My boyfriend hates my job and doesn't want me to work, even though I've been off work for a whole year!?

leahsantos
Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 4 years now. We just had a baby 10months ago and I was off work for a whole year. I recently went back to work and it has caused so much friction between us. I'm a bartender and I work nights, but he works a 9 to 5 and I have no choice but to work nights since I don't have a babysitter. He doesn't understand why I want to work. He can support us on his income alone, but I feel so depressed and lonely just being a stay at home mom. I've worked my whole entire life and I love working and making my own money. I don't want to feel dependent and I want to feel like I am helping out too. However, he is so insecure because he thinks I am going to meet someone at work or someone will hit on me. I don't know what to do. I am not going to be a stay at home mom for the rest of my life. My goal is to become a police officer and then I will be working grave yard shift for a while. So my question is how do I make him feel more secure or understand where I am coming from? I will not give up my dreams just to be with him. He admits that he has a lot of growing up to do and I think he knows deep down that the way he is acting/feeling is wrong but it's but so much space between us and now we aren't connected. We go to bed and don't say anything to each other. He says just to ignore him and let him deal with it, that's he's trying to get numb and just not care. But is that really the solution? Because I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who is numb and not emotionally there. HELP PLS!
My boyfriend hates my job and doesn't want me to work, even though I've been off work for a whole year!?
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