How do I make my boyfriend put more effort into our relationship?

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I've been with this guy for 5 months. The first two were long distance (2 hours) and were great... he was so romantic and would send me sweet texts and just generally be really nice. He even told me pretty quickly that he thinks I'm the girl he'll marry someday. In the 3rd month, I moved to the same city as him (for work) and things were still pretty good... then we hit a really rough patch partly because the move/new job isn't working out for me, but mostly because he was saying/doing some stupid stuff and pretty much broke my heart.

We got over it and stayed together, but even though we have a pretty good relationship again, he's different. He'll hug and kiss me in public still, but he doesn't send sweet texts, and he doesn't talk to me at all on weekends (because his days are "too crazy"). We don't go out on dates anymore, we just sit in my apartment and watch TV. I don't think he's doing this on purpose, but I've tried to set up other dates and something always happens to ruin it... either he's too tired, or his friends come into town, or he's called into work, etc. He still says, occasionally, that he wants to be with me forever, but I'm not sure I want to be with him forever if this is what our relationship is going to be like.

The problem is, I don't really have any friends out here (my job isn't at all social), and I'm worried that my disappointment with him is worse because of the stress and loneliness I'm going through. I don't want to seem naggy or clingy by telling him that I want him to act like he used to, before our big fight, but I miss the old him and how happy we were. I still love him, and I want to work through this. Any idea how I can do that? I've heard that distancing myself from him will make him start working harder for me again, so I thought that maybe I'd try not to talk to him too much or initiate text conversations for the 5 days that I'm home for Thanksgiving. Does that work?
How do I make my boyfriend put more effort into our relationship?
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