Aristotle? No didn't think so. We leave our own legacy. Children don't create it. I didn't say people are suckers for having children. And why do I need successors? I'm not a princess or a queen. I'm an 'average' person. Yes of course the world would be fine without humans. Nature would evolve in it's own natural way. Ecosystems would adapt just as they have for 1000's of years. Humans do not keep the world going. We actually spend a lot of time messing it up. Yes a man probably would sacrifice father hood and legacy forme. Maby not a prince, or a king. But a decent man WHO DOES NOT WANT CHILDREN. Would do. Of course.

[Asker]

So by not having a child I am selfish? How so? What if the child is so unhappy in life? Who says I would not care for my own children? Of course I would. We are talking about something non existant. I would be an awesome mother. I care a great deal for my family and friends. Not wanting children does not automatically make me a selfish, non caring person who only cares for them self.

[Asker]

For some one who is '' not totally closed about that '' and '' much more likely that I would want children then I would not '' Is absolutely completely closed about it. And definitely going to have children no matter not. If you do not have children you are selfish, you will not be a caring person, you will not leave a legacy becuase you can't achieve that for yourself, you hope you will be remembered for your children, you won't you will be remembered for you. Honestly unless you have children you will be a terrible terrible person.

[Berethor]

Most people that didn't want children are very selfish, they try to say that it's good for the world, but it's not true and it's not their main reason most of the time, and yes most people that didn't want children make an very bad parents if they somehow end up having children. You claim that you would be an "awesome mother" and yet you don't want an children, ya like I am going to believe that. Good luck with being as famous as Albert Einsiten or Abraham Lincoln. Not only an queen need an successors, and you don't need to be an queen to have children. You would have an very hard time to find an decent man if you don't want an children, and decent man deserve an better woman, then someone who didn't want to have his children, I guess that it's one of the main reasons that you end up with womanizers.

[Berethor]

The fact that I am not totally closed about that, don't means that I am not recognizing that it's better to have children in most of the cases, the only thing that I am not sure about is when i be really for that, and if I would be wiliing to sacrifice my fatherhood for someone who might worth it, but I do know that most woman don't worth it, especially most of the "childfree" woman who are selfish and have an problematic personality, not only in the case of children.

[Asker]

I don't want children, well, becuase I don't. You make no sense with just becuase someone doesn't want children they would be a bad parent. How many people in the world choose to have have children and are terrible parents? I don't want to be famous. The legacy I am creating and will continue is fine by me. I am stating, a legacy is made by an individual not by children. They create their own. Not every man wants a child. Not every woman wants a child. Thats ok. You want children. Thats ok. You think I am a bad, uncaring, selfish, incapable person for not. That's ok. I think you are shallow minded, deluded and ignorent. That is also ok. I get it. You do not find it acceptable for me to not have children. That is also. O. K Now go and google '' I don't want children '' and get angry and dismayed at all the other stupid MEN and WOMEN who don't want children. And be happy in the fact there is more space left for your children and the shallow views you will pass on in your legacy XXX

[Asker]

Child free Ahhh that sounds lovely to me :D
No go find a well behaved women and get her to pop out a dozen. Then you can be a real boy. And yes, you are TOTALLY closed on this matter. Someone infertile you would not marry. Someone who doesn't want children is a bad human (slaps own wrist) So there fore, you re pretty much closed on the subject.

[Berethor]

It's safe to assume that you would not have any legacy, and you would feel sorry in the end that you did not had an children when you could, but you would be alone, with no husband and no children. I never said that you sould not allow to not having children, maybe it's for the best, but mainly because you would be an bad parent. I don't care too much about you don't having an children, but I would not advise to almost any man to be with someone like you. Yes there would be more space left for other children, at yours and your close ones expense. You need to understand, you are not the only woman that didn't want an children that I know, so it's not only about you. I have an full right to not marry an infertile and/or "childfree" women, and I did in fact rejected some women because of that already. No problem, I am looking for behaved women in any case. You too pretty much closed on the subject, from the other side. "Childfree" it's, the term, I don't made it up.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Childfree

[Asker]

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[Prettygurl12]

I am 22.

I do not want children.

People tell me that I am young and I will change my mind. I have felt this way since I was six, however, and the idea of having children makes me so extremely depressed, you have no idea.

It is an unpopular opinion, and it will offend people, but here it is. For me, being a mother is the worst possible thing I could ever be.

I feel motherhood restricts you. It defines you. That's all I'd ever be. My education. My wants. My life. It won't matter. No one will care about me. They'll only care about the kid.

