How to handle V-day when we haven't said "i love you" yet?
iThis is my first valentines day with someone. I'm 20, and my boyfriend is 23.
weve been together about 3 1/2 months. He's thoughtful, affectionate, a good listener, fun, funny, and I love being around him. I am more than happy to be with him and not even have sex. I love the sex, but I can lay around with him all day.
For valentines day, I plan on doing a strip tease, and hopefully cook dinner for him. Here's my issues.
1. I live with my parents, so cooking at my place may not be an option unless they plan on having the holiday away. Id cook at his place, but his roommates keep the place so dirty I wouldn't even want to cook in that kitchen. Id cook it and bring it over but that's hardly romantic. I want it to be perfect.
I plan on making him:
Asparagus and parmasean cheese stuffed ravioli with a pesto alfredo sauce that has sauteed mushrooms and artichoke hearts and served with a baked brie bread. I've made the pasta before, but not the bread. As you can see, not as romantic when served from tupperwear.
2. We haven't said I love you yet. Granted, its too early to worry about that. There is so much I wanna say a lot to him, and say some meaningful things. But, Its hard to avoid all the "I love you" cards, and It would seem silly to buy a funny joke card with all the meaningful stuff in it.
Maybe I can get some insight from someone who's done this before. I really want to make this special for him
What's Your Opinion?
Most Helpful Opinion
I think a "Thinking of you on valentines day" card would suffice. What you have planned sounds lovely as it is. No need to go over the top, as it's only been a few months.
What Guys Said 3
If you cook that meal for me, I'll say "I love you" as many times as you want.
Its still early January, so there's still time to get closer to saying that. You could always try one of those "Ms. Congeniality" things and be all like, "Yooouu loooove me" lol. I'm sure someone else will have some better insight though :)
P.S. I'm for realz about the meal. You can just mail it to me in a cooler.
You haven't told him you love him and you've had sex with him? I'm so confused.
That food sounds awesome!
What Girls Said 1
I don't have any experience having a boyfriend around the hoopla that is Valentine's Day. But my advice would be to still stay at your parents to cook in the kitchen and do your striptease in your room and hopefully your parents will go out to dinner to celebrate their love. As for the "I love you" bomb. If you aren't ready to say it yet, which you don't seem like you are; when you're talking at dinner you can get all mushy gushy and say things that are close but no cigar like, "I love the way you make me feel," or, "I love being around you sweetie."