Why do people put one body type down in order to lift up another?

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I see overweight girls shitting on skinny girls, and skinny girls shitting on overweight girls. I just read a take on skinny shaming, and while I agree that's a huge problem, there is no need to deliberately bash another body type. Why do people do this? I can say curvy is beautiful without being down thin girls, and vice versa. 

It makes me sad that women are putting down other women and men are putting down other men. 

Just a rant question. It really upset me.

shinyunicorn · Accepted Answer

personally I think there's a huge difference between skinny and fat shaming, and many people might think I'm a heartless creature, but I think skinny shaming is way worse.

why? because every skinny person who is naturally skinny or has an eating disorder they can't control gets shitted on with hate and remarks like "eat more" "anorexic bitch". how do you expect them to change something they didn't choose to have?

and overweight people, in most cases, choose to be overweight. choose to eat unhealthy and not do any sport, yet they treat it like it's society's problem. I know there are overweight people who suffer from eating disorders as well, but the majority are just lazy pricks.

so why do those who can't control how their body works be treated like garbage by society, and those who slowly kill themselves by choice get special treatment?

most fat people who shit on skinny people are doing it because they're jealous. they know they're too lazy to be skinny too, so they make it seem like being fat is better.
kinda like hipsters, they can't afford expensive clothes so they make old and second hand clothes look cool.

Ruff2muffs · Accepted Answer

We're humans, it's what we do.

I'll add my two cents:

There is a standard of beauty in society whether people want to acknowledge it or not. I understand men and women who work damn hard to look and feel good physically, then feel cheapened when people try to say it makes no difference, that you can eat all the twinkies and sigh it's you want and people should still say you're pretty when you have chin rolls down to your knees.

Being healthy shouldn't be undermined by those who claim "oh you're still beautiful no matter what you look like" by definition that makes no sense.

Let me add my disclaimer that I think the bar IS set too high by society. We shouldn't have to be perfect to be beautiful, but we should at least be healthy.

Mustachekitteh · Accepted Answer

They feel like if they put one group down, then it will make them see better. So humans are always wanting to be better than others.

To me being overweight or skinny is only bad when you're unhealthy physically. Now if they do everything 100% correctly and their doctor tells them they're in healthy shape and healthy body fat %, then there isn't any problem.

Being unhealthy, having either too much body fat or too little. That's being cruel too your own body and saying you don't care that you're hurting it. Unless a doctor tells you that you literally can never fix that, though that's an extremely rare case.

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

Because stupidity.

People seem to think that by putting down one person, you can raise up the other. It's like a constant battle.

How aboot we all just love our damn selves and surround ourselves with people who appreciate us? Yeah some people might not like thick girls, some will, not a crime. Some people will like skinny girls with collar bones and ribs showing, it's not a crime. To each their own.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

Girls are fighting for attention as they want to be desired by males (have you read the Bible... do you get the message of the design and how this all works?).
Girls do lame/immature stuff like that same way guys punch and verbally control each other to get girls.

All stuff that is low level behavior. Find God/Jesus and rise above that! You would be so much better off in a confrontation to say "I'm a big girl yea, you are a skinny girl. I know guys are going to dig you, and I hope I'll get a few myself. Lets work together to make our selves even better." e. g. something positive, teamwork, you aren't gonna get the same dudes and your personality is so important!

sixnineanon · Accepted Answer

Girls are so mean to each other. It's intrasexual competition which means they want to put down members of the same sex in order to gain more mate opportunities. They think they will achieve this through using GAG. They are stupid enough to think they can convince the opposite sex that they are better through GAG because not that many people use this site. They want to lower the confidence of the other body type. I've seen body shaming on here amongst males. Short guys vs. tall guys. I'm 6'9" and I don't feel the need to body shame short guys.

You know, when these types of rant questions are not anonymous. I have more respect for the asker.

TheDevilInside · Answer

Because when people get attacked, they want to attack those who attack them back. Why did you think skinny shaming started? Because skinny people have been bullying the shit out of fat people for centuries. Now the skinny people get a tiny little bit of that medicine and they go nuts. It's an end less circle, really. Has no solution except for everyone to just go blind.

