Girls- Can a guy be too clean cut?

[joker13]

Girls-is it possible for a guy to be too clean cut? Can you lose interest in a guy because he does not have any problems at all and has a lot going on for himself; almost like he doesn't need a companion? Is this a turn off because women want to be worshiped?

[airiver]

Tossing said if fabulously... There is a difference between "needing" a companion and "wanting" one... I don't "need" to have a man beside me but I find it very pleasant. Tossing's line about being cocky should be taken to heart. It's a pretty common attitude for guys that have it together and, even though they may feel confident, it comes out arrogant and judgmental...But, putting that aside because, of course, that is not always the issue...Guys that have their stuff together are very attractive...They have direction, know their mind, know what they want and know how to achieve it. What isn't sexy about that? And we don't want to be worshipped any more than you do...Respected, appreciated, valued, secure, basically treasured. I sure don't want a guy kissing my behind. Some do but I find that needy and irritating.

[TossingPebbles]

I don't need my boyfriend to have problems, but I do want him to want me around. It's not that I want to be worshiped, it's more about being appreciated. And I find that people who think they don't have problems are sometimes a little to cocky for my tastes. Mistakes are part of what make us human. They leave us vulnerable, if only for a moment, and this makes us more understanding when others make mistakes.

[airiver]

Beautifully said!

[dragonfly6516]

I was with a guy like that, and to this day I still wonder "why me?" I love myself and I have high self-esteem, but honestly he was so above me! He really DIDN'T need a GF, he was honestly just lonely. I caught wind of it, and left.

[solidranger]

Yes it is possible. Girls like guys who have a bit of an edge. Not problems, but being fun, adventurous and playfully cocky is something that girls really really find attractive. If you're too nice, too simple, you can come off as boring.

Girls like a guy who seems like he doesn't need a companion, someone that doesn't need a girlfriend to make them happy because they make themselves happy.

And yes, women are turned off by a guy who worships a woman. Girls want to be a part of your life, not your whole life.

[reallyconfused33]

While I wouldn't want a needy/clingy guy, I do want to be appreciated and wanted. I like confidence too, but a guy that seems like he doesn't need a companion would be a turn-off for me. To me, the ultimate would be a fun, loving, confident man with his act together but wanting someone to share life with and able to show that. If I was with someone who seemed like he didn't want me around, I'd be gone.

[solidranger]

You're actually saying the same thing that I was. You want a guy who has his act together and wants to share his life with you. That's what I'm talking about too! When I talk about a guy who doesn't NEED a girlfriend to be happy, I'm not saying that he doesn't WANT one. I'm talking about a guy who won't sit around and mope just because he's single, whose whole life DOESN'T revolve around a woman, but rather a guy who's life is great already, but that is made even better with a partner.

[BrunnetteinStyle]

Not unless the girl has self -esteem issues already.