Boyfriend wants to take things slow, what does that mean? GUYS HELP!
ive been dating my boyfriend almost 2 years. we broke up for 3 months. but dated casually during that time. we got back together officially a few weeks ago, cause I gave him an ultimatium either we become official or I walk.after we got back together he said he wants to take things slow.? we see each other 1 - 2 times a week.we have sexhe doesn't want to put our fb status as in a relationship together like before because he says we are on trial and doesn't want to make either of us look like an idiot if it doesn't work out.i have tagged him at places with me out recently one he kept up on his wall. he delted the other one tho. I don't think he is seeing anyone else. he is very focuse on career and works lots of hours in a week. he has become a little more caring since.what do you think is going on?
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I agree with Habakkuk's answer and I also want to add that his career may be of great importance to him, so much that relationship issues aren't really wanted at the moment.You can't force him in a relationship, if he doesn't want to it won't happen. If you don't do anything else other than sex in those 1-2 times a week, I have a hunch it's going in the wrong direction, at least for you.
What Guys Said 2
he doesn't seem like he really wants to be with you but he doesn't want to lost you either
he has other priorities in his life besides dating and he probably doesn't want to send you any signals so he's just moving slowly. it means he doesn't want you to get crazy or, more likely, act in some way that caused the 3 month break up. He's being cautious.
What Girls Said 1
You didn't say why you broke up in the first place. I don't know if the reasoning for that is relevant in this case. Anyhow, the breakup really hurt him as it would anyone. I think in his mind he wants to be absolutely sure that a reconciliation will work the second time. He might be afraid to open himself up again, try to make it work only to have it fail. A trail period as he indicated is obviously what he needs in order to feel more secure to move forward. I don't think you can fault him for that. I think you need to respect it and do your best to make it work as well. I'm sure you guys will be official again.