Why do girls always want a relationship?

Question

I just don't give a flying f*** about relationships. They never work, and honestly I don't want to pretend that I'm something I'm not. I just want a casual sexual rendezvous every now and then but it seems that there's always strings attached and women always want a relationship out of me. just frustrating, my heart is ice cold and far out of reach nobody will ever be able to touch it. most relationships end in heart break id rather of not been in a relationship at all if I knew what was going to eventually happen. so why a relationship? why do people feel the need to be in one? baffles me

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Haha, I feel like that was more of a rant than a question. With your attitude, of course a relationship won't work... But whatever floats your boat. There are women who feel the same way as you do. I don't think it's necessarily a gender thing. I think that some people prefer relationships for a few reasons... In no particular order:

a) They want to trust whomever they're sleeping with, and "know where that's been." If you're not sleeping around, but are consistently with the same person, then your risk of any diseases is much lower.

b) Sex is better with someone you care about. It just is.

c) If you do really care about someone, you don't want to share them.

d) Sure, sometimes relationships end and someone's left heart-broken. But that doesn't mean that you didn't have an amazing time while you were together. And if you don't open up and actually take the time to get close to people, then how are you supposed to know what's best for you when you do find it?

e) People are so proud and excited to be seeing someone they feel is so special that they want to announce it to the world, but giving each other boyfriend/girlfriend titles.

f) You're not going to be that intimate with someone (physically and emotionally) if you barely know them. Sure, you can stick it in whoever you want, but meaningless sex really does get boring after a while. When you connect with someone on other levels, you're going to be happier with the outcome.

g) It's nice to have someone to go to the movies with, etc. instead of being the third wheel when you hang out with your friends and their better halves.

... Etc.

Personally, I enjoy being single. But if the right person comes along, I don't object to taking a chance. Some of my happiest moments have been with people I was dating, and even though those relationships are over, I don't regret them. :)

emmabee11 · Accepted Answer

Girls get attached weather they say they won't or not it's just in our nature during the mating proccess and can't be stopped, it's jsut in our genetic make-up, my friend who used to have a lot of one night stands said a part of her felt attached when she slept with someone, I know what she means because I have had a few flings too, not been like her it just randomly happened and I did feel slightly attached, the attachment level depends on the good of a job you did in bed, there is one guy who I'm friends with and we like each other, we have fooled around a few times, of course he's back in scotland while I moved back to england again and I got really attached to him because he did better than any guy I've messed around with, it was amazing every time. Since we all the child bearers it is just instinctive, of course the more stronger the attachment the more the women feels is right to share their dna with them, it fasinates me how our own bodies have their way of telling who is worthy enough of us. It is not our faults though, it's why most guys only do it with us once then move onto another girl because if were sex buddies it also gives us a chance to get familiar and more comfortable with you.

jokersgirl · Accepted Answer

I don't want one..

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I feel your pain; it seemed to me that all girls that talked to me for 10-15 minutes thought I was their boyfriend!

It was annoying as hell.

But girls are hardwired that way, and we are hardwired the other way - so the only thing to do, which I did, was to sleep with the ones I wanted to, and made it crystal clear to them that sex was their only option; that they would never get me in a relationship and they would have to take it or leave it. Most of the accepted it.

It's the only alpha thing to do.

stubbsy · Accepted Answer

Because girls want to feel as if they are valued and that the guy they are with is worthy of their talents, if you can't show a girl commitment, then your not going to get much sex, because guys who use women for sex, will end up with a reputation most girls won't touch with a flag pole, so be prepared to end up a very lonely boy, good luck.

Hidden_P · Answer

That's not true. My best friend right now is having casual sex with no intention and no wanting to be in a relationship with anyone.

Hookers don't want to be with every one of their clients.

Most of the people staring in p*rn are probably not in relationships.

A day to day girl just wants the security and knowing there's someone there to talk to and offload and to meet their needs emotionally.

There are girls out there who don't want it.

Although I will say, is there not even a little part of you that one day, maybe, would like to?

lproxsme · Answer

well you sound like your upset now but eventually you will calm down and realize that relationships aren't that bad... yeah maybe your one of those guys who don't want to do the whole relationship and marriage thing but most people just want to fall in love and do all that stuff.  Yeah there are some people who hook up but girls have strong emotions and tend to bond during sex.  It is all science based stuff.  Anyway I't has to do with having someone to rely on when women have sex were really varnable so we are putting trust in a guy who is doing us lol.  We want support and to feel safe these thing come with being in a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

If you don't want a relationship, then its fine. Just make sure to tell the girl what you want and that you don't have any intention of a relationship. Either you get bitch slapped or you get what you want. But if you don't do it, you would have to put up with a girl who un-fortunally has feelings for you.