And I'll own it. I am too damn selfish to be a mother. It's the worst thing that could possibly ever happen to me. And the idea that I might, at some point in the future, have to birth a child just makes me die inside every time I think about it. It is the complete and utter antithesis of everything I want for myself in my life.

[Asker]

Thank you for your blunt honesty. It's your life! It's an odd thing people finding it offensive when other don't want children. I have recently been on a 2nd date with someone whowas very understanding about it, they are a great guy, we get on so well. But I have a feeling that he really wants it! Only you can know whats best for you. I don't think it is selfish not wanting children. How can something be selfish if the life doesn't even exist yet!! Good luck xx

[MissHope]

I'm 19 and yes I want this 👇🏻😍😃
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And this 👇🏻😍😃
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And this 😍😃👇🏻
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But of course not now because i want to live my life and enjoy it then I'll think about starting a family with my boyfriend 😃😃😃 when I'm old enough and when I feel that i can be responsible for myself and my kids 😍😍😃😃😃 honestly i didn't think of having kids when i was younger but when i think about it with a different way 😕😕 I want a big family because i don't want to live alone and miserable when i get older 😃😃😃😃 I'll be with my family and grandchildren 😍😍😃😃

[MissHope]

@Omar5881 😏😏😏 HI

[Omar5881]

Hahaha spit on my grave when this happens 😂😂😂

[MissHope]

@Omar5881 why you're saying this? 😒😒😏😏

[Omar5881]

I don't know 😂 😂 😂

[MissHope]

@Omar5881 fffffffff 😒😒😒😒
Me a mother? Bahahahaha 😂😂😂😂
I told you that i want kids 😏😏😏

[Omar5881]

Yes but u told me in a pedophile way 😂😂😂

[MissHope]

@Omar5881 😂😂😂

[Humping_Tornadoes]

Damn, this response almost convinced me to have kids one day. ALMOST.

[MissHope]

@Humping_Tornadoes Do you want kids? 😃

[Humping_Tornadoes]

Nah, I quit that idea a while ago. I just find more reasons to not have kids than to have kids. But you're response seemed all positive and nostalgic you almost convinced me lol :P

[MissHope]

@Humping_Tornadoes Well it's your life and you're the only one who can decide if you can handle having a family or not 😅😅😅😅 some people prefer to live alone and miserable and even die alone but i'm not that person 😃😃😃 I'd rather play with my grandchildren and celebrate with a big family than being lonely and kill myself slowly because of my sadness 😕😕😃😃😃 so yeah it's your choice after all 😃😃😃
You wan this 👇🏻😕
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💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
Or this 👇🏻😃😃
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😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃

[Asker]

@MissHope That's a bit harsh! People who don't have children don't automatically live alone and die alone! Some peoples children have nothing to do with them even if their parents are amazing. For all you know you could have a big family and still die lonely. Your kids could move away, and raise their children elsewhere and you never see them. I think it's important to realise you will have to nuture outside relaitonships throughot your life ad when you get old and not only rely on family. I work with old people everyday. There are some with no children who have huge social and support networks and are happy. Some have a few children who never see them, help or call etc! And people who do choose to seek solice, who are you to say they are not happy with that? Some people really just don't like other people haha

[MissHope]

True. but still that depends on my away of raising my kids😅 if i make them realize what does family really means that should be fine 😅 I'm not saying that my kids will live with me forever "that's sick"😕of course they will move away and some will be busy in their lives and i'm going to stay lonely with my husband but they can visit us in weekends and spend holidays together or even stay in touch over the phone😃😃 and trust them no matter how old you are you'll always need your parents at some points in your life even if that was for advises or just for a talk😅😅 oh and i'm not saying that anyone who doesn't want to have kids is a loser😳 because some hate kids "like me but i still want them"😂😂 and some are afraid of responsibilities and some may live happy with their loved ones but trust me they're going to regret it at some point in their life and wish that they have a kid when it's too late so they go for adoption and some have kids but still lonely and not even happy 😕😕😕 so

[MissHope]

⚠️⚠️ WARNING ⚠️⚠️
i'm talking about myself here not in general 😃😃 so relax people everyone is different and have different opinions on this 😃😃 if you don't have kids that's cool nobody's going to force you to 😃😃 people are free in their lives 😃
P. S this is for drama queens 😏😏😃😃

[RJGraveyTrain]

I'm 22, I'm going to be 23, and when I was younger I was positive that by now my whole life would be exactly how I wanted it to be and I would probably be pregnant by now.

Now, I am a lot smarter.

