Why do only nerds love me?

[katelD]

Okay. I am an attractive 16 year old girl. And I am a nerd magnet. And I'm talking nerd-nerds, like the ones whose pants are too short and are really awkward when they talk to ther people and stuff. It's these guys that end up liking me. I will admit that I am a closet nerd myself, but emphasis on the closet! I never talk about anything nerdy at school. I am VERY stylish in my dressing and love fashion; I look 100% normal. But I don't act normal. I am very, very outgoing, and as a result have a lot of friends, so in that sense I am popular but on the social ladder of high school, I am pretty much a loser. So why is it that I attract these nerdy guys? Is it cause I'm weird? Can they sense my closet nerdiness?

In short, how do I change this/ stop this from happening as often as it does? ANd why does this happen?

Please, help me, I need some anwsers!

[TheFallen]

You try to hard to be accepted by people. You dress in all the fashionable close, you act like all the popular people at but its not who you are. Nerds are very intelligent people but very few of them can see a cover up. They see a really hot chick and they want to go for her. Popular people can see this cover up cause it is them you are trying to impersonate, Stop. Be you, that's what you do best. The popular people see someone who is not them trying to be them and all they do is mock you. Quit TRYING to fit in and be yourself. You can accomplish more is you DO and quit TRYING to do. Go be the nerd you are and let them popular kids know that you don't care if they accept you. Trust me it works. I learned this my Junior year of high school and by the middle of my senior year I was one of the most popular kids in school.

I figure you won't adhere to this advice (I know I was a high schooler myself). But even if you don't you will learn in time.

Good luck

[coycrf70]

Well I am a nerd myself, and though I am not a steriotypical nerd, I'm a little over 6 ft, and wrestle on the schools varsity team, I do look for attractive girls, but even over the hot ones, I prefer ones I get along with that have similar interests. If you have a problem with getting asked out by nerdy guys then it figures that they decided you have things in common. Personally I find it shallow that you have a problem with being liked by nerds. We tend to be nicer guys than the "normal" ones, but if it is just the way they dress and things, those can also be changed. And lastly, the nerds will likely have decent jobs when they are older, or won't be only dating you to f**k you, which of the popular "normal" guys you like, that will be the only thing on their mind. If you really want it to stop, just tell a nerd that you don't like motherf***ing nerds, and though you will be a bitch it should stop.

[RubyRedRox]

Agreed, it should be a compliment that nerds dig ya :]

I don't see the fun in dating these so called 'normal' dudes who sag their pants and only care abut their looks

[Standingpretty]

You know, the nerds are usually the ones who end up being the hot guys in the future so, in a sense your problem will end eventually when these guys get out of their awkward phase. I know it's hard to picture them as being "cute" in the future but adults never really look like they did when they were teenagers. Usually, the "popular" guys end up fat losers while the nerds end up growing into their looks. I am not sure why you are trying so hard to prevent them from liking you one way or another if you just ignore these "nerds" nothing will really happen. It's not like they're stalking you. It would really be a waste of your time to try to stop people from liking you when you can do nothing and eventually they will stop. It shouldn't really bother you that people find you nice to look at even if the feeling is not mutual.

[SocietysBomb]

What defines a person as a nerd, specifically?

[moloz]

I guess being above average intelligence and having interests/hobbies beyond "normal" (gaming, for example).

[SocietysBomb]

really? but nothing is really "normal"..

[coycrf70]

anymore gaming is normal. I am considered a nerd because I read 24/7 and am the smartest person in my school (its kind of a small high school though). Now hobbies that are considered nerdy are like roleplaying or watching anime anymore.

[dvd89]

lol