I try to be understanding of his situation by walking very long distances with him when he doesn't have transportation money, and thinking up as many low-cost things to do together as possible. However, low-cost isn't free, and he so rarely has money that I pick up the tab any time we do anything at all. Even when we don't go out, we cook dinner with my groceries, watch movies on the Netflix account that I pay for so we won't be bored out of our minds, or I cave and get us a few beers or something.
The problem is that I don't make all that much money either. My budget is a little tight for one person, let alone two. I'm getting bored of sitting around watching movies all the time, and there aren't a ton of free things to do in the wintertime. Plus, though I know it's not his fault, I secretly long to go out on an actual date - even just going dutch sounds good right now. On top of that, I feel like I constantly have to defend him to my friends and family members who feel that a real boyfriend should take his girl out and buy her things.
Basically, am I doing the right thing by supporting him indefinitely, even though it's a strain on my finances? Or is this relationship doomed to failure unless he magically gets a job?
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