My boyfriend likes other girls Facebook pictures?

[loveless123]

I try not to take it personally but it still bothers me. Should I be concerned at all or am I just fretting over the small stuff. Guys and Girls advice would be great!

[BLJSCM]

All of you guys make good points on both sides of the issue, however my situation is a little bit unique. My girlfriend and I broke up for about a week about a couple of months ago and during that separation she spent a few nights with this other guy that used to be mutual friends with the both of us. She says that nothing happened between them however she did happen to mention that she was crushing on him. Fast forward to present day, she and I are back together and living with one another again however she remains FB friends with him, likes a lot of his posts/statuses, likes a few of his selfies, and often texts him whilst at the same time virtually ignoring my FB even when I write her or post stuff. Specifically she liked a post that said "Stay well lubricated sleep with a mechanic" (btw he is a mechanic), as well as liked a post that said " I'm a mechanic. The person your girl calls when you can't bust a nut" (A little background info: A while back I took a bunch of Cialis while drunk off my ass to try it out cause my stepfather gave it to me and I was curious... Long story short I couldn't get it up till morning... lol embarrassing). Anyway, what is your view on this? Am I wrong for being jealous about her remaining FB friends and making these sorts of comments? P. S. she also only follows about 7 people, one of which is him, and none of which are me.

[JazGia]

Personally, I feel this is not right on her part. You have told her (I'm assuming) you don't like it. I think this is something you should address to her, and if she doesn't do anything about it she's essentially ignoring how you feel. Granted, there is a balance, and if you were being unreasonable thats one thing, but I definitely don't feel you are.

[esthaaa]

No yoy aren't wrong for beinf jealous. She has mentioned before that she was crushing on him, and she likes statuses he posts that has hilights things about himself while you guys are in a relationship, that in my opinion isn't right. If she is liking any of his stuff that has any sexual undertones and etc isn't cool either. She isn't even following you but she can follow him? No, just no. I would be jealous too if I was in your shoes. Maybe more than just that. If you already haven't expressed/discussed your feelings about this situation with her, I think it's important to do so. If she still goes and does the same thing even after sharing your uncomfortability with the issue then you obviously have your answer there

[esthaaa]

Sorry I made so many typos and errors in my previous comment. I was typing too fast and forgot to revise lol.

[Anonymous]

I don't think there's a rule against it. It isn't like men stop finding girls attractive after they get a girlfriend. I'd be worried if he had a bunch of flirty comments under the photos, but just clicking "like" just means he think's she's attractive or it was a nice photo. Bringing up something like this providing he isn't flirting with these girls just makes you look insecure.

[socialdestroyer]

It's just Facebook. Likes mean nothing, trying to get upset over someone like that is trying to go to court because someone had a thought, ya know? You only have a case if something comes of it.
Stuff like this to me is just evidence that social media is helping over complicate personal relationships, platonic and otherwise.

by the way, visit socialdestroyer. net if you want to get more facebook/ instagram followers

[RollinGanja]

I understand there is no rule against it but we are girls we are going to get jealous! I had found out my boyfriend had liked other girls photos and apparently he would stop liking them ( I actually believe he would ) you actually don't know how it makes us feel it's like us liking other guys pictures 😂 you'd be fucked right off

[Domdomx]

I agree, I'm a woman and this kind of thing used to really upset me but I've come to realise that most men look at other women, not becuSe they don't want you; just because they are simply looking. There's not much else thought behind it I think. Liking a picture is nothing really, his not acting upon it, just a like. My boyfriend added women, a long time ago, to look at their pictures; it looks bad but it's just looking. As long as there's no messages or private texting them I think it's harmless.

[Anonymous]

I may be in the minority, but I think that him pressing that button showing that he "likes" the pic is a step towards something shady...not quite there yet, but the intentions are not the greatest. Reason is that the "like" is shown to at least the person who put up the pic, so he's basically letting the object of the photo know that he thinks she's attractive (unless the pic is blatantly of some beautiful mountain scene or a graduation or something). Imo, this is akin to you guys walking down the street together and he told some other girl walking by that she's attractive.

