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Girls do you change yourself in front of your male friends?

I went on vacations with my friend, her cousin and some of her friends (didn't know them before) and we all shared a room. For me it was completely normal to change in front of them but my female friend (who was the one who knew those guys!) went to the bathroom to change clothes. Idk...i guess I'd only mind if it was a guy I liked but otherwise they're like female friends to me so I don't care. I don't know which one of us is "normal", so how do you girls do it?
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  • Acceptance of nudity or partial nudity in front of others varies with societies, situations, an personal norms. If you go to a nude beach, there is no question that nudity is accepted and the norm. If you are in a country that accepts people changing in front of the other sex, then it is okay. If you are with a bunch of people that you know do this normally, then it is okay. If you are in a situation where there is a question about it (not a nude beach, don't know some of the people, etc.) then it should only be done after finding out if it is acceptable by the whole group. Otherwise you may offend some of the people and even though they could leave, why force them to leave by doing something unnecessary (changing in front of them).

    What is exposed is also at issue. Bra and panties can be just as covering as a bikini, sometimes more, sometimes less. So getting down to underwear would not be as extreme as going farther. You told one person that you kept your underwear on and another that you held your arm over your breasts as you put on your bra. Those are different.

    Changing in front of men can arouse them. That is the way men are wired. They can learn to not let it show, or look away, or be used to it after seeing it often, but male arousal is a normal human thing. To one anonymous answer you stated, "oh I do know guys always think of sex. but I don't care. its their problem if they see a friend as sexy." So you know that changing in front of them will be a sexual thing, but you don't care. To another you said that you are usually flirtatious to men. Being flirtatious with guys and changing in front of them puts your actions as being a tease, even if that is not what you are trying to do.

    Another thing I often hear is that it is okay to change in front of gay guys because they aren't interested in the female body. So what does that say about changing in front of a lesbian who is interested? Most women are not bothered by that idea, so why does it make a guy being gay a factor? Male or female, interest is interest.

    I actually accept nudity or partial nudity among people who feel the same. Nude beaches are great, friends changing in front of friends is fine. Using a common bathroom or changing room is fine in societies that accept that. But then you know you are doing the acceptable thing and should not be bothering anybody. And I am not saying my personal openness may not have offended some people in my life, just saying what is the right standard to aim for.

    • Being naked is not the issues. It who you do it with and who you do not do it with. I vote up for you. Thanks on what you share.

  • I did drama club and sometimes we'd change in different rooms, other times guys and girls would change in the same room. Sometimes you have to change in the wings, so privacy isn't even an option. As long as you didn't have to expose your genitals to get your costume on or off, it was all good.

    I've seen girls change, it's nothing exciting or memorable.. it's just changing and it's not like they went nude in front of me, they kept their bras and underwear on.

    ^nothing wrong with that.

    If someone is super conservative, or super horny, that's there problem for over reacting. Again, I was in drama, and it was 20-30 people and no one really cared or said anything towards it. Except one of our coaches, who would usually try to assign different changing areas for the separate genders cause she knew we didn't care and would just clump together if not assigned. ha ha The other two didn't care. Now I doubt Tim [lighting, stage direction coach] cared, but he didn't go in with girls there cause I'm sure he suspected an older male could possibly creep the girls out and Mrs. Hops [make-up and costumes] would talk to us guys changing all the time and we'd be like "Mrs. Hops! haha" and she'd be like "oh god, you're in your briefs grow up" and we'd just laugh)

    Really, as far as I see it, it's a small matter. It may not be typical, but doesn't mean it is sleazy or incorrect thinking. It's perfectly fine. If they really react to it, then obviously they don't watch much TV or they are oblivious to what is acceptable. Because, and I'm assuming here, it's not like you're waving your **** around in their face. I presume you just went down to bra and underwear-- no big deal there. It's not like short shorts and belly shirts don't offer similar exposure minus, maybe, a small amount of thigh. And they're friends after all, so then it's really not a big deal.

    So normal, not normal? I would say it probably isn't typical. But it's not a big deal. People are only against it cause they're insecure, or they grew up being told otherwise. Constant censorship causes unreasonable excuses against things.. e.g. swear words and their synonyms.. their synonyms are fine but swear words "oh my gosh!" they're so horrible, just because we've been told they are.. there really is no rationale behind it. Same with this matter, I think.

