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My boyfriend earns more money than me & makes me feel sh*t about it

Ok so I gave up my high earning job in London to move North & live with my fiancé. Now I can't get the same job with the same high earnings up here &... Show More

IT'S GREAT TO HEAR PEOPLE'S response & advice to my situation ! He makes. Me feel powerless as I haven't been able to contribute at all yet but then I remind myself we are not struggling & wen we go shopping for food I really don't take the piss...I make a basic shopping list of only the things we need & I pick up all the special offers. But now I'm working I will be able to contribute now. He took the piss as well cos I've just started to teach dance classes but not making any money yet :/
He said if we wanted to place a bet each week to how many people turn up it might make me earn more money !

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  • Sounds to me that this guy thinks that money equals human value. Just because you have money doesn't mean that you can treat others like dirt. He should be grateful that you gave up your previous job and moved with him. If I had his kind of money then money would be the least of my concerns. I would use the money to bring support instead of a weapon against.

    He is obviously using money as some kind of power trip and for an excuse to dominate and abuse you mentally. He probably has a very low self-esteem and if you would take away all his money he would completely lose himself and his sense of worth as a human being.

    In your situation I would ask him if he thinks that just because he has more money than you he also has more value as a human being. If he says "Yes" I would leave. If he says "no" then you reply with "Then why do you treat me like I'm worthless?"

    This would be the end or the beginning of a long conversation about human value, compassion and what love really is about. Money should not in the equation.

What Guys Said 5

  • You're engaged to this prick? I think it's safe to say that you have a pretty good idea what to expect from him after the wedding vows are said. Don't marry him! If you do, you will have made your bed.

  • If I found someone I love, whether I was living in a shack or a mansion it would not matter. How that person treats me on the other hand, does. No amount of money is worth that. Love is so much more important than money.

  • Seriously, if he bullies you and disrespects you, why are you with the guy? Because he's millionaire? Is being treated like dirt worth it? Someone who loves you, isn't going to use something like that against you. You're selling your soul, and you're not even realizing it.

  • I would say more but pretty much agree with adzence. If you feel you can it would be best for you to move on away from him. Maybe back to London or somewhere you would want to live. Your still young and just think about later if you decide to have kids. He may change after but knowing some people like that over the years it's not the most likely. And if he doesn't well you'll just feel like this the rest of your life and he will allways hold it over your head. And your kids would be in the middle of it. If I for one was him I would be treating you better and wanting you to be a great mother to the children, a stay at home mom if that's what you wanted. Especially due to the fact he makes more than enough to be able to support you both. And you moved from your good paying job to be with him, he should respect you and cherish you for that, not scold you. My point being you deserve someone better who will respect you for who you are, not how much you make. Your still young, give yourself a chance to find a real and decent man. Not one using money to disgrace you and push you down. That's not a relationship, it's closer to a dictatorship. And all I can say about him is he's a pig and a rich f*** who deserves nothing he has, especially you. Be the rose breaking through the concrete and growing beautiful and happy, not the seed held down underneath it condemned to no life at all.

What Girls Said 2

  • He is disrespecting you.He does not respect you. You know that. he knows that. You know he knows that you know that. He knows that you know that he knows that you know that he knows that you knows he knows that. You both know this.

    So WHY are you with him? I do not see what place love has without respect. Its a complete fallacy.

    Any ONE of the things you mentioned is grounds to recognize his person is not who you thought and is incapable of being in a humane respectful caring rational mutually dignified relationship.

    You are lucky you did not marry him. Leave before you get more entrenched.

  • he is an abusive jerk you better get out now

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