Sunflower19 · Answer

Honestly. Body shaming is never okay. You can be beautiful no matter what size of pants you wear. Yes, it's great being healthy and what not but to the people that aren't don't bash them... Instead encourage them to become healthy. Since I was little Skinny girls would ALWAYS make fun of the "Fat" girls. It's always been like that. Now that the girls being overweight are tired of getting insulted they shoot back. And now they are crying about it. Everyone should just stop.

Goldie757 · Answer

It's sad when one has to paint a dark picture of another to paint a "perfect" picture of themselves.

lilmama229 · Answer

I guess they do it either because the wish they were that body type or just
don't have the mentality to believe all people and all body types are equal. And actually there is no body type because God made us in his image so if you put down one body type you are basically putting down Gods creation.

chintita · Answer

you need to step on *something* to raise urself up yaknowhatimean insecurity in general makes people annoyingly antagonistic

kaylaS91 · Answer

Because there is no legitimate reason to shame any body types, aside from the whole health factor in really extreme cases. So, naturally, people turn to insults to give them something to say. x_x

MaiNameIsSunshine · Answer

Because they are petty.

Just yesterday a girl made a myTake about stopping skinny shaming but the whole thing was really just her saying how skinny=healthy=pretty and everything else is ugly and how she is basically the definition of beauty. When people pointed it out she just got pissy and kept claiming she was just "stating facts". When I told her to get off her high horse she called me dumb and blocked me lmfao 😂.

People just need reasons to feel superior to others and putting others down is the easiest way to feel immediate (but definitely not permanent mind you) satisfaction in oneself. Sad but true!

EllieLexis513 · Answer

I think society turned us against one another. Fat women aren't desired. You see men walking around with shirts saying "no fat chicks" and if an overweight girl wears a two piece swimsuit, then it's gross. Skinny girls aren't desirable because the majority of them have no hips and thighs and breasts, because all three traits require fat, something skinny girls severely lack.

You see Victoria's Secret models and these women in music videos that a proportionate without being overweight so that's what society tells us is beautiful. They don't do that with men. Male models aren't always built, they aren't always small, and they aren't always a pretty boy. The only thing I notice about men is that the stereotype is that men should be like 6ft. tall, but otherwise, they don't have as much pressure on them as women do about their physical traits. Their feelings and emotions is a different story.

HalfBlood · Answer

I agree with you. This really upsets me too. I don't really see the point of putting down other people. I mean, what useful thing do they get out of doing that, anyway? :/

Hans222 · Answer

That's because they focus too much on looks - up to being obsessed - and not on their personality.
Be a nice person around guys and you'll get as much interest, and with a much larger chance of long term success, than "miss USA" who's next to you!

April10 · Answer

I have no idea. This bother me as well. As a skinny girl, I get comments all the time about my body. I don't see how it's ok to do that to me because I'm thin but it's so taboo to do he same to someone bigger

Ginnyweasley97 · Answer

They're insecure and the bring down other people so they feel better

oreodair · Answer

Insecure people feel the need to bring others down to bring themselves up. Body image is a very common issue with women, so of course a lot of us are insecure about our bodies and tend to shame others so we feel better. It's annoying. Im skinny and for example this girl I am acquainted with literally skinny shamed me "girl you need to eat more", etc. but a few weeks before that she was telling me how she wishes she was skinnier

Yanoa_Yanza · Answer

To feel good about themselves Or because they believe that THAT is the standard of beauty

User999 · Answer

It's a insecurity thing , it's more convenient to blame others than improve yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

Well lets just say, I have personally experienced throughout most of my life, plump or overweight women putting me down saying im too "skinny" and I dont eat, and i need to gain weight etc... at the same time I have seen overweight girls always complaining that they can't lose weight, yet they don't want to eat right, or exercise. Instead they would prefer to bash the skinny girls. Not cool

bryon · Answer

While I won't say that big girls don't put down skinny ones I don't recall this being the case on this site not that I have personally saw the posts doing it. But EVERY post made about an over weight girl / woman gets all the haters attention

SweetHomicidalQueen · Answer

A lot of people do that, but people don't realize they don't need to. Lift them all up, don't put them down.

Dog19 · Answer

I dare you to go on YouTube and type in tommy sotmsor. He says if your fat you don't deserve any love from anyone unless your in a wheelchair. That's terrible right there..

bcromartie · Answer

Humans competing over a limited resource. It's normal and expected.

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