I know a lot of people think it's harmless, that it's human nature to continue to "like" how other people look regardless of whether they're in a relationship or not, etc...That's very true, but in that case, he would just keep his opinions to himself and not bother pressing that button to show the girl in the pic and whoever else on the internet, including you, that he thinks someone else is hot. Like someone else said, it's common courtesy.

If you've already told him it makes you upset and he continues to do it, then that's something to watch out for. It doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't care about you, but it may mean that his own ego is a priority, above your feelings.

[TrustYourGut]

It depends on what kind of guy your Boyfriend is, if he goes around liking tons of pictures that's one thing. But if not...I feel it could be a slippery slope. Just noticed my boyfriend liked a girl's pic today and I'm trying to figure out the best way to approach him about it. Or if to just vaguely bring up somehow what we count as flirting/what's dealbreakers, etc. Don't play games that is the worst.

[Getoverit12]

I have to disagree with this. So you find other guys attractive? Do you express it in some ways? (Comment to freinds about sports players/ celebrities, do you go see movies like magic mike, or even follow a Instagram with "fitguys" or something similar?) If you do then get over it.. He's not doing anything shady, if he's simply liking the picture of an attractive girl, what's the fuss? Is it so bad he finds other people attractive. He's with you for a reason, if he's not being any more shady then there's not a problem.. HOW ABOIT YOU CONSIDER HIS FEELINGS? Maybe he would like to be able to find others attractive without his ego being put into question. .. So many double standards in this world..

[esthaaa]

Honestly I feel the same way as you. Just to put it out there I have anxiety disorder that makes me overthink and worry to even begin with. Even though it really may be harmless, and a lot of times I feel that it's my anxiety kicking in, but either way I still feel very uncomfortable about it. I feel as though when you "like" another girl's picture, that is still showing them attention and it opens up possibilities for other things to happen. Especially if I don't know who the girl is it makes me more paranoid. Maybe I feel this way because I don't go liking other guys' pictures even if they're just my friends for any reason. I also feel that it is common courtesy. Again, this is just my opinion and have discussed this issue with my boyfriend. Best thing is, if it makes you very uncomfortable, let your boyfriend know and just be open with each other.

[RollinGanja420]

I agree and disagree I had found my boyfriend liking other pictures and I had told him it made me felt jealous and he got shitty at me then had said he would stop because we talked about how it made me feel I think if you talk to him about it then getting over reacting 😊 but it dies annoy the fuck outta me but it's a gut thing can't stop them from doing anything plus I know I trust mine 100%

[RollinGanja420]

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[XRabbitHeartX]

I can relate. My ex boyfriend did this once and I sorta took it personally and because we were really close and talked about everything and anything (we always promised to be open and hold nothing back) I told him I was kinda bummed about it and wanted to know why he did it. He was really shocked about it and told me he never realized it could hurt my feelings and that he simply liked the picture cause he thought it looked all summer-ish (lame excuse, he could just have said he thought she was hot, wouldn't have mattered) but the good thing was he never ever did it again after that and I thought that was cool cause even thought it might seem like nothing and I know it's silly he realized that it made me feel a bit sad and refrained from doing so again. Sometimes I really think honesty is the best policy. I couldn't care less about how clingy I looked, all I knew was that me and him always shared personal stuff and this was just one of those things and because it was nothing to him it was nothing for him to not do it again which I respected a lot =)

So my point, talk to him! If you have a open relationship there shouldn't be things to feel worried about!

[wiserlady]

And you still broke up.. maybe for a different reason...

[Apples24]

Let's cut down to the chase the shit is wrong and causes a lot of pain people always fronting on real shit. If you liking and commenting on girls pic your opening up the door for something more b it's inappropriate and men and women need to watch what their doing cause it brings insecurity into the relationship. Caumsual likes are cool but anything other than that can cause shit to really get fucked up.

[XRabbitHeartX]

@wiserlady We broke up because we were very incompatible. He also had a terrible temper and we weren't a good fit in the long run. It had nothing to do with anything I mentioned in this post.

@Apples24 I agree completely.

