Married coworker ... more than flirting?

I want to know if we're too close for comfort, are we flirting? Or something more...

I've been working for the company for almost a year now. We've always had a good friendship. In the beginning I took it as him being a nice guy. We work on the same team seeing each other everyday. The last few months have me questioning our friendship. We now sit next to one another...

We talk about our personal relationships with our partners, life, and past times (telling stories of growing up), also painful times. It's odd but we also have financial conversations. He's a lot older than me and has a wife. I've never met he's wife and I'm pretty sure that he doesn't want that to happen.

We have a lot of alone time at work. Nothing physical has ever happened and I do not plan on that happening. Nor have we had talks about such things. I'm seeking advice because he's been making comments that I don't understand. I consider him to be my mentor. This week he's made statements like, "You know too much about my personal life already." This week during one of our mentor talks I could have swore that he was about to cry. We've maybe touched a few times.

We respect each other opinions and take our talks serious. He's just a nice guy. I can ask for anything that he has and he will give it to me. I really need advice, please help.

He's always makes comments like, I love to see you laugh or making you laugh makes my day.


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  • Hiya :o)

    The very fact that you're asking us probably means that something in your feelings tells you it may be heading in the wrong direction, even if its just for him. You've got to trust your instincts here.

    It could of course be that he just see's you as a very good friend and co worker, but the fact that he has said 'you know too much about my life already' and the comments about liking to see you laugh etc to ME (just my opinion based on what I am reading) that he is implying an intimacy ...which could mean in a friendly way.

    He probably values the time you have and the fact that he can talk to you, but is probably also flattered and maybe a little confused by his seemingly very close friendship with a younger female.

    Ask more about his wife, and if he talks to her in this manner. If you really want to keep this as just a friendship and don't want to risk over stepping the friendship mark, involve her, let him know how aware you are of her existance.

    Hope things work out good for you :o)