I still have things that I want to do before I have babies, and part of that comes with being with the right person. I'm not racing to the baby finish line if you catch my drift.

[Anonymous]

I am 25. I do not want children right now, but in the future, I may want to have one or two children.

The only birth control I am on right now is abstinence. Never had sexual contact in my life, never been penetrated before, never had a boyfriend or spouse.

[JRICHARDS1996]

I am 19 soon to be 20 in a couple weeks. Yes I want to have children someday, preferably two daughters. It is my absolute dream and what I desire most in life, to be a father and have my own little girls. I want to have them by the time I'm 24. I'd like to name them Monica Basil and Jennie Marie, baptize them Russian Orthodox, and take them to the shooting range so that they can protect themselves from rapists.

[Asker]

Wow proper little fairy tale dreamer. Do you have a partner? Does she or do you think she will behappy with the chosen names?

[JRICHARDS1996]

No not yet. I am very single :( there is this one girl I like though who is super pretty, traditional, and dreams of being a mother and belongs to the same religion as me, but she lives kind of far away.

[heywhisper]

I'm 24 and I wouldn't mind having children but I'm not dying to have them, if I have them great and if I don't great. I have a nephew I'm all to happy to love and spoil =) Right as of now I'm not ready for children. Maybe by the time I'm 30. I'm not sure if I'll change my mind.

[Anonymous]

I am 36, and I would like children. I understand the problem you are having, as I am on the other side of it. All I am finding are women that don't want children. The ones that did want children all had children when they were much younger, and feel their little family is complete. I have no idea where the stereotype of the desperate woman looking to get pregnant before it is too late comes from. The only baby crazy females I ever notice are teenagers, or in their early twenties which is too young for me.

[Asker]

How funny. Wel I know people who are late 20s and want children. To be honest if I was in a stable relationship a couple of years ago I would have had children! I changed my mind to a complete no in the last year. I don't want to be too picky but I also would not want to be with someone who sa young children. That sounds selfish. But I would like to chare a life with someone where y can go in to london town last minute for cocktails or jump on a plane last minute for a sneaky weekend getaway! :D I hope you do find somebody. Someone I know recetly had a child when she was 38. So women with no children, who are stable minded and want to start a family are out there! Just as a man who will not want children or is ope minded to ano will be out there too! Somewhere...

[DaisyJane]

20 years old
I am absolutely certain I dont want children.

there's nothing wrong with not wanting children. A kid costs, on average, $218,000 to raise from birth to age 18. And that doesn't include the $40,000 or so you will spend on it for college.

I am not willing to give up my happiness and freedom to raise another person.

[Aline1]

I don't want kids. Not because I hate them but because I just really don't want them. Once you have them you have to be comitted for at least 18 years. You never get to do what you want anymore. I don't get why everyone here seems to want kids. There are already too much people on this earth.

[Aizou]

I do, but I still have things I want to do before I make that commitment
I mean.. I have the resources and time, but I don't want to limit myself just yet.

And when I do, I hope it's either one, or two
if one, I'd like a daughter, if two first daughter then a son.

I'm 25 by the way, but you can see that on my profile. ^.^

[Sara413]

I do not want children. Thankfully neither does my boyfriend.

I understand your frustration - it is hard to find a man who doesn't want to be father one day... but they are out there I promise!

[Asker]

Giving me faith!

I have been on POF not signed in to do a quick search as a recee. So many men listed as don't want children have such demands on what they want!

Like I say, I am not fussy with other things so much. Plus I would not mind if someone else had older children. That's fine by me :)

[stefan1985]

I'll be honest, I use to, but as I grew older I was only kidding myself partly because the way I live my life, I'm a 34 year old virgin and never had a girlfriend, I just can't picture myself ever being a father laughs, and also no woman is interested in me as I'm just not relationship or father material and I'm just not appealing enough, as soon as I open my mouth they are turned off, and when u have a zillion other guys out here who the women go for it actually makes me feel happy to know they have to deal with them instead of me, and I like seeing people hookup and have babies or get married I'm a loner at heart any way and I hate being out in public.

[Anonymous]

1 22
2 yes
3 I'm positive
You're 30 there are health concerns that increase with age so if you want to do it ( and it sounds like you don't ) you might want to get on that. Do you have much experience with somewhat older guys? That's one demographic of men I know that typically doesn't want kids. I think the younger the guy is the more likely that it is that he wants kids. ( Obvious exceptions of course.