[EA100724]

Well here's my story if it helps anybody. In the beginning of our relationship my boyfriend used to add a ton of girls. Right after he would like a bunch of there pictures back to back.. I thought of it as him trying to get their attention. He messaged me and liked a bunch of my photos when he first tried talking to me. I told him how I felt and he said he had a liking problem and that he was working on it. So he did get a little better but he was still doing the same thing with the adding and liking. I thought I was wrong for the way I felt. Side note: a bunch of guys starting adding me. I was getting hundreds of friend request a day from guys. They started liking and messaging me. He wasn't to happy about that at all. About a month later he had his Facebook logged into my phone and saw that he had poked several females. Before bringing up what he did I asked him what poking meant to him. He said poking was a form a trying to get someone's attention and talk. So I broke up with him. We got back together but obviously I am still working on the trust. Moral of the story is to just investigate and ask questions. The truth will soon rise.

[Anonymous]

I don't know what happened to the good old days of common courtesy. The lines have gotten very blurred.

So, hey, if he is does not flirt with other girls on FB or off, I would take some consideration to the type of photos he is "liking". If they are bikini shots or look-at-my-exposed-body-part pics designed to make a girl look like an attention whore, I would tell him that it makes me uncomfortable. Put it this way, would he be okay with you "liking" shots of shirtless guys showing their six-packs and flexing their pecs. Guys can post attention whore pics too.

I dated a guy who had a history of being unfaithful but swore he was reformed. Well, sorry, but he was just playing with fire when he collected all the hot girls he could for friends on FB and starting liking their photos. He would have a few drinks and send messages that crossed the line, later trying to play it off like it was no big thing. I do think some men are up to no good and this can be part of multiple things they do. Up to you to look at the entire picture and draw you conclusions.

[catnip28]

What if a guy you've been crushing on for a few weeks, and it's been reciprocated from him too (we definitely meet on an emotional/mental level very deeply, and as conversationalists we hit it off) but he "likes" other women's fb photographs (whether they're 'hot' or 'cute' photos of themselves, or even stuff of interest they post, like articles etc.) but NEVER EVER "likes" mine? I'm not up myself at all but I can say I'm not ugly (I'm a known model/actress. He's a highly acclaimed writer/filmmaker). I'm not on fb much and don't like to get caught up with all the fb stuff and I don't need validation of my life to other people, but I must admit this confuses me. Like once, I posted one really nice photo of myself (I got comments like, "smouldering", "smok'n", "gorgeous", "elegant" (god! it's embarrassing) and he definitely saw the photo when it was doing the rounds but still chose not to "Like" it and instead shot me through an email exactly when it was in everyone's feed. So, he's not my boyfriend as such, and I don't get jealous of his "Liking" other women's posts. It's just that he seems free to "Like" theirs (he never leaves comments on them) but never ever "likes" anything of mine. He stays distant from me on social media.

[Lilmeri99]

Girl same shit happening to me here

[Anonymous]

The other day my boyfriend invited me out for his birthday and there was a pretty girl there, totally my bf's 'type', Sarah. She was super nice to me, and I was nice to her back and we had a pleasant conversation. My boyfriend said his roommate Jeff is after Sarah, but my gut is churning a little. I looked up on FB and it turns out my boyfriend is FB friends.

1. She wrote on his wall the other day and he didn't respond back publicly below in the comments, so I'm thinking he wrote her back to her inbox.

2. She put a picture up on her wall and my boyfriend was one of the 'likes', funny his roommate Jeff didn't like it yet. After all, isn't Jeff the interested party?

I feel fishy about the whole thing so I did the only thing I can think of doing - I just friend requested her now on FB. That's the nice thing about friending someone, it looks like an innocent friending. After all, I friended other people from my boyfriend's birthday party that night, and those were totally innocent friend requests as well.

If they both have nothing to hide from me, then they will have no problem being 'mutual friends' with me.

And eventually like anything in life, the truth comes out in the wash eventually.