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  • I think what's considered normal depends entirely on the dynamics of each particular group of friends. Like with my friends, that's not a huge deal. Most of us have seen each other in underwear or partially clothed at some point or another. I personally don't like changing in front of other people, even my friends, unless I have to or it's inconvenient to leave the room. When I do, I don't just get down to bra and undies, I try to keep as much covered at one time as possible, and try to avoid changing my top until I get a second alone. Even around my girl friends. I don't care as much who sees my legs or part of my ass, so if it's just a matter of changing pants or switching into pjs, I just try to make it quick with my back to them, but it's irrelevant to me whether I'm around guy or girl friends. My guy friends are respectful of me and generally turn around or avert their focus at least to something else so that they're not looking even if I'm in their field of vision. I'm really only comfortable changing around my boyfriend, and since I'm taken now, I wouldn't change even just my pants around any guys at all, out of respect for him. My dude's friends are over a lot, so they see me in sleep clothes at night or in the morning with no bra under my tshirt, but I don't expose anything, and wear a hoodie or cross my arms around them to avoid potential nippage, lol.

  • Hmm, depends on the situation. Most likely not. I'll change in front of other girls as long as I know they don't mind and we're pretty good friends. I wouldn't want to give a guy the wrong idea though. I'd never get naked in front of a guy or girl.

    I'm just like that, personally.

    If I didn't have a choice and I was only going down as far as underwear, yeah, I'd change in front of a guy. But I'd ask him to turn around. If he looked anyway I wouldn't make a big deal about it but I'd tease him about being a peeping tom. XD

    Still, I'd prefer not to.

    • really now? I always change in front of girls. even if they're stranger. why should they mind? seriously, they have the same things on their own body!

    • Well I just consider it a gesture of trying to be polite. Maybe they're shy and it embarrasses them to see a girl get dressed, even if they are one. Not a bad thing to do your best to be sure that the people around you are as comfortable as possible. Now when I was in gym and changing in the locker room it was no big deal. You know, just depends on the situation.

  • You girls are gonna learn to start treating men like men and not thinking that just because you're friendly with them that they don't see you sexually. The only female friends you have are the ones who were born with vaginas. Male friends are still men at the end of the day. It is not normal to change in front of a bunch of guys. Please be careful because I don't know a way to say this, but you sound like the type of girl who might do something like that around the wrong guy, things could get out of hand and then people would be blaming you for "leading him on".

    • oh I do know guys always think of sex. but I don't care. its their problem if they see a friend as sexy. I hardly have any male friends so this isn't a common situation for me. either I like guys or I dont. in the second case I just don't care how they see me and they feel like friends to me. (Although we're not friends). and yes that does sound kind of like me lol

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  • no that's kinda nasty lol and guys are gonna be thinking bad things about you

  • Male friends , no . I don't want to place them in a awkward situation. Most of them have known me for years but despite that we still keep some sense of privacy between us and it just wouldn't feel right to be doing that in front of them just like they don't change in front of me.

  • I wouldn't. I'd say most girls probably would like to change in privacy, or at least not in front of guys.

  • i don't feel comfortable changing in front of guys or girls. Only my partner. That being said, I don't even change in front of other women in the changing rooms of pools..i change in the bathroom stall instead. When taking showers at pools, I only do it with my swim suit on. I don't even change in front of friends.. Its not that I hate my body, I just don't feel comfortable doing it..

    I guess it depends on the person

    • hmm I think you have some issues then. not trying to sound mean!

  • In front of gay male friends, yes.

    I've only been naked around one guy, so that doesn't count but other than that I don't change in front of guys...mostly cause the opportunity hasn't necessarily arose. Oh wait, no, there have been occasions during Marching band season, but when we're all in a rush trying to put uniforms on for contest no one is thinking of what you look like or whatever haha

  • I hardly ever even change in front of my female friends, let alone my guy ones. But the guy friends that I do change in front of, have either already seen me naked, or I'd like them to. Ifyaknowwhatimean.

  • Most of the time I don't and when I do, I feel extremely guilty about it.

