After 4 years my girlfriend wants me to work out and get a six pack etc. Should I do it for her?

[Silence123]

I've been with my 21 year old girlfriend for 4 years. I'm 22. I've always been within a healthy weight range, however I've never been much in to working out at a gym. I keep fit by playing sports and jogging.

Over the past few weeks, all of a sudden my girlfriend has been saying that she would like more of the "perfect man" physically. The kind of man who has an extremely toned, muscular body with a six pack at least.

She has never been one to say these sorts of things. We've even spoken about it over the years and she's never been interested in discussing my body. She's always just wanted to talk about personality and other character traits. I was even going to a gym for a month there and she really wasn't too fusssed about me attending it.

Now it seems like she wants me to have a six pack etc or she will lose interest. She keeps saying things I should improve about my appearance all of a sudden, when she hasn't shown an interest before.

I'm not really interested in working out, so should I pay all the money and invest all that time in the gym to satisfy her new standards, or should I just be the man I've always been?

[vmw2008]

It depends on how much you value the relationship I suppose. After 4 years, her asking you to improve your body could be a last cry for help so to speak. She may have been losing attraction to you for a while (which happens to couples after a few years) and is hoping that an appearance change will bring the attraction back. Would you say that she's physically more attractive than you? If yes, it could be that it didn't matter to her before when the high of the relationships was relatively new, but now she desires more of a level playing field. If you don't care that much about keeping the relationship, then don't worry about her request.

[Anonymous]

be who you are but an improved version.

wanting a guy that's physically fit doesn't mean she's changing you, just one of your habits. and god only knows we could all use some improvement in our lives

[NerdInDenial]

Why don't you make her change things? It seems to me you accept her for who she is. However, this plan would backfire on her. Women are generally jealous. If you become more physically fit, you're going to attract more attention.

[c7777]

that seems a bit selfish of her to say that.. don't do anything yet.. tell her to go to the gym and start working on her ass and abs. Let her know how it makes you feel

[c7777]

ive been going to the gym for years and trust me you can't change your body overnight like some people on TV say you can. Its true the biggest improvements are at the beginnig but don't expect ripped pipes after a month of working out its going to take hours and hours every week and months to get anywhere close to what she would like

[Ligerzzero]

If your girlfriend is willing to do the same and workout and get a six pack and muscular as well then yeah do it, but if she wants you to become muscular and her not workout and be out of shape then no.

[Anonymous]

Get a woman that accepts you for who you are and enjoys the simple things in life. Your woman sounds like a spoiled b*tch. I doubt your woman will take you in sickness and in health when you marry her. She'll just stay with you until your looks fade.

[ASjun]

Change for yourself, not for her. To be honest, from what you wrote, I think she is cheating on you.

[DocClassic]

dont change for a woman dude...