Why would a guy deny his feelings towards a girl he likes ?
There is a guy I have been seeing and he told me initially he doesn't want a relationship with me. I asked him again and he still did not. I cut... Show More
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I'll give you my experience with my current girlfriend.
We met about a year ago, and were nothing more than friends. I assumed she was actually single the whole time because she mentioned that she had just gotten out of a bad relationship, but apparently they got back together at some point. I was single at that time as well, but was talking with another girl whom I ended up getting into a relationship with a couple weeks later.
We continued to be friends and talk often, and she broke up with her boyfriend around February. Again, I didn't even know they got back together, so I didn't know this. I broke up with my girlfriend in April. Her relationship lasted 4 years, mine lasted 4 months. Anyway, afterward we continued to talk, and got together and hung out. She expressed multiple times an interest in wanting to date me. Eventually I gave in and said we could give things a try.
She said she didn't want a relationship. I asked why, and she said she could tell I wasn't ready. Fast forward another month later and I said I was feeling ready, and she said she wasn't, which didn't make much sense to me because she seemed to be earlier. As it turned out, she had been hiding the fact that she was still not over her ex. She was just unavailable because of that, and she hid it well for months. Then eventually it culminated and she had a breakdown. She turned to me in this breakdown.
Now, though, she sees herself as over him, they've not had any contact in a long time, and she said just a week and a half ago she was ready for the next step with me. The entire time I was fighting to get her, she was reciprocating feelings, making it seem as though she wanted me, but she kept that distance of not starting a relationship. She was also dating other guys, I knew that. We were just friends who had some dates form time to time. But she ended all those others and finally chose to move forward with me.
So, perhaps the guy really isn't interested. Or perhaps he is, but he's fighting something inside that he's hiding, and until he's done with that battle, he'll be unavailable. Your choice is to either let go or to give it time to see what the real issue is - is he not interested, or is he just not ready at this time.
What Guys Said 9
I think he actually doesn't like you romantically.
I think he likes you as a FWB.
I think he's been pretty clear about that.
it seems that he's been pretty clear about what he wants and even went as far as to tell you things very bluntly that would maybe get the message across. he probably finds you sexually attractive but doesn't see a relationship in the cards.
you outlined a pretty good argument as to why a relationship probably doesn't work. you two seem to be very different personalities, do different things, think differently and hang out with different people.
I think you choose to believe that there is more based on his actions because you want to believe there is more to this relationship...
His actions speak to the fact that perhaps he wants a hook up and that is all and based on you description of the differences between teh two of you you shouldn't expect or really even want much more from the relationship
If that guy don't want to be with you in relationship and also didn't respect you you should leave him .. and move on
He is not lying. He said he doesn't want a relationship with you. Believe him. Everything else, as conflicting as it is, can be put aside. He does not want a relationship with you. Move on.
All I see is a guy bluntly telling you he's not interesting in a relationship with you, and you ignoring what he was telling you and trying to change his mind. When a guy wants to sleep around, he's not going to get into a relationship. Naive girls that throw themselves at him and are hooked and willing to sleep with him, might get some action, but that doesn't change the fact that he "doesn't want a relationship". That's pretty clear. He was detached from you, and now that coldness is right in your face and you're still ignoring it. This is why girls get used... =|
It sounds like you like him and he doesn't. That or he doesn't want to admit it first as then he would be considered the submissive one. Guys don't like to be the submissive ones
It sounds to me that he was honest with you from the very very start.
The fact that you chose to believe his actions meant something, is your problem. Too many girls share this problem too.
Listen to the words coming out of his mouth. He doesn't want a relationship with you. That means that he doesn't want a relationship with you.
Guys are not hard to understand. You just make it hard for yourselves, when you keep trying to interpret his actions and look for hidden meanings.
Time and time again, you will find the simple truth - there aren't any.
"I sincerely believe he is lying."
Again, this is your mental problem. Not his. He has been nothing but nice and honest with you.
wow, the guy is as honest and brutally honest with you, as he could possibly be - and your reaction is to think he was lying. Guys, we just can't win...
girl, you're crazy.
He told you the absolute hard cold truth, and you're still looking to find some other hidden meaning behind his words. This is insane behavior . What does the guy have to do to convince you? He told you *initially* he didn't want a relationship. You asked again, and he told you a second time, he didn't want a relationship. And when you finally broke it off, he REMINDED YOU that he NEVER WANTED A RELATIONSHIP with you.
Three times you asked. Three times he answered.
What does it take to get through your head, that he never wanted a relationship with you?
What Girls Said 3
Why are you still putting up with this from him? He's being very honest about his intentions, and also being a bit of a jerk too. He's not hiding his feelings. A guy has no interest in committing to a girl who will put up with a lot of bad treatment, essentially. His behavior toward you has at the very least been disrespectful, but has also just simply not alligned with what you're looking for. You putting up with it and hoping he'd change his mind just pushed him further away. '
Do yourself a favor and leave. Tell him you'll find someone else who doesn't think your emotions are pointless. Have a backbone hun!
Guys generally mean what they say and say what they mean, despite how you interpret their actions and how they make you feel. He has told you multiple times and apparently in a blunt manner that he does not want a relationship, this is not what a man would do if he has loving feelings for a woman.
I feel your pain, hurt, insecurities. I have been where you are and it sucks. I am with you on this one... guys are saying that he is telling you from the beginning that he was up front you but the fact is... HE gave you hope in the beginning, he was caring and sweet and then a switch went off and he was the total opposite. GUYS all she wants is to know why he would do this, SWITCH ON, SWITCH OFF. simple question, and us woman would like to know.