Why do people think of me as a whore wherever I go? Since I am a asian?

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I am living in a small town that there are only a few Asians around here. I went to a small bar to play pull with my husband and his brother. While we were playing i could hear some men and women talk about Asians are whores and she is probably a whore and stuff. And i got no balls to say anything back to them and just listening and feeling like i am worthless human. I hear that everywhere, at the Deftones concert that i went a week ago. I just want to live my life happily but i feel like i can't be happy. Everywhere i go, people look at me and stop their smile. I feel like i don't belong here. I am a Asian and i never worked as a hooker and i had sex with one person and i am proud of it. But i can't explain that everywhere i go. I married my husband after high school and i was a good student too. My husband is American and i am korean. I married him when he was 21 and he was handsome, smart, fit person unlike what everyone thinks of Asian girls marrying American guys that are old and can't get any American girls. I was never treated like until i came here and realized what steretypes are for Asian women here. I have 2 children and i am happy most times but when i hear this kind of stuff, i just wanna throw everything away and just leave. Worst thing is, even my husband says that to me when he is arguing with me. I never even worked as a hooker and i was going to top 15% college in korea and i had a lot of ambitions but i married him and moved here. When he is arguing with me, he says without him i would have been a hooker. I would have been better off not marrying him and live in Korea. I feel like i am wasting my 20's life here and living as forever stranger and everyone look at me as a hooker. That's it. I am really sad but i can't leave. Because i have 2 kids and i can't live without them and they need their strong parents together.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

What you need is a plan. First, take stock of what you already know: (1) your husband very clearly looks down on you, and by extension, his own children because of race. (2) He is willing to verbally abuse you, which means it is only a matter of time before he starts doing this to the kids. (3) You live in a town where people are not going to help you. You need to get out and go to a place where you will have some support.

Next, take stock of your resources. (1) How much money do you have? Can you somehow obtain access to 10 grand? That is what it will take to divorce him and set yourself up. You need 2 grand to hire a lawyer, and another grand for additional legal expenses. The rest you can use to get your own place. Alternatively, get him kicked out, and you stay in the house with the kids. Since you live in a small town (likely w cheap property), that money will go a long way. (2) How can you go about getting a good job? This will provide the security you need to support yourself. Also remember, he will have to pay child support, so that will help.

Don't stay with this guy. Right now you are asking if you are wasting your 20's. If you do nothing, you will say, "I wasted my 20's, am I wasting my 30's?" Later you will say, "I wasted my 30's, am I wasting my 40?" Then you will repeat this cycle over and over until you die watching your husband verbally abuse your children (and maybe physically and sexually abuse them - G. I.'s that take Asian wives are very often VERY bad people). They will also grow up in a town that rejects them, where the fathers teach their children to view your children as whores and non-men.

The consequence of of not leaving: you will be sad. You children will be abused by your husband. When they come of age your daughters are likely to be raped by the sons of those men from the bar. Or maybe by your husband - he already looks at Asian women as whores. Your sons will be emasculated by the town, grow full of rage, and become violent. They will begin asking the same question: why did my mother choose this life for me? Their answers will not be kind to you.

What is happening to you is not rare, and is the reason we have a 2 stage immigration process - so that you have access to government help if your husband acquired you with bad intentions.

Stop wondering and start making a plan. You cannot stay where you are, period. Go. Find the resources you need.

Sincerely,

A white dude who is not fucking kidding.

WhiteNationalistCuck · Accepted Answer

LOL. This is what happens when you have white fever. You actually left a top 15 college in Korea to marry some lowlife racist white man just because he's white? HAHAHAHA. This is your punishment for not using your brains.

You should have done your research. Don't you know us whites look down on Asians? Any white man that goes for Asian women are losers, like me. I only go to Asia to get Asian women because white women don't want me. HAHAHAH you got tricked by your husband.

Take your kids and move to Korea. That's the best for everyone.

TakeMaker · Accepted Answer

First of all, your husband should never say those things to you. Thats disgusting that he thinks he can speak to his wife that way. I'd tell him how utterly appalled and upset you are that he would EVER think that of you. He married someone that he thinks would be a hooker? He's an ass.

As for the other people, personally I'd stand up to them and tell them to keep their stupid opinions to themselves. Probably been fucking their cousins so long they were shocked to see someone with thumbs and are just lashing out.

