How to deal with petty roommate drama?

[Darkfairie17]

I'm trying to stay above it all, I don't really socialize with them. I live with two girls and a guy.

The one girl is really catty, especially when her friends are around. Normally she is okay, but when her friends are around she becomes a really loud, whiny person. One time she freaked out because she had to replace toilet paper in the bathroom...apparently even though she lives there it's 'not her job'. This room-mate doesn't like the fact that I study in my room and even had her parents talk to me about it. Because apparently that is a problem :S

The other room-mate is really young, she's about 17. She is kinda whiny too, but she is mostly busy with her courses. However, she likes to invite people over for parties and then doesn't clean up. I know she is complaining about me to the other girl room-mate, even thought I mostly keep to myself. A few weeks ago she locked herself out and I didn't hear her knocking at the door or ringing the doorbell. I was cleaning and had the dishwasher and dryer and washer going at the same time. I was cleaning messes that she and her friends had left :S

The guy room-mate is inconsiderate, he takes out the smoke alarms, smokes in the garage in a smoke free condo and leaves his stuff around all the time.

I know I am not perfect myself, but I am just sick of all the drama. Like people are getting upset about the wrong things. Instead of getting mad about the smoke alarm or smoking in the condo, they are upset at me for keeping to myself. I am in my last year of college and my program is pretty heavy. I have a lot of school obligations as I am part of a fraternity. I also go on a lot of trips to conferences, and meet people at the school a lot to work on projects.

It's just becoming unbearable to live there, but I can't move out. IT's not an option as I am on a year long lease :( I didn't know these people before I moved...and I moved from another bad room-mate situation.

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I would find someone to take my place, but I have another 4 months of school and then I am done for good. So I am planning on just hoping to get by in the next 4 months, then finding another place. I will sublet my room. I'd hate to move tho, I have a lot of stuff and moving is hard. Especially since I have little money and would be doing most of the moving on my own :S

[SweetHeart09]

she's mad because you study in YOUR room? I mean where else are you suppose to do it?

best advice I can give you is to just steer clear of them til the four months is up, like study at the library and if you have friends let them know about your situation and just spend your daytime at their house and just come home at night when they are more likely to be settled down or asleep that'll at least avoid some annoyance, and if I were you I'd super glue the back of the alarms shut so he can't keep taking the batteries out lol I doubt they'll go dead by the time you high tail it out of there...and with the party animal chick there are like three ways you can deal with her depending on how you're WILLING to handle it. You could play just as rude as she is and simply go to the fuse box in your house and turn off the electricity no music no lights no party right? Or you could talk to her about maybe cutting down her partying until you're out of there...or you could just stick it out until you leave...

good luck I feel your pain lol

[Darkfairie17]

Thanks for the advice! Yea I also think it's pretty ridiculous that she has a problem with me studying in my room. Like that should not even be an issue. I guess she's just used to everyone paying attention to her. Because when her parents where here, they even said they thought I was odd. Well it doesn't matter, because I pay rent right, I should be able to do what I want in my room? :P And she never complained to her parents about the more serious issues going on in our house!

[SweetHeart09]

i think she's odd for being upset about the silliest thing lol

[Red_Raconteur]

If you can't find a sub-letter (which is probably your best bet), find a way to stay away from home as long as possible. Study at the library, crash with friends a few nights a week if feasible, or just go home to shower and sleep and that's it.

My junior year of college was much like that, and I avoided the drama by only being home to sleep, bathe, and sometimes eat, and even then I was only home 3 or 4 nights a week. You can't be bothered by them (or them bothered by you) if you aren't there.

[AllDay]

Can you find someone else to take your spot?

or

just don't go home? Stay out as long as possible and just sleep there?

[AllDay]

I would suggest sticking it out for 4 months. Just stay at the library or hang out with friends or their house.

If this wasn't the internet I'd help you move lol

[Darkfairie17]

Lol thanks! I will try to just get out more :) I have a better schedule this semester so I won't have to worry about not having time to go do things. I will work out at the gym, hang out with my boyfriend and maybe even make some friends. Thanks for your advice! And thanks for the thought, even tho you can't help me move it's nice to know that someone would help! :)

[AllDay]

Yeah you must be the change you wish to see in the world!

Stay at your boyfriends place and such

While you're out I would suggest you safe guard your stuff. You never know if your roommates might go and spy on you or your stuff. Just tell them don't go through your stuff if you're not there.

[Darkfairie17]

I already have a lock on my door, the only thing left out is food, but there's not much I can do about it. But all valuables are in my room :)

[AllDay]

Okay. Just wanted to ensure the safety of you and your belongings

:)

[Alanaaa]

Can't you find someone else to take your spot?