Are you very judgmental about the physical appearance of others? Do you judge people for not hiding their imperfections?

Question

Do you think a big nose or a big forehead (etc) makes a person ugly? Are you critical of others' body shapes?

Are you bothered when you see a woman in a bikini and she has a chubby stomach?
Are you bothered when someone doesn't wear makeup to conceal their dark spots/scars? Or when someone with a big forehead wears a ponytail with all her hair swept back?

When it comes to dating, are you easily turned off by someone who isn't your idea of "perfect"? Would you change your mind about liking them if you found out they had weird feet or some other "flaw"?

Aizou · Accepted Answer

Physical appearance cannot make a person ugly, it's a gross gratification of saying that you don't find someone attractive. If a person, appearance wise, should be ugly, it would have to be to the point of not looking like a human.. in lack of better words.

"Do you think a big nose or a big forehead (etc) makes a person ugly? Are you critical of others' body shapes? No. No. Only if they blame others for their own lack of trying.

"Are you bothered when you see a woman in a bikini and she has a chubby stomach?" Her body is her own, there should never be a need to hide in the first place -- not everyone is at the place they necessarily want to be / feel like they're in a wrong place.

"Are you bothered when someone doesn't wear makeup to conceal their dark spots/scars? Or when someone with a big forehead wears a ponytail with all her hair swept back?" "Imperfections" if you can even call it that, is not something that should be hidden, if and when people feel as such, it's because of society having inflicted their minds with this belief. Physical "imperfections" has a story of their own, like memories from the past -- you don't forget old memories, you accept them, and let them make you stronger.

"When it comes to dating, are you easily turned off by someone who isn't your idea of "perfect"? Would you change your mind about liking them if you found out they had weird feet or some other "flaw"?" My idea of perfect goes far beyond the physical. Your appearance is only needed because it's what causes the immediate attraction/attention, because one needs an impact in some area, to be noticed.. But personality is what makes for a real love-filled companionship. You could be the most gorgeous woman in the world, but if your personality is that of a shallow ____, then she's not worth my time, if you understand. :3

Would I let a physical "imperfection" change my opinion of someone? If it's something as small as having "weird feet", I don't even consider that enough to be called a flaw.. a quirky thing at best. A physical "imperfection" would have to be something they could of easily be changed, but that they've given up on, I have something against people giving up.. especially on themselves. Like, if you're down with excessive weight, you don't start eating ice cream, crying in a corner.. you workout and change it, if it's such a big deal to them. Skin not perfect? Do something about it instead of blaming societal standards. "Weird feet" isn't a "flaw".

BlueCoyote · Accepted Answer

When it comes to dating, I admit I can be kind of picky. I don't care about somebody's feet but things like a girl's face and her body structure are important to me.

However, apart from dating, I'm very tolerant and easy-going. I have preferences but I'm not a judgmental person in any way. I won't think less of anyone for looking imperfect. If you want to wear a bikini although you're overweight, go for it. It also takes guts. Live and let live.

TeachMeSomething · Accepted Answer

okay look, I'm not a firm believer in appearances, it's who the person is. However, some appearances have a lasting effect. It definitely shows you if a person is ie: a sociopath, narcissist, a controller, an abuser and not many can tell. Thats why the term "looks are deceiving" is completely accurate. Okay, you can definitely tell if a person lacks confidence, sure. And if that's the case, perhaps it's simply that they do not care of their appearance, they have lost the will to care. I mean you can see it, with the pimples on their face, their unbrushed teeth, their general hygiene. The lack of shaving. I hate to admit, even their weight. They are not simply taking care of themselves, and lacking their confident abilities.
So, yeah, I'm a bit judgmental for me. I just recognize they could be doing so much better for themselves if they gave life a chance. If they would seriously consider changing up their lifestyle and their habits.

Fitness-Fanatic · Accepted Answer

Everyone has parts of their body they dislike. It's only a turn off if they become insecure about it. Insecurities end up destroying relationships

I dated a guy once and he hated his nose. He thought it was too big, but I loved the shape of his nose. So what one person sees as flaws , another person may be drawn towards those flaws .

Potatofacebarbie · Accepted Answer

I judge people's looks a lot because I'm a perfectionist and when something doesn't look right to me I think of ways to make it better. But I don't judge a persons character based on the way that they look and I would never like someone more or treat someone better based on the way that they look.

Mobile_Mister · Answer

You're asking two different questions. I'm not judgmental of someone's physical appearance, but don't confuse that with a lack of attraction. I know that everyone has a different life and a different reason for looking like they do, but that doesn't mean I need to date them. I'll befriend damn near anyone who's considerate, friendly, and willing to take time to build trust, but just as you wouldn't want a guy who's needy/clingy/insecure/unstable, I similarly don't want someone who won't put in the work to better themselves in all aspects of their lives.