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

Ignore them, hun. You have a wonderful husband and Kids, These Sort of People do Not... Put bread on your own table.
It is like anything. Asians must be Now Somehow StereoTyped like Other people in this World in Which We Live.
Go about your Business and Hold your Head High in the Air. Consider the Sources and 'Living in a small town,' Must be they Are All Just... Bored.
Good luck and BTW: I only Let Asian Girls and Guys give me a Medi and Pedi because Best from the Rest. xx

Máiiréad · Accepted Answer

You poor thing. You need to move to a different area. The people you are surrounded by are definitely disgusting. Your husband doesn't sound very nice either. I don't like the fact that he basically called you a hooker. How awful.

cth96190 · Answer

I am sorry that you have had that unpleasant experience. It is unfair and so rude and cruel for you to be treated in that way.
To understand from where it comes, ask anyone who has had military service in Asia, or even visited Thailand.
I have had both experiences.
In Thailand the only way that I could leave the hotel without being approached by street prostitutes was to ensure that I had a white female with me. Naturally, the females in my group thought that the situation was amusing.
This scene from the film Full Metal Jacket shows the stereotype that has caused you so much pain.

coolbreeze · Answer

It sucks that your kind of stuck. And I think your husband kind of held you back from achieving your goals and dreams. And it seems like he takes you for granted. I think the hooker stereotype is a bad one and it sucks people don't know you but assume things. Just ignore the haters. You don't have to prove nothing to nobody.

Intraluminal · Answer

This is terrible. I'm sorry you're being treated this way where you live. This is DEFINITELY not the case in the rest of the United States. Your husband should be ashamed of himself. You need to stick up for yourself with him, and he needs to stick up for you in public.

Bandit74 · Answer

Generally I think Asian girls are less promiscuous than other races but I guess there is a negative stigma to Asian women moving to the US to marry white men. People often say that they married for money, it's just a common stereotype.

That really sucks that your husband puts you down like that. Sorry 😕

chc0009 · Answer

Well, it's because of those old stereotypes. Back in the day, those military GI's were stationed in Asia and they'd bring home Asian wives. The word spread like wildfire about the "China doll" stereotype.

That's why a good number of half-Asians are military brats, lol.

Krillanr · Answer

What is wrong with the people there? Is it a town with bitter veterans from the Korean war or something?

I live in Texas and there are Asians from every corner here. I don't know of any dislike of them though, aside from the occasional racist idiot who yells at everyone who isn't their race.

Such a strange and angering attitude they give you.
I'd knock the crap out of them for ya if I could.

Anonymous · Answer

This is a tough decision. You need to work with your husband on moving to a better city or state. If you can't feel better in the relationship after 3-4 months and after trying your best, then you need to divorce and leave. There is no reason to feel miserable for the rest of your life. Your kids will understand. Maybe you take custody of one kid and he takes custody of the other. Just don't make any quick decisions. Get advice from a korean American divorce lawyer first as to what to expect if you decide on the divorce route. Get advice from a korean christian group.

My aunt also married an American and moved to a small town in america. After 4 years, she couldn't stand living in america anymore and also had issues with her husband. After 4 years, she divorced and moved back to america. They had 1 daughter but the father took custody of her after the divorce.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, I live in a city populated with Asians, I've seen Korean women attacking Korea and Korean males and being desperate for white men too, which made Asian women look terrible in the west.

Stereotypes are stupid but you're always gonna face it in a foreign country.

Shaft50 · Answer

That is sad that you get that impression from people... I'm not in that environment, so I'm just speculating. But it sounds like a racist community if that's the case...

Sexualchrist · Answer

mmmmmm Korean BBQ... But seriously that's just a stereotype. They wouldn't say that to your face.

frogsbae_1 · Answer

Where I live I heard Asians are virgins till 35 so I don't know

Anonymous · Answer

It's no surprise people think of you as a hooker...

Regulatus · Answer

You should take it as a compliment. Those bitches have heard what amazing little fuck machines you Koreans are, and they're jealous. I'm guessing your husband was in the Air Force.

Anonymous · Answer

DIVERSITY IS A CODE-WORD FOR WHITE GENOCIDE. #WhiteGenocide ANTI-RACISM = ANTI-WHITE

Anonymous · Answer

They're just mad they can't get am Asian girl

Anonymous · Answer

are you sucking cock for money?

Fortheholidays · Answer

fuck them, just be happy

chrisbigman · Answer

I have no idea.

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