Should I delete her as a friend on Facebook?

[Anonymous]

Nearly a year ago, this girl who I used to work with had a crush on me. Although shy, I did my best to accept her, and everything seemed to be building up with her and I. When my company cut back, I was let go, unfortunately (found a new job though, so things are going well in that regard). Anyways, she added me as a friend on Facebook, and we communicated like 3x week. We planned a date, but due to a stupid meeting with my new job that I was required to attend, I had to cancel. I apologized to her, and told her why in advance. She said it was okay, but really wanted to go out with me. However, she seemed to get kinda distant afterward. Instead of being usually available, we wouldn't talk for like a week. I did eventually go out with her, and after it, she kept telling me she loved it and wanted to go out with me again. After the date though, she was like never available, or rarely, if ever returned my messages. I tried to contact her several weeks later, finally got a hold of her, and she chatted a little, but then signed off of IM on me. It was then it seemed like it was me initiating conversations with her more and more, until I finally decided the ball was in her court-I wouldn't talk to her anymore unless she stared first. That was several months ago, and she hasn't started any conversation with me.

I take it she lost interest in me, and I have tried to move on. I've deleted her phone number from my contacts list, and removed any photo of her and I together from my house, etc. But its really tearing me up knowing she's online and updating her profile with new pics and stuff. So I have contemplated deleting her as a friend. Thus, I need your help:

Option a) I delete her, since I won't have to worry about seeing her updates or thinking of her, thus help me move on.

Option b) Since we didn't really break up, she might still view me as a "friend." If I delete, I might upset her.

Please vote, or provide some input. Thanks a lot, I really appreciate it

Yes

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Updates

+1 y

This is the fun part. About a month ago, she finally talks to me. Too bad I now have a real girlfriend, one that respects me and is just so sweet. I kept everything toned down, and made no attempt to show any more interest in her.

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+1 y

I later deleted her from my friends list. Thanks everyone for your input! I really appreciate it. I guess my heart is almost healed; deleting her will finally help to heal the last of the scar she left.

[DB-21]

Hey like you said she hasn't really talked to you in a while, so if you deleted her then why should you care about how she felt or why should she care or even notice right? I say if its bothering you from seeing her updates and everything then yea delete her. You already deleted her from ur phone and taken ny pictures down from ur house. So what's keeping you from deleting her permanently from ur life?

I mean I'm not trying to come off harsh at all, I'm just saying pretty much this is the last thing that you have that reminds you about her, and it bothers u. The dilemma is you delete her she gets offended if she notices and calls you up to talk to you about it.u start communicating again.or. you delete her, she takes offense, if she notices, and never talks to you again.leaving you in the same position you are in now. I'm guessing you don't want to get rid of her entirely that's y you keep her as a friend still cause you do still care for her and want to still have some kind of way of seeing how her life is going. It all comes down to you man, I'd say delete her cause its bothering u, and then move on completely cause u've got one last thing on that agenda and then u'll be completely done with her. Take the step or keep letting it bother u, truly up to u, but hey I'm only 20 wtf do I know haha.

[Asker]

Thanks man, it does make some really good sense to finally cut her out for once and for all.

[liltabbixxo]

You can do this thing on facebook where you can select to see less updates or whatever for a person. This way you won't see it if it makes you think of her and she won't get mad if she finds out you deleted her! haha

[Asker]

I have done that, but I still from time to time wonder if she's online, and as much as I try to resist, the curiosity get a hold of me, etc.

[liltabbixxo]

I think if you delete her you may regret it later

[Asker]

By deleting her, it would guarantee that I get over her. It would be hard for a few weeks, yes. However, I don't want to hurt her. Although she has like 300+ friends, she probably won't notice anyways (since she never talks to me anymore, I bet I am just a number anymore; I doubt she even looks at my profile anyways).

[liltabbixxo]

I def. see what you are saying. Yeah....you should delete her. It would be easier for you to move on.