  • No its not too normal. I mean I wouldn't want all my guy friends to see me in a bra for example. but if I'm wearing a singlet, its OK. I guess its just what you are used to and what your limits are. I don't flash my bra or panties to just anybody... not even friends :S

  • Haha, nope...never have. My family is quite old fashioned so sleeping in the same room with boys was out of the question too. Although my thoughts on sleeping with a boy in the same bed has changed...a lot. ;)

  • I used to change my clothes in front of guys all the time; I did drama in high school and it was the norm for guys to hang out in the girls dressing room and vice versa. I haven't done it since then except for one time in front of my gay friend. I don't think I would do it nowadays except for with my VERY good guy friends. :)

  • If it was normal for girls to change in front of guys, then most places wouldn't need separate changing rooms...hell, why have changing rooms at all?

    Seriously though, it depends on the situation.

    Changing into underwear isn't a big deal. A bikini and underwear is usually as revealing. (And most of the time a bikini is more revealing.)

    Different cultures have differing ideas on nudity anyways. And if they are people you'd be willing to go skinny dipping with, then what's the big deal?

    I doubt they minded, however, it may have bothered some of them. Just because you are fine with changing in front of them, doesn't mean they are okay with you changing in front of them.

    Are you okay with them watching you change? Are they only allowed to glance?

    Technically, some of them may have thought you were flirting with them. Although, if you're a flirty person anyways, then that doesn't matter.

    Also, maybe you may have upset your friend by changing in front of someone that SHE liked. Now she looks like a prude.

    Way to be a bad wingman. :P Just kidding...sorta.

    • she didn't like any of those guys so no worry :) and I was always nice to them. I'm kinda flirtatious with every guy. no matte whether they are 60 or guys I don't like lol its subcoscious

  • No, I don't.

    I think it's inappropriate. I'd only change in front of someone I was into. Why? Because even though they are my friends, they are still human beings and being friends with them won't make them immune to my female nakedness. If I don't know them its a 'hell no'. I'm not body shy, but I don't want to make any one uncomfortable or give them the wrong idea.

    • I'm immune to your nakedness. I swear.

    • Don't you have to be exposed to it to become immune? o.O

  • I have been in these situations where girls weren't afraid of changing in front of guy friends. Guys were generally polite enough not to stare or anything.

    Basically it was a matter of it being more convenient than running out somewhere just to avoid it.

    In one situation I was hanging out with some friends, basically it was all guys and one of them had his girlfriend visiting. So obviously we weren't leering in front of him.

    It really depends on the makeup of the group and the situation that you are in. Some people are simply more comfortable around others.

    I don't really need anyone telling me I should be as prudish and modest as they think I should be. If it works in your group, fine, go with it.

    • cool!

  • it all depends what clothes are coming off. if the farthest your stripping down to is undergarments it may be OK because it's like a bikini, but even if my female friend changed in front of me to that I'd be a little concerned.

  • as long as your not getting fully naked its not innapropriate... However, to be honest with you, if a girl is changing in front of me, I will be checking her out. On the other hand, I know girls check me out when I get changed in front of them!

    • i answered the same thing but in diff words, I saw this answer after I did oops.

  • I've never been seen a girl friend change in-front of me but I have changed in-front of them and they start yelling and screaming very girlie xD "Ahhh!" ha ha it's really fun :) and no matter what they say I know they actually like it ;) ... P.S Me gusta tu nickname! :)

    • i don't know about other girls, but I do like it. I'd probably say something more playful like "oohh sexy :P" especially if they are friends. would it bother you if they changed in front of you too? p.s. gracias :P

  • I think that if you were good friends with them, it would be okay. But you said you aren't too close with them, so I think it was weird. It's like giving the impression that you don't care who you get naked/semi naked around.

  • I'm cool with changing in front of them is we are close

    • well I didn't know them. that made it even easier.

  • In high school, we had a weekend trip and I roomed with 3 girls but most of the time it would be me, one girl and a couple of guys in the room. Because we were constantly going to the pool and they saw me in pretty revealing bathing suits I didn't mind changing my clothes in the room with everyone around. It was about the same amount of body being shown, but that was in that scenario. I don't change in front of guys generally, it gives a bad impression. But to each their own.

  • It would probably depend on the environment, and who the guys and girls are. Overall, I think I would be okay with changing in front of my close cousins and friends (Boys and girls).

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