I kissed 2 guys at the same party...

Question

i was at this part and I had a crush on 2 guys , I kissed one outside the party and the other one inside the party, they are like really popular and everyone knows them. so now everyone know I kissed two guys, and now lots of people call me a whore, even tho I'm a virgin, I don't see why people take this so serious , I mean its just a kiss not like I gave a handjob to both of them at the same day.

and other girls I know get hooked up at partys and people don't call them whore, and when I kiss guys they call me a whore f*** LOGIC!

now I don't know what to do, because I still like both of them but one of them is mad at me and he means more to me .

also lots of girls hate me and I don't even know them, they starts rumors about me, and my life is a f***ing disaster now.

what should I do?!

SeeingEye · Accepted Answer

Honestly start by just relaxing. I know people are on your back and there are rumors, but if you are just yourself and move along everything will be fine. Chat with one of the guys and see if you can just build bridges. Don't overreact and if anyone is bold enough to call you a whore to your face just laugh at them and ask them what do they know about you? I assume many of these people are not your friends and will have no answer. If their answer is that you kissed 2 guys tell them to grow up. Honestly while your user age says under 18, I think we are all old enough and smart enough to realize that is is silly to be insulting people for something as trivial as a kiss. It is not like you are dating someone and blew them off or anything like that.

Just relax and take it easy. Rumors are quickly and easily dispersed when people see you are genuinely just a good person who had a bad night. Try not to curse as well when talking to these people, it's a bad habit and it really just makes people think you are less classy and behave just like how they currently perceive you to be.

TheAnswerer · Accepted Answer

I agree with taster here.

Although what you did may have confused many people (including the two guys in question), I see that you are as confused as everybody else.

People call you horrible things, because they now believe that you are trying to manipulate multiple guys, which wouldn't be good for your reputation, if it was really the case.

However, as far as I understand, the reason why you kissed both these guys is simply because you are, like I said before, confused. You have feelings for both, and you can't choose.

I think what you need to do is to first of all relax, and then start thinking about which one of these guys you want to be with. Then go to him and make it up to him, while clearing the air with the other one. The other guy should know that the kiss meant nothing and you aren't involved with him.

Anyway, that's my take on this issue. Good luck solving it. =)

NoOneListens21 · Accepted Answer

It's a party can f*** if I want to lie if I want to cry if I have to. that is how the song goes...right? lol

oh. well. things like that do happen. Especially when you are in hs. but I wouldn't let them get to you. I mean you know that what you did wasn't grounds for qualifying you as a whore. I think that next time you should just go after the guy who you like the most because it may end up hurting the one you like and your chances with them. I would try to apologize to the one that you do like and tell him that it wasn't a great choice but you like him a lot and that you wouldn't want to ever hurt him like that. You were not thinking clearly and didn't think he felt the same. If he does. Anyways...I wouldn't let those girls get to you because obviously they either are jealous or they liked one of those guys who you made out with. So don't let them get to you. Hope it helps.

kirstentaylorc · Accepted Answer

Well you probably already know you shouldn't have kissed both of them, no matter how popular they are -__-

You could apologize to both guys, that might make things seem a bit better for you between them. It's only high school though and eventually things will blow over. If you keep letting it bother you then they will probably keep talking to get to you. Just let it go and forgive yourself, eventually people will forget all about it.

Prettygurl12 · Accepted Answer

Well, congratulations. High school will end soon enough and you can get a new life in college. It's only a big deal because you're making it one. Granted, it wasn't very wise of you to make out with two different guys at the SAME party. That's just plain dumb. Anyway, you shouldn't let the people bother you. And if they do, well, there's always college.

kholland65 · Answer

Ok before I even start explaining this, I'm going to put the shoe on the other foot so you can understand the mindset of everyone else, especially the guys. If you were at a party and watched some guy kiss 2 girls in the same night, how are you going to feel about that guy? I'm sure you are going to think he is a player.

I do realize that today, the term slut is being used in a variety of different ways. But what you have to understand, is many times being coined a slut has nothing to do with the sheer number of guys you have slept with. Many girls think that as long as they keep their number down or their virginity in tact, they can still do whatever they want and never be labeled a slut. It really boils down to the morality and the overall looseness of the girl. Even if you are a still a virgin, if you are out flirting with tons of guys, and kissing a bunch of different guys, people are going to view you as someone with low moral standards.