Dont need to be such a jerk about it.

If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. You just move on.

Dont need to go all ice cold heart about it.

Youre just wasting your chancing on finding the right girl.

Because guys like you, you make girls be afraid of falling in love.

Enough said.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

While men are designed to seek as many sexual partners as possible to better ensure their production of multiple offspring, women are designed to find a partner to aid in the raising and protection of their offspring. Thus why women want a relationship with their sexual partner. It's genetics, my friend.

LadyStark · Answer

I like having someone there as my closest friend, with whom I can be sexually intimate but also emotionally intimate. Love is a beautiful and powerful thing. Don't close your heart to it. Yes, it can hurt, but all of that pain is worth it when you find the right person.

"Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more."

--Erica Jong

madiocre · Answer

relationships are difficult they take a lot of work etc .. sometimes though you meet awesome people and that's what they want so it's worth giving up singledom..

When I was single I loved the nos trings attached and it always worked well for me. The trick is to do nothing but sex... as in no movies no nothing meetup have sex leave... my friend doesn't like relationships either but she always has issues and its because she goes out places with her fwb, takes them to parties goes to their parties etc ..

courtney06 · Answer

You sound like me. I feel like relationships never work. I won't even accept getting to know dinner dates anymore. I don't even care for sex right now because the last guy I slept with decided to tell me he has a new girlfriend AFTER he banged me. I don't have anything against people just crave sex but just don't put someone else's health at risk. Deep down I do want a relationship, but I just don't put in the effort anymore. If the right person comes, it will happen naturally.

Izzy2102 · Answer

Why do you think you have to pretend to be someone you're not?

As other have said , we're evolutionary required to want relationships. It's not bs it makes a lot of sense if you think about it. Sex could always result in pregnancy for us and contrary to men we can't walk away from it, so we're best of only having sex with someone who would raise a kid with us.

Jackie7 · Answer

They don't always want one. From my perspective, I don't want the responsibilities of a relationship but I want to know the person I'm sleeping with isn't sleeping with anyone else (or WANTS to) and thinks I'm a level 12 kind of cool. That's all I want. Why is that so hard to find?

Frostie · Answer

Maybe they don't work because of you, maybe it isn't that they don't work in general? My parents have a rocky relationship,however they're still together after 25 years, and they don't seem to be leaving any time soon. People in general have their own individual reasons for wanting to be in one,some reasons might be similar to others. All relationships end in grief. Whether its because of death or any other reason. if you don't give a sh*t about people, why are you even asking us this loaded question?

Mel549 · Answer

Girls don't always want a relationship. There are a decent amount who just want sex and that's it. If you feel that way about relationships, don't have them. I felt that way for two years and all I did was f*** around. Eventually feel like giving one a go, maybe, and then you can. Don't sit there and think that all girls just want a relationship though, because you're misleading yourself.

dudeman · Answer

this is why lesbian relationships are the largest demographic for 	relationship to fail. women want a return for their vag becquse they fewl it worth something. two lesbians butting heads becuase they are both giving it up but recieve no benifit 	man brings to the table, its just in a womens nature

Anonymous · Answer

I think having a relationship is better than random hook ups because then you have something reliable and steady. Honestly I'm sure if you could find a women that will be with you forever, and really care about you then you'd take that over multiple hook ups.

_marj · Answer

I think... to affirm themselves of where they stand with you. If you have feelings for someone then you want to be able to say that they're yours. If there is no relationship then there aren't really any boundaries to what you are. Another thing is that it distinguishes you from all the other girls. Being called someone's girlfriend means that out of all the females he associates with, you're the most important, and sometimes girls like/want that. If any of that makes sense at all...

Quadrophonic73 · Answer

And you'll find the guys that are explicitly looking for relationships are considered undesirable. Women have a lot of "interesting" perspectives on all kinds of things. Stay single forever, you are right.

MissYessi · Answer

Well, obviously you were hurt really bad by the way you typed all this. I understand, I don't want a relationship neither... well not now at least. Goodluck

Anonymous · Answer

For the same reason you want sex - biology. They are programmed to want it, just like you're programmed to want sex.

WoIIie · Answer

Blame that huge dangling meat between your legs. They want more.

Flusher · Answer

I'd say that you haven't met the right one yet. Unexpected things can happen, though. You shouldn't give up hope.

My main point being that you should do what you think is the best. If you now enjoy flings, then why not?

defytraditiongirl · Answer

probably evolution, biology, same why you want one, although you say it, instincts like that can't be overcome really

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