[Anonymous]

it's bad form for sure. it's not technically "wrong" kinda like if you were checking out other guys with him sitting right there..."hey baby I'm just looking what's the harm?" ehhhhh I don't like that it just shows how uninvested he is in the relationship imo

guys answering who think this shouldn't be a big deal to girls take notice cause... IT IS... even if it sounds stupid to you and it shows a lack of respect for your woman I'm just telling you that's how she will see it whether you mean it that way or not...so you thinking women are making a big deal out of nothing doesn't make it less annoying to us so this is a heads up to you just for future reference cause Facebook isn't going away lol

[Anonymous]

I'd be concerned. you're probably taking the relationship more seriously than he is. so I'd scale back from him a little bit and make him less of a priority. I didn't say dump him, but get to the point where you don't care about him liking other girls pics because you like other guys on your own..thats what I'm saying

[Heather102815]

What if he's liking pictures of girls and I am pregnant with his baby. I am already trying to get used to my body changing. I never had a belly. I've always had abs. Now I'm 22 weeks. I do feel like liking a "hot" girl's picture is basically complimenting them. It just infuriates me that he should be complimenting me, not these "other" girls. I am carrying his child that should be beautiful enough. I do feel like I am over reacting, but at the same time I dont. I just don't feel like it is right or fair to me.

[RedSmartie]

I think it depends on the photo and the girl.

If it's a photo of a girl who looks pretty and nice, I'm not worried. If she's in a bikini and her junk is hanging out everywhere then I'm worried.

If it's a girl who he is just friends with, then it's okay. If it's a girl he had a thing for in the past, I would freak out a little.

But that's just me.

[toolt00l]

Yeah, that would bother a lot of people, but it's still probably not a big deal at all. Its reasons like this that made me get rid of my Facebook. Now no drama in relationships :D

[new0412]

My boyfriend does this and it absolutley kills me inside I've spoke to him before about it but he still continues to do it but what he says to me is if i wanted to be with those girls i would be which kinda makes me realise a little he wouldn't do the things he does for me or buy the things he does for me if he didn't love me, even though he must like about 40 different girls photos a day is really annoying and i hate it but there's nothing i can do i dont want to come across clingy or been paranoid all the time so i just have to let it slide, he says he wants to marry me and have future with me so that keeps me happy and i 100% trust him i just think its a guy thing they're totally different to us girls and its facebook im sure it was designed to ruin relationships haha, tbh id rather him like girls photo than cheat on me for definite, try not worry too much

[sisterray]

Facebook walls mean nothing. Facebook inboxes mean everything.

[Anonymous]

what kind of pictures? like poses and just default pics of girls? yea id say he is checking them out if he does it consistently, shows his mind is somewhere else and not focused on u...but if its once in a while its no big deal its probably his friends

[Anonymous]

Yeah that would bother me too.

Do the same and notice his reaction. I am not the "play games" type but in that case I would definitely do the same and see where it goes.

If he mentioned anything, I would simply point out to him that he does the same.

[Buzzed]

Liking a girls Facebook photo means nothing. I wouldn't think twice about liking a girls photo on Facebook and my girlfriend either about a guy. You are just worrying too much.

[Blobb]

Everybody clicks like on everything, it's like the most effortless way of saying: "I have seen this, and think it's accetable". Doesn't mean shiiiit.

[honeyltsme]

liking is no big deal unless he is a hypocrite

like a few guys pix that are similar in tone to what he likes and see if he's cool with that

[Anonymously7]

i don't think liking pics is a big deal. I "like" strangers pics and stuff all the time. if they're constantly writing messages on one anothers walls and paying compliments then I'd be concerned.

[Anonymous]

I don't think that liking photos is a big deal but if he starts paying them compliments then I think you can start being worried. I like pretty much all the photos that pop up on my newsfeed.

[huffman]

Of course you should be concerned! When my girlfriend liked another guys on Instagram, I was so mad! I tracked your likes with Snoopreport (https://snoopreport. com/en) and then told her I knew about all her likes. then she promised not to like other guys pictures, and everything got back to normal. So just tell your boyfriend how you feel

[AnaWryneck]

He's just liking a picture it's not like he's saying "Damn baby you're fucking hot!" The picture is probably pretty.. Unless it's like naked pics of girls he knows or can meet

[roadnottaken]

Honestly, as a female that would bother me a bit but I don't think its really a big deal. If he does leave them flirty messages I would be concerned, over all though I don't think its anything to worry about. Now on the other hand if he's just going through pictures of only females and likes nothing else I would say something but if its just here and there I would try not to fret so much. If you can trust him and he's done nothing to convince you otherwise you should have no worries :)

[rushthesand]

Why don't you like other guy's pictures and see what he thinks? If he acts all insecure, then you probably know the answer to your question