Introvert/shy girls do you like extrovert guys? Also how true is this pie-chart?

[Dim1213]

Encase any one was wondering. I'm a shy extrovert with several shy friends.

Sure we like them just give us our space when we need it

Na we prefer introvert guys like us

Sometimes it depends on other factors more than that.

Results/ I'm a guy

Very true

Not true at all

[SmartButBroke]

It depends on the type of extrovert he is. You say you're shy; I am not sure what a shy extrovert is like, but I can't see how a shy person would get together with an introvert. For me, the extroverted guy would have to do a lot of things to get with me that I don't think a shy person could do, i. e. the approaching, the contacting, the initiating activities, etc. The people I've met who were obviously extroverted seemed to fit one of three categories:

1) They try to change you/force you to do things you don't want to do the majority of the time you interact with them, and sometimes it feels like they criticize you for not wanting to change/do things they want you to do. I can't date this type of person.

2) They try to nudge you and sometimes try to talk you into things you don't want to do, but they are also very patient and very willing to do what makes you comfortable a lot of the time. They also defend you and seem to have some understanding of, "Okay, she just doesn't like stuff like that," and they move on. This is the only type of extrovert I can handle.

3) The loud and obnoxious type, or the "party" type. I don't think I need to explain, but, yeah, NO.

The chart... I don't like dogs, they scare me. So, if you take that out... especially nowadays it's accurate. In the last 10 years, there have been times when I've made friends with people who didn't necessarily originally seem introverted, but as we got to know each other it came out that they were, especially as more things happened that I didn't like. Introverts don't put enough work into friendships/relationships for me--which is kind of my point about a shy guy, as well--so nothing with them ever lasts. So, that's a big part of why I'd prefer that middle type of extrovert.

At this point, the only way I'm friends with someone is if they force themselves on me, which is something only extroverts do, or they are a solid holdover from back when I was far more social than I am now.

[Dim1213]

Well I'm a shy person unless I'm with people I know, in a place I'm comfortable in, or with a few people that I know well. I enjoy being with friends and I get energy from being with them. I am definitely a number 2 and I do understand when my friends don't want to do something or go somewhere. What I don't get is when we make plans and they cancel them and don't tell me about it. Often I'm waiting to pick up a freind outside their house and I have to knock on their door to learn that they decided not to join us. I get that some people get themselves into a panic before something but why not just text me to cancel. Why wait and make it even more awkward?

[Dim1213]

I do definitely agree that introverts often do not put any work into their friendships and often take them for granted.

[Dim1213]

I do have a few different freinds who are 1,3. They even get on my nerves sometimes.

[Anonymous]

I think that chart is very accurate 😂 also, I love extrovert guys, as long as they understand introvert tendencies and needs (alone time to recharge, "I'm not sad or angry, I'm just thinking", we don't need to talk all the time, etc.) I love hanging out with people and spending time in social situations. Introversion is not the same as being anti-social or shy. It just means we need time to recharge by ourselves, otherwise we get burnt out.

[Dim1213]

Lol girl you sound just like my cousin. Your right it is not the same thing but I often find that shy poeple often consider themselves introverts.

[Opinion Owner]

Correlation does not equal causation ;)

[Opinion Owner]

But yes, I agree, I think it is much more common for shy people to be introverted than extroverted.

[rawrshesays]

I am very much an introvert. My guy is an extrovert. I honestly feel that I rely too much on him. I don't like to be out without him because my anxiety gets bad. (I'm working on it) I don't like crowded places or people in general... I stay home quite often. I pretty much suck as a human.

[Dim1213]

aw don't say that you suck as a human just cause you like to stay in.

[CheckPlease]

Usually introverts like extrovert guys. However they do also fall in love with other introverts. Lol The pie chart is pretty accurate until the introvert gets comfy in a place on their own.

[alice55]

I prefer extrovert guys. Majority of my friends are extrovert too. It's easier to talk to them.
And the pic you show is 100 % true for me XD
All the guys friends I made it's because they always come talk to me and never give up (even if I stayed mute or give one word responses).

[Dim1213]

Hm on that what advice would you give an extrovert trying to warm up a introvert/shy girl? Are we bugging you when you just give us quick responses or when you stay mute? What does having your freind talk for you mean?

[alice55]

To not give up and keep being cheerful / smiling even if the girl doesn't respond a lot.
No, it's just that personally I don't really know what to say (afraid to say something stupid) and all so I give one word response or keep quiet but I really like it when someone keep trying to talk to me.
I don't really understand your last question.

[Dim1213]

When one girl is really shy so she mumbles or just whispers her answers into her friends ear and her freind talks for her because the freind is more outgoing.
I had that happen recently with a girl but by the 3rd time I talked with her she had warmed up enough around me to talk to me directly.

[alice55]

I do this too. I think it's cool

[HollieHol]

My guy is definitely an extrovert, while I am not. Im not "shy".. Im just unfriendly and can't be bothered. I think its great he is. Always does the talking around others to make it less awkward. Its just.. Really helpful sometimes..