[Asker]

I have dated a guy who is 5 years older tha me and i think he does want one. Another I met online and we were talking on the phone, got on so well and wanted to meet. But he said he absolutely wanted children and would regret it on his death bed! He also was convinced I would change my mind. So I won't meet him. Yeah I could change my mind. I didn't know I would change my mind to a no! So if I do I have 5 years to make it happen! Past35 for me personally is too late. It gets the most risky past 40, but 35should be the marker! To be honest Imsingle so either way it's so not on the cards haha

[Opinion Owner]

I respect you a lot for being honest with these guys. It's an issue that I take very seriously and feel like it's much easier to like about it instead of being upfront. Trust me it's a numbers game those guys do exist. I think you might need to look a tad harder and you'll find your match.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice. I feel like actually more men want children than women do!

[Phoenix98]

Sure I do but first I want to make sure that the world they would live in is one worth living in first.

[Asker]

I would say generally there is more awareness for sustainability and the environment etc now. A little more being done after many many yearsof industrial revolution. But absolutely, I agree it is better to be more sure that in 50 years time they won't be starving or fighting to live. I always said, if I had children, I would teach them survival skills, how to find wild food, see if they wanted to go to bushcraft lessons, and get one of my best friends to teach them how to snare and shoot then gut and prepare animals (I am sorry if you are vegan or vegetarian!!)

[Anonymous]

I'm 23 and I don't want children. I wonder how it's like to be pregnant and feeling an human being growing inside of you, but I know that being a mother is so much more than that. It's a big responsibility and it changes your life.
There was a time that I wanted to have children, but then I realized certain things and I changed my mind.
I think I won't change my mind again.

[Anonymous]

I'm 21, and no I don't want children.

When I was young, I thought maybe one. But now that my chances are so low (due to a medical condition), I decided not to even go there. I am totally fine with that decision. When I was dating, I found a lot of guys that were interested in me wanted children. I had to tell them up front that I don't.

[ThisDudeHere]

At some point I will indeed want some. Preferably three but two would be fine as well. But at this point, chances are I won't get them -__-

[Asker]

Your 20? You have a looonnggg time left to have the possibility to reproduce! Why do you think you won't have them?

[ThisDudeHere]

lol never had a girlfriend yet, doesn't look like I'll be getting one any time soon.

[Asker]

Well I don't really think you have much to worry about. Again, you have only been in existance for 20 years. And most of that you were a child. To the romans you wern't an adult until your 30th birthday haha

[ThisDudeHere]

haha lol well if you look at it that way, perhaps I'm not doomed after all. Thanks :)

[Asker]

haha your welcome all the best

[QadirTheMagnificent]

I'm 19 and I definitely want children. I have younger siblings and I did look after them when I was a kid. I know it can be stressful when you have children in your life, but you will love them so much and see them grow. My dream is to have a family with my wife before I die.

[TheLuckyOne1]

I'm 20 and yes I do want children, at least 2 boys and 2 girls, I'm certain about this, I don't believe I would ever change my mind. I love kids and having my own is definitely a big dream I have :)

[obiwansmistress]

I'm nineteen - my profile says twenty but that was an innocent mistake. My husband is twenty one, we both want three kids. We'll probably start trying in a couple years.

[Soshy]

I have always said i want two boys and a girl, for the time being I'm uncertain. I need someone on the same page as me, in the last year I've met a man that was open to the idea and another that didn't want any.

[Takada]

I'm 22. I don't want children. I'm absolutely certain that I won't change my mind. It may be difficult to find a guy who shares your views on children, but luckily, more and more people are choosing not to have children.

[soffffixaz]

I'm 19 and forever alone and don't want children :) i don't think I'm mother material tbh, raising kids looks difficult.

[Asker]

It is very difficult I'm sure. I don't think people realise that. Someone I knw recently had a child and said she had no idea it would be that, that hard. But loves her child so much of course. But was just wrapped up in all the wonderfull rather than reality. She is happy though. That is the main thing. You would most likely make a fantastic mother, but it's not for everyone. Never let people shame you or tell you what should be if you don't change your mind!

[soffffixaz]

exactly, i think some people just aren't cut out for it and thats totally fine but my aunt was adamant she didn't want kids but when it actually came to having kids she totally loved it so you can never really know

[Asker]

Yeah it's hard to say, I changed my mind from yes to no. Whos to say in 2 years I won't change again? No some people arn't. But you might surprise yourself like your Aunt did.

[MickyMouse1231]

I'm 19 and I want 1 child but not any time soon. I mean... years down the line. When (or if I suppose) I have a child, I want them to a be seen as a blessing in my life, not a burden.