This question is one of the reasons why I joined girlsaskguys.
The reason why women play games or “tests” is because they lack the confidence to stand up to men, as well they lack the confidence to attract men only by using their personality. A lot of women that play games are women that have emotional baggage from the past with other relationships; they have become jaded and hostile against the male gender as know every man is guilty until “proven” innocent. There are other issues as well as the fact that women LOOVEE drama, playing tests or games on men and since them scram its fun for them. Games and tests also act as an Ego Booster for them as well. It is also a technique of screening that they use to get the “best” man available, but I highly disagree with this because they usually get the players as they know very well how to act when they are around them. What is worse is the mentality that comes when they do this; I often see women being very narcissist in this aspect: They have no sense of responsibility they treat men however they want and they expect the man to not do anything about it, to just keep it “cool” and don’t “loose it” even if it is a clear sign of lack of respect.
I think it’s a horrible thing to do. Because they are using guys as lab rats and they are just trying to manipulate guys when they do this. And then they wonder why men are so emotionally unavailable and men play games on them…
Off course not all women are like that, but I would say a good 96% of them are like that.
The more I understand women, the more I want to stay single.
From what I've seen of women, I wouldn't doubt it! While not all women are nuts, there are quite a few out there who like to manipulate and push men's buttons, just to see what will happen. I keep forgetting what a headache they can be, and was even feeling a bit sorry for myself being single at the momen, when a girl started chatting me on here, asking me for advice. I had talked to her previously about a guy she was interested in, and assumed she was asking for more opinions/advice. I spent about half an hour trying to help her out, not really sure what she was asking me advice ABOUT (it seemed like she was just telling me, not asking me), despite my having a headache and being tired. However, in the midst of it, she says she doesn't think I know what I'm talking about...that I sound confused. I admitted that I was, because I wasn't sure what she wanted. Then she says she's unfriending me because I give bad advice! She did, then chatted with me again, saying why she did that. I appologize for not being much help, and she points out that I got the details wrong (easy to do when you're tired with a headache). I tell her that, and she says that I made her cry and that she's going to bed! I appologize (not sure what I did) and wish her sweet dreams...And I give thanks that I am single, and not stuck with someone who goes through such extreme mood changes in a few minutes! :P Because nobody should have to play the "guess why I'm mad at you" game...
It's a natural, subconscious thing to see if the male is a strong, dominant and confident guy. Everybody sh*t-tests everybody. Guys do the same thing.
Eg. I was talking to a friend and I cursed/swore and another friend (Male) said that he found my swearing to be offensive and he let it hang there for a good 3mins before saying he was joking. It's what people do. Also complacency test "Can you get me this?" - it can be genuine or a sh*t-test to see how weak/strong willed and compliant you are. Another eg of this test - you have two people sitting at either side of the room "Come here" says one "You come here" and whoever is most stubborn is the dominant one.
Yes we do,and it's not f**ed up at all,actually.We just wanna see if the guy can keep his calm and if he has any anger issues.Trust me,you wouldn't wanna find that out when you're alone with him and you've done something that set him off and he starts punching walls.THAT is what's f**ked up.
Any other dumb girls games,i don't play.But I wanna know what I'm getting myself into.
Depends on the maturity level of the chick, although even mature girls will pry a little bit because they do indeed want to see if a man is crazy or not. Generally though, they don't unless they're crazy. Girls do like it when men get jealous, but any sane girl won't go out of their way to torture a guy they like.
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I can say with all honesty that I have never done so. But I can also say with all honesty that most women do. But even when we don't intentionally test someone by putting forth an issue, we analyze your response. its in our nature. It helps us to be a better girlfriend as long as we look at both sides of an issue, but not all of us do. The problem is, the kind of girl who puts forth those trials, who tries to test you, is the kind of girl that is not sure what she wants...or to rephrase that more brutally, she is not sure that you're what she wants. Its natural for a girl to analyze responses, but its worth concern if a girl your in a relationship with is "testing" you. Personally I would consider this a warning sign,
F*** yea. I don't do it intentionally, but, thinking about some of my actions later, I realize that I was testing him. Maybe because my parents had a disfunctional relationship and my first one was, too. I think it may be a way to safe-guard myself.
I think it's nuts if people do this. I hear that many women do this. I don't think it makes any sense. If they don't have the intuition to judge someone's character...they probably shouldn't be dating until they figure themselves out.
When you intentionally push someone's buttons...you're a bad person.
I wouldn't do something like that, because I certainly know I wouldn't appreciate it if a guy tested ME. But... yes, there ARE girls out there that will do that. The ones that I know of are not what you would call "sane", mind you.
Sometimes I do somerhing or ask hard questions to watch a guys reaction. It is not harmful or for entertainment. It is a way to see someone's character in action.
I do it all the time. I test my boyfriend on things to see how much he actually cares, what he REALLY thinks and not what I want to hear, on his manners, even his ability to do things. Its just a way to score how good of a guy you really are, if you pass you'll date.
Yes I do it to see if he has a violent reaction.
I don't do it to see if he stood up for himself. If I did it for that then the way he stood up for himself would determined if he passed it.
Honest to goodness, I don't purposely p*ss him off, but when I (or something) does p*ss him off I can't help but recognize and asses the reaction he has.
Well ofc not on purpose but if it happened then its a good way to see "the other side " of the guy and how he actually handles things..
Depending on the girl, I know I don't test guys, there's other ways to find out those things rather then testing them. besides who wants to get in a pointless fight over a 'test' anyway?
all this time, I always do it on dates, I offer to pay for both of us to see if he's a gentleman he would pay(its different in a relationship both should be paying) but yeah
thats vague but we do test guys, each of us in different ways. I don't know if I do what you are suggesting, but I do test guys.
To the girls that said yes, what type of stuff do you do?
i've never done it. but guys have to show their emotions and feelings
yes, I would say way more often than guys test girls
yes
Stupid girls do...
yeaaa
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