I met a girl on facebook and want to meet her in real life, but how do I ask her without putting her off?

[Anonymous]

I really like this girl I met on facebook. She's really sweet and interesting. but I want to meet her in real life and don't really know how to ask her.

i only met her about 2-3 weeks ago, so is it too soon to ask? I think we've struck up a bit of a rapport, but I don't want to pass this up, since I don't want to regret it in the future.

thanks!

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well I've asked her and I'm waiting for a reply. thanks everyone for your advice.

[JohnGrender]

Let see...

So – how do you ask her out? If you don’t want to get ignored or rejected – then listen up. Instead of ASKING her to go out with you, figure her out better. Find out more about her, get in touch through Facebook. Chat for some time – and get her interested in you. Once you see REAL clues and signals that she wants to suck your d*** – make a move. Look for CLUES of interest. If she’s interested in getting to know you in real life – she’ll give you signals. So learn how to identify these signals.

Does she ask you a lot of questions? Does she poke you, like your sh*t, comment on your photo’s? Does she initiate chatting/inboxing even after a few days of no-contact? If you answered with a “yes” to any of these questions – you’ve got your sh*t handled. If you answered with a “kind of”, “no” or a “maybe” – then you still have to work on attracting her.

Don’t ask her out if you did not attract her/got her interested first – or you’ll get REJECTED 95% sure. Look – you CAN “attack” 50 girls to go out with you – and some will, maybe. But it’s a numbers game. Why get rejected 500 times in order to get one date? Are you that desperate. Shoot for QUALITY over quantity – so that after some time girls will FIGHT for YOU – and CHASE after YOU, and ask YOU out on a DATE. It’s possible – but you have to work on yourself.

Let’s say that she gave you all the clues that she’s interested in meeting up with you (potentially having sex) – what do you do now? Now’s the time to ask her out. But – instead, try turning the tables. Try suggesting a meet up – and then observe how she reacts. Observing is KEY. If you get a good reaction – you KNOW that she’s really interested in you.

This is very important – since then you’ll know how to behave and what your position is once you go out on that “date”. Instead of just going and sitting in Starbucks – (that’s a good idea, but there are better ones) – go DO SOMETHING together. Whatever. Play pool, watch a movie, do some sort of activity together. Check out ---> link for more tips

[sexwiseman]

What worked best for me was always asking in a sneaky funny way.in other words, don't straight up ask to hang out, but sneak in the topic; my favorite way of asking somebody out was to talk about a specific place the person likes to go to, and then say, 'never been there before----when are you gonna give me the personal tour?" Of course, it doesn't have to be the favorite place of the person, but it has to be a place that you've never been to so that you can ask for the 'personal' tour, or you can always pretend you've never been to the place.

Anyway, by asking as I said above, You're asking to hang out without asking directly! Not only that, but if the girl likes you, of course she is gonna say, 'whenever', or she is gonna give you a positive response; of course, don't screw it up by being a moron and saying, 'is this a date' or 'when can I pick you up' or anythign that implies it is a date. Instead, based on the conversation, you can say something like, 'great, my agenda is open on saturdays---how about yours?'

POint is, you never get to the point of saying, 'so do you want to go out with me on saturday', but rather, "you're gonna give me the tour on saturday, or whenever you got your next day open." This never failed for me; what always failed though, was asking, 'hey, do you want to hang out with me on such and such day'? Guaranteed rejection each time. That's why I learned to jokingly ask indirectly to hang out with a girl. Takes off the pressure for you and the gal.

[nonyabiz2002]

Damn fine advice, sexwiseman, as usual. :-)

Yeah, did this about 3 years ago. Worked out well, except the girl I was after turned out to not be who I thought she was and it didn't work out.

Listen to this guy. He knows what he's talking about.

[Akikosmile]

I met a pretty nice guy on Facebook myself, although we''ve never met in person because we are so far apart geographically.

Why not just up and ASK her? She can say yes,no, or let's wait, but I doubt it will frighten her. I dont' see the point of a long Internet 'courtship' and I doubt she does either.

If you don't bring it up, she will wonder about you, I think.

As you said, don't pass this up. She's no doubt getting other contacts, anonymous!

Let her know you're interested! When I was trying this I stopped conversations after about that long.a month or so.if the guy wasn't interested enough to suggest meeting in real life.

If it turns out to be thousands of miles it might not be practical to meet right away, as in my case, but I would expect a guy to bring it up!

[stargazer1]

So you guys live far away from each other??? Do you know that you like each other?? Are you ever going to meet, or are you just going to continue to message each other??

[Anonymous]

Just ask her, it's not a big deal. Infact, meeting people on myspace and facebook has become soooo common lately it's taking the place of meeting people at a bar. I guess it's because there are so many options. Just throw it out there. So many guys have asked me to hang irl and if I'm sure they are real and normal and get along great with them, why not? So long as it's a public place and daylight for that first meeting, it's all good.

[Jamerz]

i personaly think its to soon but that's just me everyone is different. Just say we should hang out sometime or inviter to something that you have going on. Or ask her what she is up to this weekend and if she is going somewere you are just say no way I will be there too you should say hi or something

[Tommy17]

dude ask her to hang out sometime. because if you dont, later on your gonna wish you did. but don't go right into it. strike up a conversation and just simply ask to hang out sometime.

[sweet-girl]

just make sure you're not a sicko person because her folks are to be furious