Boyfriend wants to take things slow, what does that mean? GUYS HELP!
ive been dating my boyfriend almost 2 years. we broke up for 3 months. but dated casually during that time. we got back together officially a few weeks ago, cause I gave him an ultimatium either we become official or I walk.
after we got back together he said he wants to take things slow.?
we see each other 1 - 2 times a week.
we have sex
he doesn't want to put our fb status as in a relationship together like before because he says we are on trial and doesn't want to make either of us look like an idiot if it doesn't work out.
i have tagged him at places with me out recently one he kept up on his wall. he delted the other one tho. I don't think he is seeing anyone else. he is very focuse on career and works lots of hours in a week. he has become a little more caring since.
what do you think is going on?
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I agree with Habakkuk's answer and I also want to add that his career may be of great importance to him, so much that relationship issues aren't really wanted at the moment.
You can't force him in a relationship, if he doesn't want to it won't happen. If you don't do anything else other than sex in those 1-2 times a week, I have a hunch it's going in the wrong direction, at least for you.
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You didn't say why you broke up in the first place. I don't know if the reasoning for that is relevant in this case. Anyhow, the breakup really hurt him as it would anyone. I think in his mind he wants to be absolutely sure that a reconciliation will work the second time. He might be afraid to open himself up again, try to make it work only to have it fail. A trail period as he indicated is obviously what he needs in order to feel more secure to move forward. I don't think you can fault him for that. I think you need to respect it and do your best to make it work as well. I'm sure you guys will be official again.