I will say this, I would not exactly be vary fond of a girl who did what you did. I'm not so sure I would go as far as calling her a slut, but I wouldn't be jumping at the bit to date or be friends with her.

You and other women need to realize that in this world you can in fact do whatever you please, be there are always consequences. You can't change that. That is why you must think before you act. Sometimes your pleasure will come and price somewhere else in your life, typically your reputation. Instead of criticizing others for judging you, you might want to start keeping a better eye on your own actions.

northwestree · Answer

Clearly peoples opinions do vary, and people are not shy expressing their opinions. A safer course would be to kiss each of them out of sight of the others. Keeping things private has some advantages.

In the bigger picture it depends on what you want. Maybe you want multiple lovers, maybe just one at a time. There are different pleasures in each of these paths.

A question is if you like being watched while kissing or even going further. Some people really like this, some don't care, and some don't like it at all. No blame, just know where you stand.

So it comes down to

~ What do you want in relationships?

~ How much of an exhibitionist are you?

~ How much do you care what other people think and say?

WaitingAtTheDoor · Answer

Well I suppose the lesson learned for you is not to kiss two guys, because that's where all the name calling comes from.

You're right in that many over-dramatized their situation, or someone else's situation. "Whore" doesn't quite fit the this one, but it's going to be the one they choose to use.

But what should have been obvious to you is that you can't have both guys, so you need to fix whatever carefree attitude led you to do what you did because as you get older, people won't call you whore, but they won't respect you when you do such things, and that is definitely far worse than a name.

In terms of the two guys, if you want to repair the relationship with the one, you need to do it personal, one-on-one with him and be sure he's ready to hear you. If you go to him when he's still emotional over it, he won't hear what you have to say. Be honest and direct about the mistake you made.

After that, you'll just need to ride it out.

taster · Answer

Don't do anything...it will all blow over son...man...if kissing two girls at the same party was a Federal Offense I would NEVER get out of prison...they will find someone else to pick on and talk about soon..especially if you act like it does not bother you...lol..never thought of myself as a Kiss Whore before...(:(:(:

Saramodel · Answer

Babe relax, I have to congratulate you for becoming a woman. When I realized what orgasm means, I started doing stuff like that all the time. I can't remember any time that I went clubbing without kissing at least 5 guys and I mean like full-on tongue kiss with everyone and they already knew that I was exchanging saliva with someone else before them but they didn't give a shit. Actually they loved it and I can tell that by the way their tongues invading my mouth

KingJR · Answer

...you still like both of them and one is mad at you...by process of elimination, go with the other one. "But the other guy means more to me". Should of thought of that before you jumped on the other guy. Plus, do you really want to start things off with someone on a bad note? You shouldn't need to convince someone to be with you...go with the other guy..if he still wants you as well that is.

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

I kissed 3 girls and one guy all at the same party and no one called me a wore, but its college. People in high school are f***ards its a fact of life get over it .

phoenix3891 · Answer

tonight the same shit happened to me, I was very upset, I kissed a girl and then went to the toilet when I was back a guy told me that she kissed another guy but I didn't believe him, to nake sure I started kissing her and she was kissing me back, but after I went for a drink I saw her kissing the other guy I told her bravo 2bguys in one night and I kissed another girl in front of her, for your case I think people see it as if you cheated on both guys at the samtime

Dylan1989 · Answer

You didn't do anything wrong. But with the world we live in are you really that surprised about peoples' actions and reactions?

Anonymous · Answer

Last night I kissed 3 guys at the same party. I don't know why you would be called that because we did things  a lot  worse than it sounds you did. I even kissed my best friends boyfriend and she was there laughing.

Chrissy1986 · Answer

i would ignore and go on with your life

TheBattMan · Answer

That was kind of slutty. You have to admit that.

kheserthorpe · Answer

Did the one you liked kiss you first or second?

bDizzie · Answer

They're just jealous.

Anonymous · Answer

well, you made your bed, now you have to lie in it

cyrus7 · Answer

I'd be mad too

Anonymous · Answer

Gross...really gross

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