I'm white and I like black girls, but I'm scared of them. What should I do?

I,m a white guy and I have always been insanely attracted to black women. But I'm too scared to ask them out cause them out cause I'm afraid they won't go out with me cause I'm white.


Most Helpful Girl

  • dont be scared of us ahah..(why are you scared?)..ive been with white guys before, and they were the one who started talking to me :)


What Girls Said 14

  • You're cute :) I like white guys over black guys. Don't be intimidated just go for it, I think there are very few who would not date you just because of your race.

  • Don't date outside your race.

  • Regardless of race most girls definitely want at least a few things and that is a genuine,respectful man with confidence.I say suck it up and go for it. If there is a specific girl you have your eye on then you need to gradually find out things about her(interests, hobbies)so you'd have something to talk about when you do finally approach her.Even if you don't get much info about her you can always just ask her yourself.If you're still having trouble with the idea of approaching her, send her an anonymous letter that says you like her and you would like to get to know her.You can even write how nervous you are because you think she is so beautiful.. That might help you out a bit because girls usually think those things are cute.Good Luck and don't give up!

  • Your color has nothing to do with it I mean the worst thing that can happen is by them sayin a yes or no and if they say no then don't stop looking because there are some black girls that love white guys and the reason why I know is because I have been dating white guys all my life its been a few but I have and sad to say all of them have been racist but that dident stop me and it shouldn't stop you the worst thing they could possible say is no that's it and some black girls is loud and mean but not all of them are like that because I know I'm one of them I hate girls yelling at someone just to talk to them and they were right there the whole time so don't be scared you might get a lot of nos and you will get some yes but don't give up on them just because they say no I mean it get tiring but its worth the wait I'm still waiting even though I went through hell with my exs that still dident stop me so why you.

  • I'm black and am very attracted to white guys, but used to think they were not interested me because I'm black and they had preconceived notions of who I really was. I learned that is not true and a lot of white guys are (admittedly or not) attracted to black women. I am a traditional girl, and shy, just because I'm black doesn't mean I'm aggressive and intimidating. How would you approach a white girl? Do the same with us.

  • In all honesty, you should not be scared. I thinks it an intimidation thing where you don't know if they would date you. I, myself, like white guys && i'm sure many others do as well. Good Luck !

  • You never know 'til youve tried. I've dated white guys. I love white guys. Haha.

  • Just be you, ask her friends, I pretty sure that they won't go out with you cause your white. I have a friend that is a black girl and doesn't care who she will go out with a guy as long as they are just being themselves and if she says no then maybe its because she got a boyfriend or she just not interested in you but it doesn't mean that she is only attracted to her race.

  • I'm a black women and I'm attracted to white men. I say don't be scared, you see a girl that's attractive say some even if it's just telling her she's beautiful; that will at least give the a hint. A women is less likely to ask a man out or even say something... I don't know way, so don't ask... Just go for it!!! the worst thing that could happen is her saying no... Can't
    be afraid Rejection.

    • you couldn't be attracted to me and im white hhhaha but a model now since published.

  • I'm a black girl, come talk to me ;)

  • Yes I agree, hehe there shouldn't be a reason to be scared of us. We are women same as any other ethnicity. I say if you like someone you should go for it, because you'll never know unless you give it a try. I've dated plenty of white guys. You should find a woman that shares the same interest as you, that's a start. Haha don't believe the hype or all the stereotypes, everyone isn't the same. You just have to find the one who you like and likes you back. Trust me its plenty of black girls that want a white boy, unfortunately we are scared to be approached which really sucks. So I say break the norm and go for what u want, in life we must take chances especially for things we want

  • I understand why you'd be scared. We black females have, unfortunately, been exposed as attitude-bearing, bipolar weirdos that have a strange fascination with fried foods.

    Don't give in to that.

    We actually love you guys. In fact, we are so attracted to white males that we are scared to ask YOU out. I promise you that if you ask a black girl out, no matter if she is 'ghetto', an 'I am black and a queen' type, or just NORMAL, she will be so happy that you did. I'm not promising she'll say yes because everyone has their own preferences, but about 90% of black girls would be very, very surprised-in a good way.

  • First, start by getting over your fear. I'm gonna be honest most of us like a guy that is strong and confident so if you are scared of a woman, that's not gonna be attractive and we can tell. You need to realize that we are all individuals and you can't generalize all black girls by saying none of us will like a you because you're white. Denise might not like white boys but maybe Brittany does. How will you know unless you go after the girl you like? Also even if you do get rejected, how do you know it'll be because you're white? It could be any number of reasons. Just because a girl is open minded to dating white guys doesn't mean she'll want to date any guy that's white. Just be confident and at ease, don't be all awkward and nervous. Talk to the girls you like and get to know us. We're cool lol


What Guys Said 2

  • They're almost definitely not going to go out with you if you don't talk to them.

  • your fear is irrational because there's no way you can get hurt by rejection. if you really are that afraid of being hurt by rejection you have to change your way of thinking.