I was once told, "If you want something bad enough, you'll do whatever it takes to get there". I'm saying this to everyone of all genders - I'm tired of hearing how someone can't get what they're looking for, but they don't want to put any effort into bettering themselves. It's exactly like wishing you had money and refusing to work or asking for an interview in nothing more than your underwear. There's no such thing as perfect, but you can't just let yourself go either.

Stone_Fizzlebeef · Answer

It's not the scar, the big nose, the IMAX forehead or the fat alone (except maybe that last one). It's a combination of those things. I'm turned off by obesity, but I don't hold imperfections against a person. I have more than my share, after all.

It doesn't bother me if a "chubby" girl wears a bikini, but it does repulse me on a visceral level. Nothing I can do about that but go on about my day. But since I'm not in the market for dating, these things don't bother me at all. Go ahead and sweep the hair back, wear the bikini, and forego the makeup. I wouldn't date the physically "perfect" girl, either.

Avish007 · Answer

I think its completely wrong judging people from their physit appearance. Because we humans don't have any control over our outer apperance.

I mainly concentrates what he/she has inside which he/she has developed on theirs own. Dating the person with above category is not problematic thing for me.

gelidbasket · Answer

I'm really not picky. While physical traits do come into play, in the long run it's all about personality. Besides, I have my own issues, everyone does, why be so critical of someone else?

Anonymous · Answer

When it comes to random people, I don't judge their looks. Maybe it would cross my mind once in awhile that I don't find them attractive, but I never voice my opinion. However, I'm overly critical about my own appearance, even though I know I will never be perfect.
When it comes to dating, I'm not super picky about looks, but I still have to be attracted to them.

Anonymous · Answer

This question should read "are u a complete arsehole"

If your judging someone else's looks your insecure about your own. Anyone who was happy with thier self wouldn't be saying trash stuff about anyone.

And also anyone with a working brain who was brought up properly would know looks mean absolutely nothing. It doesn't take skill to look good but it takes a lot of it to be a half decent , caring, honest person in a world where everyone is a c*nt.

13inLx3inW · Answer

I don't mind admitting that I've spent my lifetime taking this question into consideration. I don't waste my time worshipping the idea of "perfect." True perfection is frought with imperfection. So, I spend my time loving imperfections perfectly. I really do feel like this. so haters hate. all the rest of you... I hope you try Harder than I did appreciating truth

Chilepikin · Answer

I am very picky with whom I like, I am not bothered by any of the things you said unless I'm interested in that girl. Unfortunately physical appearance is the first law of attraction, though there's certain things you can get used to and even learn to love, it takes time. Fugly people should always try to look their best in my opinion

Nicole9356 · Answer

I think people who obsess over hiding their imperfections are cowards. We all got them, deal with them. Society puts too much emphasis on looks, among other things.

peachblossomluck · Answer

I don't like people with fat stomachs. It shows visceral fat storage and it's natural to be turned off by that so I make no apologies. I'm disgusted by myself when I gain weight there too and do whatever necessary to make it go away.

Ferrett321 · Answer

i dont have an idea of perfect, i just kinda appreciate whoever i feel im attracted to. i silently judge people but i would never bring it up in a conversation or anything, its also involentary, i dont decide to judge.

Pomegranate139 · Answer

Not really no. But if I'm gonna date you then at least have decent teeth. Not perfect and pearly white, but decently straight, not sunny yellow or black, and no gaps.

IDTBTD · Answer

I don't do it when it comes to any relationship but I do it to strangers if they walk by I'll be like "why are her buttcheeks hanging out" "oh I like those tattoos"

thenamesdesiree · Answer

ehhh sometimes. like I wouldn't wanna see a woman with terrible acne wearing loads of make up and has her acne still showing.

Blonde401 · Answer

I'm really not. Everyone's beautiful in their own way.

kamfani1 · Answer

I don't judge people body or appearance and I don't judge for not hiding imperfections then when it comes to dating I don't have a choice as long as you you love me

abundantlyrich · Answer

No but a big nose means passion and wealth sometimes

Bubwa101 · Answer

As long as people don't judge me I won't judge them. But sometimes when there's something that I feel is wrong I will judge but just keep it to myself. Other than that it doesn't ruin the person's appearance

Anonymous · Answer

I may look twice but I try to be nice.  However, seeing a fat person I may say something to my friend I am with, but nothing more.

tangbaby1 · Answer

I'm not perfect myself. But I like when someone looks like my definition of perfect and then I realise ohh they have spots on their cheek or they are chubby... it makes them more real instead of this fantasy I started liking...

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