Broke up with my girlfriend because I found out she wasn't a virgin. Does that make me a bad guy?

[Anonymous]

She's 18 and I thought she was a virgin. She didn't lie about it but she certainly gave me the impression that she was and she made me wait for 4 months before we had sex. After we had sex and she told me the truth I ended it just because I don't want to be in a relationship with a woman who's been with other men.

I told some of my girl-friends and they got upset at me. My guy friends understood though. I think I'm entitled to my preferences. I'm tall and no one gets angry at me for liking short girls, so why is it bad if I'm not a virgin who only wants to marry a virgin? I think that my friends were out of line.

Yes, that makes you a bad guy

No, it doesn't make you a bad guy

No, it's a good thing

Not sure

[iwannalicku]

I'm not going to vote because the voting thing does not have what I feel or what I think I think that you are two-faced hypocrite because it's okay for you not to be a virgin but it's not OK for the girl that is being a hypocrite you need to step back and think about how you just made the girl feel when you broke up with her right after sex she probably feels like a little Tramp thanks to you and she'll probably never trust a man again you need to write what you wrong and do it as soon as possible because what you did to that girl is bad and it's wrong you cannot be a hypocrite in a relationship if the girl is not a virgin and you're not a virgin I do not see the problem you're just being overly picky and you want what you want the way you want it life is not like that and you need to get real go fix what you fucked up and try apologizing to that girl for the way you acted because the way you acted it's pitiful man sorry but that is my opinion

[Kairnoct]

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this is not a preference thing. It is a gender based oppression thing. You may not generally be a bad person, but that action you just described is vile and abusive. You may not be a bad person, but that is because I don't believe in bad people. I believe in bad actions though, and that action was unabashadt evil. If I knew you in real life and heard you did this, it is unlikely I would ever willingly associate with you, or feel anything of value was lost in cutting you out of my life.

[assley]

Look. I think you're trying to start something on here because it's obviously a touchy subject. I voted "no it doesn't make you a bad guy" because you can make your own choices. However that doesn't mean it's right or fair. The thing that bothered me most about this question was when you said she gave you the impression that she was a virgin because she made you wait 4 months. Like girls that aren't virgins have sex faster. It's a very flawed opinion. You're ignorant- I get it. But I have a question for you, once you had sex with her she wouldn't be a virgin any longer, so would you have broken up with her anyway? So why is this even a question? Because you want to start stuff? Hmmmm. If you say no then you mean that you were planning on marrying her? So what's the fucking difference?

[1truekhaleesi]

Well you clearly aren't a virgin anymore so do you still expect future girlfriends to be virgins?
Anyways, she never lied about it. Not sure why you assumed anything. I don't know the story of her sexual history. Maybe she lost her virginity, regretted it, and wanted to find someone worthwhile. Maybe that's why she made you wait, so she knew you were worth it. And now she is probably crying somewhere and believes love is dead. I don't know what you expect her to do, since you can't change the past and I'm assuming she doesn't have a time machine.

[1truekhaleesi]

Oh yeah something tells me you didn't bother to learn anything about her sexual history. She could've lost her virginity under a terrible situation. Or maybe she was going through a bad phase where she was manipulated into believing the guy who took her virginity really loved her. Just because someone isn't a virgin isn't a bad thing at all.

[Androdead]

@1truekhaleesi and even if she lost her virginity with a big love, and doesn't regret it, it's no big deal..
He's no virgin, why should girls be his and only his? does he think he's worth every girl to let him be the first? naah seriously, he's just an asshole.

[1truekhaleesi]

@Androdead I don't know maybe he has this fantasy where his girlfriend was always his. And they lost their virginity's to each other. He better be much more lenient in dating non-virgins in the future. Even if he does this "reborn" thing where he stays abstinent until marriage, it doesn't work that way. Once you lose your virginity, there's no way to unring that bell.

[Androdead]

Yep there is a way !
You die, reincarnate, and voila !

Be optimistic !
(or sarcastic ;) )

[sir_geddes]

why did you break up with her for not being a virgin when you're not a virgin yourself. That's a little hypercritical.

[Paris13]

Not Bad, maybe just Sad. You never Loved her Uncondiotnally Here, dear. xx

[Paris13]

*Unconditionally xx

[OlderAndWiser]

Why should a girl want to marry you? After all, you are not a virgin!

[JimRSmith]

Makes you pretty insecure, is what it makes you.

[Androdead]

You're, to be accurate, a big asshole.
You don't want a girlfriend, you want a thing that'll be yours and only yours.
Yet, you refused to do the same, it's kind of a garbage thinking.
Yeah, you should change your mind over it.

[BeautifulPromisesx]

You want to marry a virgin but you aren't one 🤔 quite hypocritical buddy. If you want to be with a virgin then you shouldn't be banging people within 4 months or at all. You get what you give.

[AleDeEurope]

I wouldn't say it makes you a bad guy, but you approached the whole situation the wrong way. If her being a virgin is so important to you, you should have asked her instead of assuming.

[omgjassy]

Thats sick in so many ways. Is this why you're above 25 and searching for 18 year olds? Hypocrite too since you're not a virgin yourself.

[fati01007]

So you basically broke up with her because she's not a virgin and you are yourself not a virgin? Mind blowing.

[purplechan]

It doesn't make you a bad guy, but judging people on that account isn't good. Just because someone has slept with someone before you doesn't mean that they're going to cheat or be unfaithful.

[Wertime]

Lol what the fuck is that kinda reason? Then you might as well break up with girls because their hair is 0.4 millimeters too long

[savalisk]

In a way, if she lied like this now, what does that say about your relationship and its future. What else is there to lie about and a lie about something this serious? psshhh, I would have done the same.

[TacosRAwesome]

You didn't ask so its your fault. Although I don't exactly blame you for assuming she's a virgin if she was 18. Just its stupid to not ask and then be disappointed afterwards.

[Melina1982]

Why did you have with her if you wanted to marry a virgin?

[Melina1982]

I have made guys wait because I wasn't ready to have sex with them, specifically with them.

[JohnDoe3000]

You can have your preferences but good luck finding a virgin girl at your age who doesn't look like she's pushing a catapult towards Gondor...

[jedkawil]

It's a dumb reason cause the next girl you talk to probably won't be. or she could lie about it forever. Maybe you'll find that perfect girl who knows.

[winston83]

You must have a really tiny penis or low confidence in your ability to please!

[Words_and_Wisdom]

That's a shitty reason to break up with someone. How pathetic of you.

[Anonymous]

Wow you're an arsehole she's best away from you. You want to marry a virgin and yet you had sex with her before you married her. Get a grip lad.

[Anonymous]

in this world good luck bro most women have had sex with other men before you

[Levin]

You're a troll, surely you can't be that stupid.

[christian_witch]

You sound like a tool.