Any ideas what I should do?
How can I stop having feelings for a coworker?
Any ideas what I should do?
I hate to be cliche, but there are more women out there. I had a first love who was my everything, all I ever wanted, and when she broke it off, I was devastated. It took me 10 long months to find someone else who I really was into. Then that failed, but another perfect girl appeared in my life. We've been together ever since, longer than the other two relationships combined. Circumstances are temporary, sometimes our soul mate in separated by time, distance, or maybe even another man. Don't put a chance on you two being together. Look at the beautiful (not always physically) women around you, attempt to put yourself out there. If she is into, then someone else will too. Be patient. Be confident. Distance yourself from this woman by taking up that mental space with new things: hobbies, work, or another woman...hopefully another woman.
It's alright to flirt in the workplace, it's also alright to flirt in general. You are a man, we are naturally attracted to women of all shapes and sizes, we are even pulled in harder by what we cannot have, in your case, a married woman. I'm glad you have the realization and understanding that you will not and should no cheat. Concerning the loss of feelings, you should be honest with her and explain that the flirtations are not serious and will go no further than that for either of you. As long as you make the rules of the game clear, you will not go wrong.
It isn't as simple as flirting though. This woman is my dream girl, literally everything I've ever wanted. I would just quit my job but the economy is so bad it could be 3 years before I get another one that compares. I'm not going to act on my feelings but I just want to get over them so I'm not torturing myself every day.
i suggest not saying anything cause it will make it awkward in the work place especially sense the chances of her rejecting you cause she's married are high...i say leave it and flirt and if she is interested she will initiate.
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You should come clean and talk to her. Making it awkward or ignoring the feeling is no good. Talking to her will make it or break it, So be careful with what you say.
I can't tell her though. There is no way I'm telling a married coworker I'm in love with her, that is just not a good thing to do. There has to be some way I can deal with these feelings without acting on them, at least I hope so because I'm going crazy.
Maybe you should transfer to another location
I can't really transfer locations although that is a good idea to try and forget her. I would just quit my job but the economy is so bad it could take me years to find another job this good. I wish I could just be friends with her without having more feelings but I don't know how I can do that.
Yeah I wasn't going to suggest to quit your job over a girl but ask to transfer or work in another department
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